Guys and girls, I’m pretty sure that from all of the S&M songs Rihanna has released, and the Fifty Shades of Grey books that E.L. James has shamelessly sold, you would know what the difference is between a dominant and a submissive. However, since the BDSM fetish is slowly becoming a part of the mainstream sex culture, and that there are a lot of people that weren’t aware of the subculture before, I’ll explain it to you.
‘What? You like being a dom AND a sub?’
BDSM is a kink that involves a range of erotic activities that tie into bondage, domination, submission and sadomasochism. The people that get involved in these activities often establish themselves as either a Dom or Sub. A Dom is a person that has dominant aspects in their personality, and a Sub someone that has submissive aspects in their character.
Many guys and girls that may have had some experience in BDSM could state that a person can only be a dominant or a submissive; there is no in-between. Then again, there are people in the BDSM world that like being both a dominant and a submissive.
I’ve discussed this topic with some of my friends and most of them found the concept unbelievable, that there is no way that you could have both dominant and submissive tendencies. However, with the amount of discussions about the subject that you can find on forums like FetLife and CollarChat, you cannot say that the tendency to be both a dom and a sub doesn’t exist. The forum KinkTalk even has a lounge that’s dedicated to that subject.
So, is there a name for people that people that enjoy whipping and getting whipped? Yes, there is.
The term ‘Switch’ has been used on both BDSM forums and generic sites that people go on to ask the most bizarre, ridiculous, and interesting questions that you could think of. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, just go and have a look at the Yahoo! Answers page. It may sound like a very niche interest amongst both BDSM and non-BDSM lovers, but it’s actually more common than you think.
‘So, when does a ‘Switch’ switch?’
Now, when people establish themselves as Switches, it doesn’t mean that many they would suddenly change their characteristics during an encounter.
You don’t meet a guy that would start the session off as a fierce dominant, and then change into a weak submissive half an hour later. Moreover, you don’t encounter a girl that would begin the appointment as a fragile slave and turn into a feisty dominatrix after getting spanked multiple times.
There are Subs that do show their Doms a bad attitude, but they still remain as Subs; they’re called ‘Smart Ass Masochists’, Subs that deliberately defy the orders of their masters or mistress to receive more punishments from him or her. I have to let you guys know that a Smart Ass Masochist is not the same or similar to a Switch.
A Switch would normally show one aspect of their character to one person, and then a different personality to another. For example, a Switch could present herself as a dainty, little piggy to a person that has dominant tendencies, or a professional master, but then would change into a hard, intense dominatrix or mistress when having a session with a puny bitch.
‘How many people in the BDSM world are Switches?’
As I’ve mentioned before, there are more switches than you’d realise in the BDSM world. You see many people talking about it with others that want to know what the term is, and what the concept means on generic sites like Quora. A lot of these people would also state that you don’t have to choose between being a 100% dom or a 100% sub; you don’t have to choose between the red pill or the blue pill, as I would like to define it.
I, for one, can relate to this, not only from my experience but from a partner’s experience too. For me, it depends on my mood. I could enjoy being tied up on one night, and then enjoy tying up a slave on another night. I can’t say for myself which part of my character I like more because I enjoy BDSM sessions anyway. A previous partner that I have mentioned in my cock-and-ball torture article stated to me that he thoroughly enjoys being a slave, he does like to be a Dom every once in a while.
Nevertheless, the one thing that you can be certain about is that guys and girls that are part of the BDSM community would reassure you that being a Switch is normal.
Now, I’m interested to find out if there are any Irish Switches here on Escort Ireland. Would anyone of you like to share your experiences on the directory today? Don’t forget to leave your comments in the section below or on the community forum!
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