We often spend so much time focusing on how to please our partners, that we sometimes forget that we need to reap the benefits too. In order for you both to enhance your orgasms you need to pay attention to both of your needs. Despite what you may think, multitasking in bed is not as hard as it sounds – and it really could amplify your orgasms.
When you’re having sex, make yourself aware of what’s going on around you. It’s easy to get sucked into the immense pleasure and enjoyment, but there is a lot more to an orgasm than ejaculation and a power nap afterwards.
First of all, pay attention to the physical sensations. Listen to the noises around you; is she moaning? Are you moaning? Take the time to use your hands and explore your partner; tease, tickle and stroke listening out for what she really enjoys. Next, use your mouth to kiss, nibble and taste her body. Pay special attention to her pleasure areas such as the nape of her neck, thighs and nipples. If you’re feeling particular naughty, use a mirror. This will allow you both to watch each other during foreplay and penetration.
After you have spent the time exploring, get your partner to stimulate parts of your body too. The anus is very sensitive and where most men’s G-spots are found. While she is kissing you back, having her simply rub the outside of your anus, or gently massage your prostate; this will tip you over the edge. If the thought of anal touching doesn’t do it for you, why not get her to massage your testicles instead?
Fantasising can really enhance the sensations of sex and lead to be an overwhelming orgasmic release. Why not turn your fantasy in to reality? This can include role playing, getting your partner to dress up or a bit of light bondage. If your partner is willing, it can be very exciting. Start with her wearing high-heels and performing a strip tease, or go for some light hair pulling and spanking for an unforgettable orgasm.
Put those Muscles to Use
Whether it’s your pelvic or your thigh, clenching your muscles for a few seconds and then relaxing them will serve to your increase your orgasms. Obviously, we are not suggesting that you should hold your breath and squeeze your muscles for minutes, while your partner stares at you, petrified at the thought of what will happen next. Subtly clenching your muscles during foreplay and/or sex will provide great results for you both.
The main muscles to concentrate on are the muscles at the floor of your pelvis. These control spasms during climax, which is why both doctors and sex therapists recommend developing these in order to improve orgasm and reduce the chances of premature ejaculation. Exercises, known as Kegel exercises, have been developed to improve the strength of these muscles and subsequently increase the size and intensity of erections. A simple exercise to try is; tighten your pelvic muscle (the muscles you use to stop urination mid flow), hold for two seconds, then release. Repeat this twenty times, three times a day, gradually holding it tighter for longer. These exercises are easy to fit into every day routines; in the elevator, while brushing your teeth in the morning and so forth. The main thing is to keep at it; if these are done on a regular basis you will quickly feel the benefit.
Many guys are guilty of pumping away like maniacs when they’re about to orgasm and ejaculate. Instead, slow down when you feel yourself about to let go. Slow down the pace, and begin to focus on the sensations involved when your orgasm approaches. Slowing down will increase the sensations felt and it will also increase the power of your orgasm. While slowing down, also take the time to focus on your breathing and try to slow it down too. This will allow a more intense arousal to build up and your orgasm will become more satisfying for you both.
On the other hand, rapid breathing will increase your excitement, pushing you over the edge. Keep in mind that breathing patterns can intensify orgasms by increasing oxygen to the physiological processes involved in arousal. Experiment with different types of breathing to see which one works best for you. To begin with, try taking shallow breaths through your nose and exhale deeply through your mouth – this is said to diffuse muscular tension and intensify your orgasmic experience. Once you have done this a few times, move on to faster breathing techniques.
As with most things, experiment with different techniques to find what works best for you. Sometimes it’s the smallest changes, such as breathing and focusing on your senses that will lead to bigger and better things. For more tips, the Galway escorts are open minded and more than happy to share their advice over a coffee, or a glass of wine!