Many of the sex acts we know and love go by different names. Oral sex isn’t often referred to as that. Typically we call the act giving a blowjob, cunnilingus, eating out, going down. There are so many different ways to refer to these sex acts, and sometimes you might not recognise an act by the name it is given.
Take queening for example. The chances are that you already know this act, and depending on your preferences when it comes to sex, it might be something you really love. To some people the name is new, but the act itself has been around for a long time.
Yet some websites and newspapers are now touting this act as the new sex trend or even the latest position you should try. No, queening isn’t new. It is, however, amazing. Here’s why we love this kinky act.
What does it mean?
Many of the names we use for sex acts usually give a bit of a hint about what it means. For example, when you say “going down on someone” you are typically going down their body until you find their sweet spot. It makes things clear. Sometimes, the acts aren’t quite so clear, given the name.
For some, queening of one of those acts. You’ll probably know it better as facesitting. Yes, it is simply where your female partner sits on your face while you eat them out.
So how did it get the name queening? It’s simple. If you sit on someone’s face, you become the queen. Their face is your throne and they can then worship you as the royalty that you are.
Not a new trend
The chances are that you’ll have seen a few websites lately talking about the latest trend in the world of sex, or the hottest sex position right now that everyone should try. Websites are going crazy for this ‘new craze’, raving that it is definitely the thing to try.
The problem is that being a queen during sex isn’t actually new. It has been around for a long time, and it is only just getting to the mainstream. They have only just discovered it, while most people are already at it and didn’t actually realise it.
New names are constantly appearing for sex acts. You might be convinced that you have come up with something new, but the chances are that it has already been done. You just don’t know it by that name.
The names and purposes of queening
Believe it or not, being a queen isn’t just about receiving oral sex. That might have been the original purpose for many people, but it has evolved into so much more than that, as you can tell by the many different names it has.
When referred to as facesitting, it tends to be all about sitting on someone’s face in order to receive oral, which is a hell of a lot of fun. With queening, it is more about body worship. Instead of simply pleasuring them, you are worshipping them with your tongue. You are giving them special treatment.
It can also be referred to as smothering. However, this again has a different meaning. As it implies, it isn’t purely for pleasure. It is about control, and effectively restricting your partner’s breathing. You choose when they are allowed to breathe, which is a turn on for a number of people.
Why isn’t it more popular?
Queening is a fantastic act to enjoy because it puts the woman in control over the oral she receives. If a certain type of stimulation is getting too much then she can simply stop it by lifting up slightly. If she wants to kink it up, she can lower herself to indulge in smothering, as long as her partner is consenting.
However, it has only really been gaining traction as a hot act in the last few years. There are a few different reasons for this. A lot of women feel self-conscious, as they imagine that this position is not at all flattering. Some of those being sat on also worry about being suffocated or having control taken away from them.
Others don’t like the fact that this position doesn’t seem very intimate. You can’t see your partner’s face when your own is buried in their cunt. Personally, I am a huge fan of it. I love being in control in this way! How do you feel about queening? Is it for you or do you prefer other kinky acts instead?
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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