What is it Like to Work as a Dominatrix?

Some people believe that the rising popularity of domination occurred when the ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ books and movie were released. But I think that the fetish became popular when Rihanna released the song ‘S&M’, along with the music video where she’s wearing a pink latex uniform while throwing popcorn at people that were chained to the wall.

Dominatrix with handcuffs

The rise in female domination

To be honest, it’s not a secret that female domination is just as popular as normal sex, if you want to describe it in that way. I, for one, fantasise about handsome man kneeling down before me while kissing my black leather boots; I have a lot of erotic fantasies that I want to fulfill!

But I digress, there are more girls now than ever that want to get down and dirty in the thriving industry but don’t know how to pursue it. Nevertheless, not everyone can start out on top. In order to make a business or a career successful, you need to take a bit of time and let your skills grow if you want to become prolific in your favourite work sector, which is what a lot of professional dominatrixes have done!

Mistresses like Fraulein Silke, Spoilt Princess and Shirley Joy have managed to get every single client that they have encountered to run back to them for more of their exceptional domination services. Whenever a woman who wants to become an independent mistress looks at the work of many successful dommes, she couldn’t help but ponder how the fiery ladies have climbed their way up the ladder to become the dominatrixes that they are today.

What made them want to become dominas in the first place? What are all the different kinds of services that a dominant lady would provide? What are the pros and cons when you take on the role of a hot mistress?

‘You’re either dominant or not’

Fräulein Silke always enjoys dominating men in both her work and personal life; the urge to be a feisty woman has always been in her blood. The German mistress started to notice that she has always been bossier than the other girls that she used to be surrounded by, but that personality aspect grew and developed as time went by.

As she grew older, her dominant side became more present in her daily life, which made her want to learn the ropes. Many years later, Miss Silke felt that she couldn’t enjoy a job if the occupation title wasn’t called ‘dominatrix’, which made her decide to advertise her skills and services on Escort Ireland; nature seemed to have taken its course.

“I’ve always liked to be the boss.” Miss Silke told me. “As I matured in age, the urge to dominate men increased gradually.”

After developing the expertise and talent that’s required to make submissive men weak at the knees, Miss Silke began to polish her profession and specializes her and talent in kinky activities such as dog training, face sitting, bondage and cock & ball torture. When a sub receives satisfaction from his domme, the mistress cannot help but experience pleasure when she’s being sadistic.

“There is nothing better than one of my clients giving me a foot massage” said Miss Silke. “Providing a service that revolves around foot fetishes is actually one of my favourite skills…other than bondage and CBT.”

To Fraulein Silk, what makes the job worth working is that its positive aspects weigh out its negative ones. Luckily for the German dominatrix, she has experienced very few disadvantages and a lot of advantages.

“I’ve always had reliable clients, who know what they want when they encounter me.” Miss Silke told me.

She’s had her fair share of time wasters that weren’t sure whether they want to experience the mistress’s sexual wrath, but most of the time, Miss Silke’s most reliable clients always go running back to her. While she was training to be a professional dominatrix, Fraulein Silke learned that you not only need to be physically able to work as a domme, you need to have the mentality to make men submit to your will.

Still, she finds it very difficult to think of some advice to give to other budding mistresses, but I felt that her last sentence was sufficient enough to be classed as guidance.

“You’re either dominant or not.”

You can’t say fairer than that.

‘Keep your personal life secret’

After a couple of years of working in the sex industry, Spoilt Princess has become quite popular amongst the men who want nothing more than to be ordered to give financial dominatrixes money and gifts. While speaking to her over the phone, I couldn’t help but think that her voice sounded as sweet as sugar, but I know for a fact that she isn’t as sweet when she told me about the services that she provides to her clients!

For Spoilt Princess, her fascination with domination didn’t occur until her old boyfriend introduced her to the world of BDSM. As his urge to be her paypig increased, so did the Irish vixen’s desire to experience the power exchange between a man and a woman. Like unlocking a gate and leaving it open, Petite Princess wanted more and more experiences in domination and began to advertise kinky services of her own.

“This is what I love about Escort Ireland.” Said the lovely mistress. “There are a lot of clients on the site that enjoy being paypigs. They’re not as stupid as a lot of people would think, most of the punters I encounter are wealthy businessmen who are very smart and know what they want.”

Since female domination is a big field to play on, Spoilt Princess wanted to find a way to stand out from the crowd. She wanted to develop a skill that would be beneficial to her popularity and her personal life, which ended up being financial domination. Of course, she also has the skills to perform in webcam sessions and video clips, but she has had more fun in taking money from men while insulting them at the same time.

“It’s very entertaining for me to be a financial dominatrix.” Spoilt Princess spoke to me. “I will always remember the one meeting where a client called me for an ATM cash-meet. I told him how much I wanted out of his account and I met him immediately to take it from his hands!”

