For men, the ultimate fantasy is giving their hot and sexy lady so much pleasure that she actually squirts. However, there are plenty of badly acted pornos and nay-sayers out there to suggest that squirting isn’t real, and that it is all fake.
On the other hand, you have plenty of women who insist that it is definitely 100% true and can be done, so just who do you believe? Can women really squirt, and if they can, how do you make them do it?
Squirting in porn
One of the first times I saw a woman “squirting” in porn was when a friend pulled up a video and said “have you seen this?!”. In the video were two women with sex toys lying on the floor. Underneath them were some long strips of cardboard with markings on to measure the distance.
If you haven’t figured it out by now, the cardboard was there so that we could clearly see just how far they could squirt.
It was, at the time, one of the most bizarre things I had ever seen. These women were “squirting” about 10 feet, which to me seemed very extreme. You can’t squirt that far, can you?
Of course, learning more about the female squirt has taught me one thing – squirting in porn is rarely a real squirt. Usually what they do to simulate a squirt is basically either put some water in their pussy to force out and make it seem like a squirt or they just pee. This has made lots of people question whether the squirt is a real thing or just something that women fake to try and turn their partner on.
Studies in squirting
It should come as no surprise to you that some scientists somewhere decided that we absolutely needed to know about squirting and just what it was. After all, they’ll research into pretty much anything, as we said last month on the Escort England blog. If it involves sex and they can get some sort of data from it, they will study it!
However, the problem with conducting a study into squirting is the scale of it. You need to find women who can squirt for a start, if it even exists, and so they tend to be really small scale studies.
There have been plenty of different ones throughout the years, most of them are published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, telling us if squirting exists and, if it does, what it is made of. Some are saying that it doesn’t exist as they have never seen it, while others are certain that their results show it does exist.
So according to science, squirting is real. This is why I love science. However, the researchers all seem divided as to what it is made of. Some studies tell us that it is piss, like we sometimes see in porn. Others tell us that “the fluid emitted during orgasm showed all the characteristics of prostate plasma and not urine”. So who knows what it is really made of. All we know is that it DOES exist!
Can any woman squirt?
A lot of the times that this question is asked, the answer given is almost always “yes”. There is the belief that, if you do the right things, every woman in the world is capable of squirting.
However, that isn’t the case. Deborah Sundahl is the leading expert in female ejaculation (yes, that is a real thing) and she has a huge variety of books for you to read and workshops for you to attend if you are really eager to learn more about it.
One of the key things she emphasises is that female ejaculation is “within reach for most women”. The key word obviously being ‘most’.
Unfortunately it seems that not every woman is capable of squirting, which is a shame because there are many out there who want to know what it is like. However, since “most” women will be able to squirt it seems a shame not to try and get them there, right?
How do you make a woman squirt?
There are loads of different tips on making a woman squirt, but you could easily spend hours on the internet trying to find the definitive guide. Even then you might find some suggestions that don’t match other things you’ve read… so how do you make a woman squirt?
One of the key things that all of the guides have in common is making her relaxed. Give her a nice long massage first to put her at ease, light some nice candles, and have some soft and soothing music in the background. When you are ready to move on to the main event, get her to lie back on the bed and prop her up with a pillow under her ass.
When it comes to squirting a lot of people think it has to do with the g-spot. They believe that, if you rub the g-spot long and hard enough, your partner will squirt all over you and lie there basking in the post-orgasm glow you have given them. However, some believe that the Skene’s gland is responsible for the squirt. It is thought to be near to or even a part of the g-spot, so stimulating it could lead to a squirt… but it could also not. Just be aware of that!
If you want to try making her squirt, the best technique is thought to be combining clit stimulation with g-spot. You don’t need to force her to orgasm as quickly as possible, simply work both of these spots slowly at the same time. Eventually she will reach orgasm and hopefully squirt! If not, you can always try again.
Do you believe that squirting is real or is it simply a myth? Let us know by leaving a comment on the Escort Ireland forum or in the comment box below.
Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.
In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.