Phone sex is a lot of fun to do, but how do you find a willing partner and what are you supposed to say? “Hey baby I wanna fuck you” just doesn’t cut it and you should a little bit foolish when you talk like that.
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As for what to say? We cover that in our guide below.
Take a breath and relax
Phone sex can be hard the first time. It can be even harder if you are too worried about what to say and how much of a fool you might make of yourself.
We all worry about that. Trying to talk dirty into a phone is a challenge, but there are some things you can do to make it that little bit easier.
Start by taking a deep breath. Let it out slowly and then find something to do that will relax you. Having a long hot shower, taking a walk, or even having a wank might be just what you need to let out that little bit of tension.
Obviously, if it takes you a while to get your hard-on back, a wank isn’t the best idea. However, if you’ve got time then it can really help. Otherwise, go for a shower and do something to take your mind off it.
Dress comfortably
A surprising amount of people dress up for phone sex. They find it easier to do when they are relaxed and at ease, or wearing clothes that are comfortable and loose enough to allow access to their rock hard dick.
When you’re enjoying phone sex with a sexy lady, you imagine them in lacy lingerie, right? Do the same for them. Wear something that makes you feel sexy and irresistible, but also something you feel really comfortable in.
Even a dressing gown can do the trick, if that is what you feel most at ease in.
Set a time
Setting a time for phone sex might feel a little strange. The best kind of sex is usually spontaneous, but it will help to make sure you are both in the mood for it when it happens.
Set aside a time when you are both free and haven’t got to rush off anywhere for appointments. In the evening, when you are winding down after a hectic day at work, might be the best time for you, but check with your partner. They might be busy then.
Having a specific time set also means you can take your time to get ready, knowing you will be speaking to your partner then. It can also help you get in the mood by anticipating what you will hear their sexy voice say.
What to say?
Thinking of what to say during phone sex might seem tricky, but there are some easy rules to remember.
Try to keep things simple. Don’t go over the top explaining exactly what you are wearing or what you are wearing or what your day has been like. If you are going to go into detail, make it about exactly what you are going to do to them, instead of what you have done.
Start off slowly. Ask them how they are and tell them that you miss them. You can then move on to what they are wearing, if they say they are horny, and ask them what thought has made them feel that way.
Establish the talking rules. You don’t want to be the one doing all of the talking, and you also don’t want to be the one sitting there just whacking one off while you wait for your partner to breathe. Talk to them beforehand and establish just what you want from the session. If you are both happy for you to sit and listen, you should know this before you go into it.
To wank or not to wank?
While a lot of people do, masturbating during phone sex isn’t a must. If you feel the urge to tug one off while your partner is describing how she’d slowly slip the head of your cock into her mouth, feel free to. If not, you don’t have to.
It is purely a preference, but many people feel it really enhances the experience if they do masturbate or use some toys during phone sex.
Do you enjoy phone sex? What are your favourite things to say or hear during it? Let us know by writing in the comment box below, or head to the Escort Ireland forum and share your favourite ones there.
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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