All dates can be nerve-racking. You end up with so many worries that it can ruin your enjoyment of the date. What if you make a bad first impression? Will they actually like talking to you? How many topics of conversation should you have in reserve? What if there is no chemistry between you?
It can be even worse on an escort date. People think that it will be easier, since you’ve talked about the details before the date. Many punters find that they are actually more nervous about a date with an escort than they are at any other time.
If you’re struggling with nerves then you’re in the right place. I’ve got a few tips and tricks to help you handle the nerves and have the best experience of your life.
Tell the escort!
We don’t like to admit when we are nervous to others. We believe that admitting to our nerves means we are showing weakness. So we’ll clam up and pretend that everything is fine. If we act like everything is fine then they won’t notice that something is going on. At least that’s the theory.
In reality, others can tell. Escorts are especially good at picking up on behaviour. Your nerves could make you start acting shifty, which will put the escort on alert. They can ruin a date, especially if you aren’t upfront about it. This is why it is so important to tell your chosen companion about how you are feeling.
No, they won’t laugh at you. Simply saying to them “I feel a bit nervous” is all you need to do. Escorts are amazing at easing your worries and putting you at ease. Trust me on this. They’ll take their time to make you feel relaxed, and this can make your booking so much better. Honesty is the best policy so don’t hold anything back.
Take your time
I get nervous a lot, especially when I’m going to try something new. This nervousness gets worse if I am rushing to get somewhere or get through something. The more pressure I’m under and the bigger rush I’m in, the worse I feel. It is likely the same for you, which is why you should take your time.
When you are preparing for your date with an escort, give yourself plenty of time to get ready. Don’t hop in the shower long enough to get your body wet and hop back out again. Really take your time to relax yourself. It will make a massive difference to you if you aren’t rushing to get ready for your date. This means that you should be clean everywhere by the time you leave.
Another place you should take your time is when you are travelling to the location. I get that you might be eager to start the appointment as soon as possible, but rushing to get there is only going to make you sweaty, which will then make you more nervous. Give yourself plenty of time to get there so you don’t feel rushed and panicked.
Rationalise your worries
When your nerves get the better of you, you might find yourself spiralling or “catastrophising”. This is where you become so focused on how badly something could go that you end up in a rapid downward spiral. Suddenly it seems like it will be the end of the world and this can make you want to call the escort and cancel your date.
Don’t do that. Instead, try to rationalise your thoughts. This can be difficult when you are nervous and vulnerable, but doing so will really help. What is the worst that could happen if your date doesn’t go well? The escort might not want to see you again. It might suck, but there are also plenty of others escorts out there for you to spend some time with.
What’s the best that could happen? You have an amazing time, one that you would repeat again and again. By comparison, are things really that bad? Being rational about what could happen and what will most likely happen is a good way to rein your nerves.
Work off excess energy
When you are nervous you might act in a certain way. You might fidget, tap your feet, bite your nails. It could make you fold your arms across your chest a lot or give you a hard time focusing on one thing in particular. On a date, this isn’t a good look for you.
The chances are that your chosen escort will understand that you are nervous and will be more than willing to help you out. However, you can help yourself too by working off your excess energy. There are plenty of different ways that you can do this, and it all depends on your interests.
For me I tend to do one of three things. I might go for a run or head to the gym to physically work the energy off. I might do a little gaming to give my mind something different to focus on. When I feel particularly nervous I’ll do a lot of cleaning, which is great news for my flat mate. You’ll need to find what works for you, but it can really help to take the edge off.
How do you deal with your nerves?
We all deal with our nerves in different ways. The important thing to note is that feeling nervous is normal. You’ll find it easier to deal with this nervousness if you are honest with your chosen escort. They won’t laugh at you. In fact, they’ll probably help you get through those nerves.
Got some top tips of your own that you’d like to share? Tell me all about them in the comments below. Are you guilty of catastrophising like I am or have you got a good handle on your feelings?