Hot Tips To Get You Better Punishment Sex

Some people enjoy vanilla sex. They like the fact that sex is predictable. They know what they are getting, and they don’t have to deal with any pain from their partner. However, some of us want something more exciting. We don’t want to just fuck in the same positions all of the time. We want to be disciplined for the naughty things we have done, and that is why so many people like to explore the fun that is punishment sex.

A sexy blonde woman lying on a bed, ready for some punishment sex

There is nothing anywhere near as sexy as hearing your partner tell you how bad you have been, and that they are going to have to punish you. You want to do everything you can to please them and make it right, and sometimes the only thing that you can do is take your punishment like a champ.

Figuring out just what you want to try when it comes to punishment sex can be difficult, so here on the Escort Ireland blog we take a look at some of the hottest tips to give you better punishment sex.

Your favourite type of punishment

The first thing that you need to do is work out what kind of punishment you want to try. There are so many different ones out there that this is an essential first step if you want to have some fun.

Some like their punishment to be purely verbal. Verbal humiliation is a fun form of punishment that doesn’t require any physical pain, which can be a great way to start out if you aren’t too sure of what it is you want from your hot and steamy punishment sex. You might think that involves a lot of insults, but it doesn’t have to. It could just be that your partner tells you that they are disappointed in you.

When it comes to physical punishments, there is one tool you have to remember first and foremost. It is ridiculously easy to take things too far, and a safe word can really help to make sure that this just doesn’t happen.

Having a safe word is not, contrary to popular belief, a sign of weakness
. You can use it at any time during the fun, whether you are the one in control or not, to simply take a break and discuss. It gives you the chance to have an open and honest conversation, which can really work wonders during punishment sex.

Sexy phrases for verbal punishment

If you are starting out, verbal punishment is the best things that you can try. It helps to ease you into it, while letting you feel turned on about the things that your mistress or master is threatening you with. It will also help you figure out what it is you want from your punishment.

First, your partner will explain to you what it is that you have done wrong. They might say something like “you have displeased me, and I am going to punish you”. They could then describe what they want to do to you: “I am going to make you bend over and beg for me to spank you”.

Spanking not your thing? They might switch to verbal abuse. They might say that you are a “bad slave” or that you are nothing more than their “fuck toy”. Every insult they throw your way will turn you on and leave you wanting more.

Teasing and denying your needs

Punishment doesn’t always have to involve pain. For many of us it is a part of it, but there are plenty of hot punishments you can take that don’t involved it. You might hope to be tortured and then enjoy a little punishment sex afterwards, but being denied is the hottest thing you can do… and you partner doesn’t even have to touch you.

It is a more extreme version of tie and tease. You get put exactly where your partner wants you, and then they will do everything they can to make you horny and turned on, without touching the areas you really want them to.

Then, just as suddenly as it started, they will stop the fun. They will leave you wanting more and begging for it, making sure you don’t touch yourself at all. They might leave you for just a minute or maybe even five, but you will be desperate for them to give you what you want afterwards.

Getting hands on with spanking

When people think of punishment sex, their minds go straight to spanking. For some reason, it is the one thing that they think happens more for punishment, but for many into BDSM, it is more of a reward than a punishment.

However, if you do spanking right it can really seem like you are being disciplined for something you have done. That is why many will choose to tie up their partner first so that they cannot move and have no choice but to take it.

They might even make you count out loud with every single smack to your ass and thighs that they do. They will tell you to shout loudly with each one, sometimes even doing two in quick succession, to keep you on your toes.

More about punishment sex

If you really aren’t sure where to start when it comes to punishment sex, this guide should have some great tips for just some of the things that you should try. You don’t have to jump in at the deep end, as you can simply enjoy a little light punishment sex instead.

Are you a big fan of punishment, or do you like to keep things vanilla in the bedroom? What is the hottest thing that your partner has done to punish you?

Share your story with us by leaving a comment in the box below. Want to see what others are saying? Head to the Escort Ireland forum and join in the discussion there. Do you have the best punishment story?

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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