Remember my last BDSM article that I’ve written, which was about what you should do when your sub or slave gets upset during a session? Well, I want to provide you domination lovers more information about the purpose and concept of aftercare.
Like our interests, hobbies, and the type of shoes that we wear when we’re having a bar crawl, everybody needs a type of aftercare that is tailored to them. In fact, some people might not need aftercare after they’ve experienced a hard BDSM session.
Nevertheless, if I was a mistress, I would always make sure that my slaves would get some kind of aftercare, so they would feel relaxed when they’d go to sleep. To know what kind of aftercare your little piggies would need, you would have to figure out what kind of therapy they’d need, which are normally split into different categories.
Physical Aftercare
Obviously, physical aftercare is what you have to do as soon as you end the session, or when your sub/slave shouts out the safeword. You have to remove your sub from any bondage gear that you’ve attached him or her too. If the sub is wearing a blindfold, take it off. If the sub is wearing wrist and ankle cuffs, take them off. If the sub is wearing a butt plug, take it out.
Afterwards, you should wrap him or her in a warm, soft blanket; you don’t want your slave to catch a cold, do you? Then, you should provide your sub something physically comforting, like a long hug, or a spooning session, or soft strokes along the slave’s body; it all depends on what would soothe him or her.
Emotional Aftercare
Everything and anything that human experiences gets processed in the brain, and every human brain is different (duh?), which is the reason why I said every sub needs a different kind of aftercare. Now, emotional aftercare is a type of therapy that a slave would definitely need, but it can be hard to figure out exactly what kind of emotional remedy they need; no every partner wants to be cooed like a baby after they’ve been spanked multiple times.
Aside from whispering ‘There, there, my little kitty…’, you can reassure your sub that he or she is not a dirty slut, or that he or she should feel ashamed for loving the fetish. You can say that he or she is always needed and you will always make sure that you feel safe after every session. Another form of emotional aftercare is discussing what the good and bad points of the session were; I always do this with my dom to make our future encounters more enjoyable.
Not every master and mistress does this, but I think it would be a really good idea if you check up on your slave a couple of days after to make sure there aren’t lingering grudges after the session. Whether it would be a quick call, or a small Whatsapp message, your slave would definitely appreciate your timid concern for him or her.
Meditating Aftercare
I don’t think a lot of articles on the internet mention this kind of aftercare; this section is actually one I’ve decided to make up. In my definition, meditating aftercare is a blend of both physical and emotional therapy, but what makes it different to the two remedies is that it makes the slave reflect on the BDSM session that he or she experienced.
Ok, since meditating aftercare is something that I’ve made up and should give to your slave, how would you do it? I would give your submissive partner a soothing massage to help him or her relax; you can grab some fancy lavender oil or cool cream to rub on your piggy’s skin.
Not only would the slave feel physically relaxed, but it would also let him or her unwind. Some subs would rather sit in a corner and reflect on their thoughts alone, but if yours still wants some tender affection from you, then meditating aftercare is something that would put your partner at ease.
Have some coffee with your slave
As I’ve mentioned before, not everyone needs therapy after a BDSM encounter, and not every form of remedy is not a one-size-fits-all. Nevertheless, aftercare is something that every sub should have whenever they need it. Heck, if your sub needs a nice drink after the session, take him or her out to a lovely café next to you, and pay for your slave’s vanilla cappuccino that will make him or her feel all warm inside.
As a master or mistress, you have to know when to give your sub some space, but one thing that you have to make sure is that you don’t make him or her feel abandoned. So, go buy your good piggy a vanilla cappuccino and talk about the latest episode of ‘Stranger Things’.
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