I Came Too Quickly! Now What Do I Do?

We’d all love to be sex gods and goddesses in the bedroom. However, that isn’t always the case. Sometimes our stamina and skills don’t match up to our desires. It might be that we simply don’t know what to do to make our partner feel good, or that we find we came too quickly during sex.

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This is one of the most common problems in the bedroom, and it can leave you and your partner feeling pretty rubbish. However, there are plenty of things you can do afterwards to make the situation ten times better. Not sure how? Here’s our guide of what you can do.

I came too quickly! Now what?

It has happened to everyone at some point in their lives. No matter what you do or what you think about, your orgasm comes a little too quickly and ends up ruining the moment. You might have hoped to come together, or perhaps you are stuck in the thinking that sex ends when the man reaches orgasm.

Either way, this happens a lot. Even those in long-term relationships find that early orgasms are commonplace. There are so many different techniques you can try to help drag out your orgasm a little longer. Things like edging, the right condoms, and certain sex positions can help to delay you.

But that isn’t what this blog post is about. We are talking about what happens when you came too quickly and find yourself disappointed with the sex that you’ve had. What then? What can you do to make things better?

Oops, you came too quickly! Now what?
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Accept that it happened

Believe it or not, a lot of people like to act as though absolutely nothing went wrong. They try to fob it off as something that is supposed to go like that, even after all of the big talking that they have done. Sometimes it can be worse. They might be tempted to blame their partner and make them responsible for their orgasm in some way.

Needless to say, if you came too quickly during sex, don’t blame your partner and don’t bury your head in the sand. Accept that it happened. It makes it so much easier to deal with it and move on if you don’t make a ton of excuses or try blaming your partner.

Yes, it can be embarrassing. Thanks to TV shows and movies, reaching orgasm too soon as a man seems to have become the biggest sexual faux pas you can make. However, it isn’t if you handle it in the right way. There are far worse things, so

Don't deny it, accept it!
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Work on pleasing your partner

If you came too quickly, it is only really a problem if you feel that sex ends when your orgasm does. Otherwise, there isn’t a problem at all. After all, you can still focus on making your partner feel good!

It can take a little time to change your perception of when sex ends, but when you do, you’ll find that things are much more enjoyable. It won’t matter when you reach orgasm, and instead your focus will be on your partner. Make them feel good by showing off your many skills in the bedroom. Oral, fingering, or even a little BDSM if that is what they are into!

Of course, it is important to note that you shouldn’t put pressure on your partner to reach orgasm quickly just because you did. In fact, don’t try to force an orgasm at all. Your best bet is to simply take your time and enjoy it. If you enjoy what you are doing, they are more likely to feel good.

You can turn your attention to your partner to make them feel good
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Talk about it

Early orgasm only causes a problem if it is a regular thing and you find yourself stressed out over it. If you find that this is the case, the best thing you can do is talk about it. This could be to your partner or to your doctor.

Don’t put pressure on yourself to last longer if you don’t need to, and don’t try to blame your partner for it. It’ll only make things worse, so accept it, turn your attention to your partner, and talk to a professional if you feel the need.

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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