There is often a bit of a difference between the amount of sex we want and the amount of sex we are getting. When you look at the difference it can be quite a shock, especially given how much people talk about sex. This makes us ask ourselves “are we having enough sex?”
It seems, like many things in life, the answer starts with “it depends”, and goes on to factor in a number of different things. So… are we having enough sex? How do you know? And if you aren’t, how do you get more?
How much sex is enough?
The amount of sex that is normal for you and your relationship will change and differ, depending on the level of your sex drive and just how much time you and your partner spend together. A number of couples in long-distance relationships will find that they have sex more frequently when they see each other, as they feel that they have to make up for lost time, while those in steady relationships fall out of the habit of sex.
So how much sex is enough? Medical Daily recently reported that the amount of sex you have each week is linked to your age, stating that the Kinsey Institute found that 18 to 29 year olds have sex twice a week, or 112 times a year.
30 to 39 year olds get it on 1.6 times a week, or 86 times a year, while 40 to 49 year olds have sex just 69 times a year it seems. This works out at about 1.3 sessions each week. These numbers don’t sound as good as many people were hoping, and if you are already falling under those numbers it could leave you feeling pretty shit.
Why aren’t we getting enough sex?
There are so many different reasons why we might not be getting enough sex. First of all, life has a habit of getting in the way. You might think that you have the perfect moment picked out for a romantic evening of pleasure, only to find that plans change.
It could even be something like stress getting to you. When you are stressed, your sex drive goes down. You don’t want it as much as usual, and so when you get into bed at night, you’ll just want to sleep instead of fucking your partner to orgasm.
As we get older, things change. We might find that, even without stress in our lives, our libidos are low. This can be caused by a number of different factors, from medication to health issues, and so it can sometimes feel like you just can’t win.
How can you get more?
Fed up of not getting enough sex? There are actually a number of different things you can do to change this. For a start, you can take a look at your own sex drive. Have you noticed a change? Do you no longer desire sex the way that you used to?
There are some things you might be able to do at home to change it. For example, you can work on de-stressing. A sensual massage can make a hell of a difference, as can hitting the gym and working out more. However, sometimes you will have to take the plunge and speak to your doctor. You may not want to, but it can really make the difference and help you come up with a solution.
Simply found that you don’t have the time? Create a sex schedule. Make time for sex. Agree with your partner on a sex date and time to fuck and don’t break it. You’ll find that you get really turned on in the build up to it, which makes it even more exciting, and you’ll actually get to enjoy sex again!
Sharing your tips and tricks
Okay, so the idea of scheduling sex might not exactly be the sexy tip you were hoping for, but if you feel as though you aren’t getting enough sex it can really help. It will make sure that both you and your partner set aside the time for sex that you deserve.
Have you ever had issues with the amount of sex you are getting? Perhaps you have a few tips and tricks of your own that you would like to share? You can share them easily by leaving a comment in the box below and telling us what you think.
Do you feel as though you are getting enough sex? Are you meeting the average number of times each week? Are you beating them? Tell us all about it!
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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