Who Knows More About Sex: Men Or Women?

Sex is a pretty big topic, and it is one we are constantly talking about. Whether it is the latest sex toy to hit the stores, the newest piece of legislation involving sex work, or it is our favourite sex positions to try out, we are always talking about it. Just look at the Escort Ireland forum! We can’t get enough of sex, and yet there is one question that we feel as though we absolutely need to be asking… just who knows more about sex?

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If you ask people whether men or women know more about sex, you will get some very mixed answers. Some believe that men are the ones who know what is going on in bed, as they had learnt and worked hard at it, while others believe it is the women who are the most knowledgeable when it comes to sex… so who does actually know the most about sex? Is it men? Is it women? Or are we all simply equal when it comes to the things we do and don’t know about sex?

Talking about sex

A lot of people are perfectly happy to talk about sex. We love gossiping about the latest study to have been released and just what it means for our sex lives, and we can’t get enough of talking about the latest experiences we have had in the bedroom. After all, sharing is caring, right?

However, a huge number of people change their mind when talking about sex in the bedroom. Sure, they might be happy to talk to their friends about the hot and sexy woman they are seeing, but then when they get into the bedroom, they clam up and don’t want to talk about it. For some reason, it is fine to talk about sex out of the bedroom, but not good to talk about what you like during sex when you are in it.

That doesn’t mean we all do it. A lot of people have learnt that the only way to get what they want in the bedroom is to ask for it. People aren’t mind readers, and unless you tell us what it is you want in the bedroom, we won’t have a clue. We are just blindly kissing, licking, and poking while you stay silent and hope that some divine intervention will tell us that what you really want is a finger in the ass while we fuck you with our mouth.

That said, there are still a lot of people who find it difficult to open up in the bedroom. They feel that talking about what they want is wrong, and of all of them it seems to be women who have a harder time talking about sex. They know what they want, but fear actually saying it out loud. Men, on the other hand, seem to be much more willing to admit it… but does that mean they know more about sex and what they want because they have had the chance to experiment and try new things?

Writing about sex

There are a lot of hot erotic stories out there for you to spend time reading and wanking over, and each of them gets more detailed than the last. Erotic stories are really hot at the moment, and we love reading them not only to let our imaginations go free while we touch ourselves, but also to get some new ideas.

Yet we don’t see that many male erotic story writers, and that seems pretty unusual. Most of the stories that you will read have been written by women, and an erotica publisher suggests that the reason for this is that women are simply better when it comes to writing about sex and all of the dirty details it entails. The Badlands Unlimited independent press is run by a man, and yet all of the erotic authors they publish are women.

Al Bedell, an author, states that “girls have more feelings and care more” and that this helps to create “more layers and complexity” in an erotic story. It seems that men tend to keep it very simple, while women are able to expand and make it even more enticing to read.

In my experience, women are definitely better at writing sex. The amount of poorly thought of sexts I have received from men telling me they are going to put their tongue in my pussy (which would do nothing) convinces me that what they think sounds good on paper isn’t what works in real life, but does that mean that we are better when it comes to actually having sex?

Experiences in bed

Of course, talking about sex and writing about sex are very definitely to the act itself. You might be able to sound amazing on paper, but then you get into the bedroom and find yourself fumbling around for the right thing to do and the right way to touch your partner.

However, trying to say who would be the most experienced in bed is tough. There have been plenty of reports throughout the years saying the average number of sex partners men and women have had, and these each suggest that men have slept with more people. This means they have more variety, but the statistics suggest women are with their partners for a lot longer, so just who has the most experience?

Honestly, we have absolutely no idea. As a woman I’d love to say that we women know more about sex, but I want to know what you think. Do you believe that men are the most knowledgeable about sex, or do you think that women have the edge?

Let us know in the comment box below or go and share your vote on the Escort Ireland forum! Tell us how you came to that conclusion and join in the discussion.

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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