When Is Rough Sex Too Rough?

Getting carried away with sex can sometimes be one of the best things. You lose yourself in the moment and just fuck as hard and fast as you can, and when it is over you lie there feeling exhausted while still grinning like an idiot over the passionate fucking you’ve just had.

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Sometimes though you might have someone saying that they like it rough and be left wondering what exactly rough means to them. Here on Escort Ireland we take a look at what rough sex could mean, and just what might be taking things a little too far.

Definition of rough sex

The problem with this question is that rough sex is pretty hard to define. What one person might see as rough, another might see as a little bit of fun that could be taken further. However, when someone says they want rough sex, what should you expect?

The most basic part of rough sex is that the partner is assertive. They want someone who is able to take control of the situation, to make sex go the way they want it to go. Being confident and knowing exactly what you want is a great way to start, as then they will know that you are in control and they can follow your lead. You should also not be afraid to tell them what you want, whether it is a blowjob or to take them from behind while you press them against the wall.

For many, rough sex can be something as simple as that, but others like to have the higher speed and more forceful thrusting while they are at it. They love the feeling of being dominated without it being degrading, and that seems to be what rough sex is to many. Of course, some feel that leaving marks is a part of rough sex, such as bruises, but for the majority of people it seems that leaving a mark of any kind is off limits.

Of course, if you are unsure the first thing you need to do is actually ask the person asking for rough sex what it is they want. Do they simply want you telling them what to do, or do they find the idea of you picking them up and throwing them on the bed so that you can fuck them to be the biggest turn on of them all?

The best of rough sex

If you have got a partner interested in rough sex and find you’re having trouble thinking of something fresh to do other than ordering them around and fucking them hard, it can be hard to come up with something different. Well, we might have a few suggestions to keep you going.

One of the hottest things that a man has ever done to me is pick me up and throw me onto the bed. It might sound like a simple thing, but the feeling of those arms holding on to you tight before they put you on the bed is a big turn on, and when you do get to the bed you are left with no uncertainty in your mind of what they want to do. The best thing is that doing this makes men feel great, as they get to show off a little before you get down to fucking.

Another simple move to make is to physically put them in the position you want them in. If the hot and sexy woman before you is sitting up and you want her lying on her back for you, pulling her down towards you is a great way to do it. Just make sure you are careful and don’t physically hurt them, as they can be a huge turn off.

Should your partner be fine with things getting a little bit physical and a little bit of pain involved, try biting. It could be gently biting their lip before you kiss them passionately, or nibbling on their neck and their erect nipples. Keep it gentle unless they beg for more, and even then don’t take it too far in case you really hurt them.

Your hands are a great tool to use during rough sex. You can use them to pin her own and hold her hips while you fuck her, or you could put your fingers in her hair to keep her in place while she uses her hot and wet mouth on your cock. Another great thing to do, especially if you are simply sticking to the hard and fast thrusts, is to put your hand over her mouth to keep her quiet. It means she can be as loud as she wants, which is a huge turn on.

Taking it too far

Of course, as with anything in the bedroom we can take it that little bit too far. With rough sex it is harder to figure out just what “too far” is, as one person might think that biting is more domination and not rough sex.

For some it is as simple as this: they want it to be hot and passionate, as though you cannot hold yourself back or wait to fuck them, but you won’t hurt them. They don’t want to be bruised, they don’t want to bleed, and they definitely don’t want to be scarred by what is happening.

If you do find that you have gone too far, you will usually be told by your partner. You can talk about what happened and you will learn where the line is, which will make it so much easier to stick to the stuff they love in the future. Otherwise you should keep experimenting and ask for what they want. The more they beg the hotter it can be.

Are you a fan of rough sex or do you like to keep things simple in the bedroom? Let us know in the comment box below, or tell us what rough sex means to you on the Escort Ireland forum.

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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