Advertising herself as a financial dominatrix has proven to have helped her pay for her rent, bills and university tuition fees. Like many people who’ve went to university, I’ve struggled to keep paying for the rent, utilities and university supplies while I was living away from home in my first year. I told Spoilt Princess about an old partner of mine whose friend managed to pay all of her university fees by stripping and pole dancing.

That is the advantage Spoilt Princess experiences while advertising herself as a financial mistress. Depending on how good her paypigs are, the Irish fandom could end up having enough money to buy herself three bottles of champagne or a whole day at a luxurious spa! Even though Spoilt Princess has had a lot of positive experiences while being a fandom, there have been a few times where some meetings have not been as great as she had hoped for.

“I’ve had a lot of time wasters that pull out of a meeting after arranging it with them.” The foxy vixen told me. “Another disadvantage that I’ve experienced was that some of the clients expect to have sex in their encounters, when I’ve clearly stated to them that I only provide domination services.”

BDSM doesn’t have to include sex; it is a fetish that is supposed to stimulate the biggest sex organ that any person would have, the brain. Therefore, it’s considered normal that some women like Spoilt Princess don’t provide any sexual services to their clients. Sometimes, what the money mistress has to watch out for are punters who are looking to find themselves a girlfriend, which is definitely not on her agenda.

“I’ve had numerous amounts of clients texting me and calling me to hook up with them, which they should have been charged for, technically.” She mentioned to me. It’s a fair point.

Spoilt Princess has mentioned to me that many of her friends know that she’s a kinky dominatrix and are OK with that, but she felt that it was necessary, if not mandatory, that clients should not know what her real name is.

“Keep your personal life secret.”

That’s the advice that she’d give to girls who want to get involved in the female domination business, and I would totally agree with that.

‘A strap-on does not make you a dominatrix’

There are a lot of mistresses that believe that if you don’t follow the criteria of a dominant woman, then you don’t have what it takes to be a dominatrix. Shirley Joy definitely thinks that way; a fantastic Lithuanian domme that enjoys the thrill of pushing men to their limits with her exceptional domination skills.

“I always get turned on when I’m given the power to dominate men in a non-violent manner.” Said the fiery lady. “I love verbally abusing my clients, humiliating them and tying them up.”

While learning the bondage ropes herself from Youtube videos and advice columns on the internet, she started to specialise in services that gave her the steamy satisfaction that she wants. Furthermore, Shirley Joy realised that her specific services are what only true masochists want in a feisty session with her.

“If I were to choose a favourite service that I give to the punters, it would be watersports.” Joy mentioned to me. “I love it because it’s one of the greatest ways to humiliate men while receiving self-satisfaction at the same time.”

When it comes to the advantages and disadvantages of being a dominatrix, Shirley has only received pros in her experiences. The clients that she has encountered end up seeing her again and again for more of her lively, intense services. With the amount of positive reviews that was given from her previous punters, it wasn’t a surprise to me that many of her clients love to see her again and again.

Even though she adores being a dominatrix and being involved in the BDSM industry, she wants to point out to other girls that you need to have a specific knack in order to be a successful mistress. A woman would have to teach themselves the way and the lifestyle of a female dominatrix; watching videos to show them how to spank a punter, learning different vocabulary to throw verbal abuse at clients, and know how to make a man behave when he’s being disobedient.

“Wearing a strap-on doesn’t make you a dominatrix.” Shirley Joy firmly said to me. “There is more to the fetish than just humiliating men with harsh words and spanking pads; you need to have enough self confidence to stay standing in a session while your client is on his knees. Only dominant women can be dominant. ”

This is a clear statement that you don’t have the mindset for it, then you wouldn’t do well as a dominatrix.

For those who want to be a fiery mistress…

In this day and age, many beautiful girls that want to advertise themselves as dominatrixes that know how to push their clients to the limit, even if it would only be for a short period in their lifetime. But with any new business or career that a lady would want to pursue, she would need a bit of guidance that would help her get on the right track.

However, not everyone can be a dominatrix; Fraulein Silk, Petite Princess and Shirley Joy have said that themselves. You’d need to have the physical skills, the ideal words and the right mentality to give your clients what they want, and for you to get what you want.

Here on Escort Ireland, the directory encourages every sexy woman to feel and be liberated when it comes to advertising their kinky, steamy services on the site. There are many other blogs on the site that offer you helpful BDSM advice, like a few simple tips that can make you experience the best punishment sex that you’d ever have, alongside a beginners guide to domination.

So, if you’re pondering what you would look like, or how you would act as a dominatrix and you would like to pursue, then don’t forget to keep this article in your list of favourite things to read!

You can have a look at the dominatrixes profiles and other social media accounts right here:

Fraulein Silke: Profile on Escort Ireland

Spoilt Princess: @SpoiltprincessG via Twitter
@SpoiltPrincessGrace via Instagram

Shirley Joy: Escort Ireland Profile

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Zoe Jaspers has worked in the adult industry for over a year, but she has already gained a fantastic reputation in the field. As a writer, she is passionate about bringing the reader some of the most interesting blog content around.

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