Women’s Secrets: Masturbation

My first boyfriend told me that the reason he fell in love with me was my weird honesty regarding…masturbation. We were just 17 years old when he asked me and a bunch of girls how we masturbate. I was the only one who didn’t act like a hypocrite. So, while the others rolled their eyes saying how gross masturbation is I laughed. Then, I told him that it depends on my mood, and on how much time I want to spend playing with myself.

A woman alone using her time for masturbation

I was not interested in shocking or making him fall for me since that was far from being the moment I fell from him. I just grew up with being honest. And I wasn’t doing anything wrong, so why pretend?

However, there are many women who want to keep masturbation a secret. As far as I noticed, they have different reasons for hiding this aspect of their lives. While I don’t feel the need to talk about how I offer myself multiple orgasms when I go out with my friends, I believe in being sincere about who we are.

In addition, I strongly believe that men should know how and what we do, in order to understand how to please us. Don’t get me wrong, but a guy who knows that you need foreplay when you are by yourself, he’ll know that it is not something you just want to see him doing. Just let him know you!

So, because I see no reason to keep masturbation hidden, here are a few secrets about women and how they play with their pussy!

Skip the Foreplay…Said No Woman Ever

Without saying that men are animals who are always horny, it is more difficult for a woman to get in the mood, even when it comes to masturbating. So, if you only need a kinky porn video to get it up and start rubbing it off, she might need a bit more than that in order to have an orgasm.

Now, I am not saying that every time she enjoys a little masturbation, a lady lights candles and drinks wine while massaging her body, but she needs to feel comfortable. Some women take long baths, some just close their eyes and try to use their imagination to forget about their daily worries.

Then, they start their foreplay. Whether it is playing with their breasts, or gently touching the area around their clit, many women need a soft foreplay before they start masturbating.

A Lady Always Has Her Own Secret Orgasm Technique

Now, you all know that women don’t always aim for an orgasm when they are having sex. The truth is that most women enjoy the act itself so much that they don’t think about its final moment. And this is what men should also do in order to achieve a greater pleasure than a few seconds of climaxing.

But when it comes to masturbation, all women have their personal orgasm technique. I am far from saying that there is one way for all women, but every lady knows the method that makes her reach an amazing orgasm.
I am pretty sure all gentlemen were waiting for me to describe a certain method. Well, if there was only one way, there would be only happy women in this world. However, there isn’t and the techniques are as diverse as the ladies are.

You know what that means don’t you? No, it doesn’t mean you won’t be able to do it, but it will take a bit of time since you have to get to know your lady’s body, desires, likes and dislikes.

For instance, some women like their clit directly stimulated, some are too sensitive to be into that. There are women who easily reach orgasm when you play with their clitoris and other ladies who need internal stimulation. However, there are many snobs but there are also women like me, who don’t want to keep their secret techniques…secret. So, how about asking your partner what she likes and how she does it?

There are few Problems Multiple Orgasms Can’t Solve

Even though women usually enjoy their time, choosing not to run after the orgasm…when they do reach it…they don’t stop after the first on. Most women go for more. Come on gentlemen don’t turn green! So what if women don’t have the same “refractory period” after climaxing like you do? So what if they can and they actually do go again?

If you think about it, we have to wait longer for an orgasm so I guess it’s fair to be able to have multiple ones. So yes, when they masturbate, women don’t finish after their first orgasm. Probably this is the way they discovered that unlike men women have the power of having multiple climaxes. Lucky us!

The joys of masturbation

These are only some of the secrets women prefer to keep hidden from other women, from men…from society. If you have something else to add to my list, please feel free to do it. I am always eager to find out more interesting and sexy information! Besides commenting in the box below you can also join our online community and talk about women’s secrets with other people who are interested in this subject! Have fun!

Anna Smith

Anna Smith

Anna Smith entered the adult industry in 2015. From that moment on, she has become one of the foremost writers around, using her sex industry expertise to bring her readers many fun and fact filled articles.

She is most well known for her sex advice pieces, yet also has a major interest in sexual health and other serious issues. However, this is all done with a quirky style that is unmistakably hers.

When she isn't working, Anna is a fitness fanatic, and enjoys going away with her partner for various weekend trips.
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