Can We Live Happily Ever After Without Sex?

For a lot of people, sex is a pretty big deal to them. Even if they aren’t having a lot of it, they still want quality sex. However, it seems that a growing number of people are admitting that they could live happily ever after without sex.

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It seems that sex isn’t as high a priority for us now as it used to be. We no longer mind too much if we aren’t getting any, but can we really live without sex?

Nearly half aren’t interested

This idea comes from a study conducted by eHarmony, the dating website. They spoke to a number of their members (2,000 to be precise) to see how people felt about sex in their relationships. 20% of those surveyed stated that they didn’t look forward to sex with their partner.

Of those surveyed, 48% of them stated that they could “happily live without sex”. That’s nearly half of the participants! Almost half of the people involved had a “take it or leave it” attitude to sex, which isn’t how we believed people would feel.

For a lot of us, we feel that sex is important in a relationship. I don’t know about you, but I can’t imagine being in a relationship without sex. It is important to me and is something that I crave. Not having it just doesn’t seem like a good idea to me. I know what I want, and that is sex.

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Sexual incompatibility

Of course, eHarmony was not content to simply leave it there. They wanted to know why people thought that going without sex was a good idea. They had to find out what it was that made people go “no sex here, thank you very much” when the idea of it was mentioned during the survey.

It seemed that the biggest thing was that couples felt they simply weren’t sexually compatible. Of those surveyed, 37% said they wanted more sex than their partner. This contrast in libido can make it hard for couples to work together in the bedroom, as the one with the higher sexual desire often feels as though they are forcing the issue.

eHarmony also wanted to see if there was a difference in sex drive between men and women. 57% of men stated that they wanted sex more than their partner, which is a huge difference compared to women. Of the women surveyed, only 21% said that their sex drive was higher than their partner’s. Yikes!

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What makes us sexually incompatible?

There were so many other reasons that we might decide a life without sex is one that we want. In their survey, eHarmony found a huge range of answers, explaining just why couples felt that they weren’t sexually compatible with one another.

27% stated that their partner didn’t make enough effort. We’ve all been there and known what that is like. Medical problems also posed a challenge, as 20% stated that they impacted their sex lives and made it hard for them to enjoy sexual pleasure in the same way.

One of the most common answers in various forms was about communication. 18% said that their partner wouldn’t talk about their sexual desires. A further 17% felt that their partner wasn’t open to trying new things during sex, which can put a dampener on your sexual relationship. No wonder people aren’t too bothered about having sex!

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A life without sex

For some people, the challenges listed above are enough reason to just give up on sex altogether. They go “well then I’ll just go without sex”, but it isn’t so simple. In fact, a mismatched libido is really quite common. The key is finding a balance between you.

Communication is a big part of it. Since this was a large concern for many, it is surprising that more don’t try it. However, most of us don’t feel confident, especially not when talking about sex. It scares us, because what would happen if our partner rejects our views?

Do you think that you could manage a life without sex? I don’t think that I could. Let us know what you think by leaving a comment in the box below.

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Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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