It is safe to say, BDSM gets a pretty shitty press. Maybe it is the man (or woman) on the streets ignorance of what actually happens during an encounter. Let’s face it, unless you go looking for information on it, how would you know what really happens? You are left with the awful ’50 Shades of Grey’ books, which are a terrible reflection of the scene, and the press, who never have a positive article on it.
Take this story for example. Keiran Batten, 43, is alleged to have used a homemade torture device called the “shocker” on a 27-year-old victim after telling her she was boring in bed. It is said he put 240 volts through her vagina during a ‘BDSM’ session.
Batten, of Hitchin, Herts, is in court charged with sexually assaulting her in 2014 by clamping the crocodile clips of a home-made electrical device to her vagina.
‘Obsessed With Sadomasochism’
Prosecutor Simon Wilshire described Batten as “obsessed with sadomasochistic sexual practices” and having “dangerous sexual desires re bondage, sadism and restraint”.
It appears she once agreed to use it but asked him never to use it again as the pain was too intense. However, at a later date, when she was face down on the torture board, he strapped the clips to her labia and turned up the voltage.
The alleged victim said it felt like she was in a microwave.
“All you can hear is your ears going bang and everything in your body is hot.”
“I just caught my breath because you think you are going to die. I have never experienced anything so hideous in my life”, she said.
Batten denies the charges.
Now this has been plastered all over the internet by major online publications. This is what the general public see BDSM as. However, what the hell has this got to do with BDSM?
A False Perception
Presuming the case is as it has been reported (innocent until proven guilty) then this has nothing to do with BDSM. This SOUNDS like an abusive guy hurting his girlfriend.
We all know what real BDSM is like. It is a mutual interest in power and control, with set limits on how far things can. go. A safeword is employed so one partner really knows when the other has had enough, when the pain has become to intense.
Frying your partners genitalia without their permission couldn’t be the furthest thing away from what BDSM is about. It would be laughable if this kind of false reporting didn’t help skew societies view on the the people who really do engage in this type of fun. That is the part that makes it not funny at all.
As long as this is advertised as BDSM, people will find it hard to talk about it if it is one of their interests. Colleagues and friends will regard them as at best weird, at worst a sicko.
Until then, here is a guide into BDSM for beginners. We hope this is useful for anyone who is interested in trying it out, or who has just ventured onto our page.
We will watch how the case progresses with interest.
Since then, he has specialised in articles on the battle for equal rights for sex workers, sexual health, as well as bringing the readers fun news from around the world. He also has a major interest in LGBT rights, and is an active campaigner in this field.
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