“Oh, that feels so good! Do that again!”“No one has ever made me come as hard as you can”
“Kiss me there… Lick every inch of me.”
“Lie back and shut up! I’m going to make you come until you can’t breathe.”
What went through your head when you read those lines? Did they do anything for you? Did they shock you or were they tame by your standards?
Dirty talk is not new. Couples have been using talk to arouse each other as long as humans have been on this planet. Can’t you just hear the cavewoman saying to her man after a day out hunting “(Grunt).. Love strong man… feel hard…(grunt, grunt)…give more…(grunt).” Or Adam saying, “Oh Eve, forget the apple… suck on this instead!”
So why do we do it? Using dirty talk is a great way to increase excitement before and during sex. It doesn’t have to be reserved for the bedroom although it shouldn’t really be public either. It can start hours or even days beforehand. The suggestive hint with body language, the slight touch, then a text message saying something like “It gives me goose bumps just by thinking what will I do to your body.” All of this builds anticipation and keeps you thinking of each other all day. Then when you do get together you are already turned on and ready for action.
Talking dirty can be one of the best ways to take your love life from good to mind-blowing but only if it is done right. How you talk dirty has more power than what you actually say. Your tone of voice plays a big role. The line “I’m your slave for the night. Tell me what you want” could sound very erotic if said in a deep, husky voice very slowly. However if you say the same line in a hurry and in a high pitched or nervous voice then it could backfire and make your partner burst out laughing. That could be the end of your big night right there. (Or the laughter might break the ice and help you both relax).
Remember to show respect to your partner by not using abusive words outside of the bedroom. Saying “You dirty little slut” might be a huge turn on for her during sex but an insult in everyday conversation. Make sure that you both know you are just having fun. Keep it in context and use words that come naturally to you.
Know what your partner wants and what their boundaries are. Watch, listen and learn. Don’t just presume your partner will like what you like in bed. Pay attention to the things that get the best reactions and also those that seem to turn be a turn off. If you are not sure, ask “How does that make you feel?
If you are in a new relationship, start slowly and gently. Try out a few milder phrases first and see what reaction you get. “It drives me crazy when you look at me that way.” “What a sweet sexy ass!” Or “Do you want me to…? How would you like it?” are good ways to get started.
As things heat up keep the sexy talk going. Get your partner to describe the sensations they are feeling as you slowly touch or kiss them all over. Does it feel tingly, hot, throbbing, warm and fuzzy or bloody amazing? Look them in the eye and tell them how it feels when they stroke your nipple or run their tongue over you. Use compliments when they do something you love to encourage them and tell them if you want them to go harder, softer, faster or slower.
Here are some soft core suggestions to get you started
You taste sooo good
Oh, that feels so good! Do that again!
You can have me any way you want…
Grab/lick/kiss my ….right now.
You’re making me so wet.
I want to taste you.
I love having your body on top of mine in bed. It feels amazing.
I can’t believe what you’re doing! Please don’t stop!
Do you want more? Here is is!
Just lie back and let me take care of business.
If you want to go a bit more hard core try these out
I want you to orgasm in my mouth.
You dominating me is such a turn on.
I want to … you with my hard …until you come all over me.
Tell me all the dirty little things you do when you masturbate, you naughty …. Tell me everything. Tell me how you play with yourself.
You’re my bitch. I adore how naughty you are. I love you.
Get on your hands and knees, babe… and wait like a good girl.
You like it when I spread my legs and take you in?
I love how big your cock gets when I talk to you like this.
Babe, you have to follow all my rules tonight. I’m in charge.
Do you like my juicy pussy/big dick? Describe it to me.
Let loose with these ones
You little slut, I’m going to fuck you till you can’t walk! Ready?
Please spank me – I’ve been very, very bad.
I’m so fuckin’ wet, bring your huge cock here right now.
I’m going to do you right now, honey. Your pussy… or your ass…?
I want you to suck out all the juices you put in me with your mouth.
Bite my neck and fuck me harder.
Tie me up and ride me harder.
Bring that sexy mouth of yours down here and lick me out.
I want you to come all over my face.
Don’t you dare come until I say you can!
If you want some more tips on dirty talk, why don’t you give one of the Dublin escorts a call and make an appointment? They are sure to have a few tips for you!
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