One of the biggest questions that enter a person’s mind when they are cheating on their partners is whether they should admit it to them or not. In more cases than often, this is a moral decision. When you admit to cheating, the possibility of continuing the relationship is slim.
Obviously, knowing that you have been cheated on can be devastating for any person, and as a result, not only does it break their heart, it carries much deeper repercussions. For instance, the other person might find it very difficult to place their trust in anybody else after their break up with you, and they might never forgive you.
Depending upon the depth of your bond with that other person, there are several factors that you need to consider before you decide whether to tell them about your affairs or not. In order to help you better decide as to whether you should admit to cheating or not, here is a brief list of pros and cons:
It Creates a More Honest Atmosophere
When you are cheating on a person, your behavior towards them changes, especially if it is somebody you spend a lot of time with. Most people notice this from the get go, yet they say nothing about it, usually thinking that it is due to a result of excessive stress or worry from the relationship. You might call it a case of being ‘too trusting’, but if your partner is that way, then you don’t need to keep them under any illusions.
Obviously, there is going to be a lot of guilt involved in your confession, but at the very least, that other person will know that you’ve been doing things behind their back. They might never forgive you, but they are likely to appreciate your honesty for revealing the truth. And that can lead to you having a chance to recover.
It Clears your Conscience
For a lot of people, knowing that they are cheating on their partners, despite their trust, tends to take a pretty big toll on their conscience. A guilty conscience tends to set in, and people often find it difficult to to look their partner in the eye.
Living with a guilty conscience means that you are constantly agitated and irritated, and as a result, you are unable to be yourself. Obviously, when you are cheating on a partner, you are likely to be faced with a lot of tough decisions. More often than not, you will end up lying to your partner. And, that is usually a very wrong thing to do.
Because it tends to take a personal toll, clearing your guilty conscience is absolutely vital, and the only way by which you can do that is when you own up to your partner about your exploits.
Owning up Might give you Another Chance
Sure, if you were in an illicit relationship and finished with it without telling your partner, it can be said that you got off lucky, but in a larger number of scenarios, you are obviously run the risk of your partner finding out the truth. It is likely going to be a lot more troublesome for you if they find out from any other source than yourself, so if you own up, there is a chance that you may be forgiven.
On the other hand, if your partner finds out through another source, the chances of that happening are virtually zero. Therefore, keep in mind that if your partner truly loved you, they might end up forgiving you and giving you another chance. In any case, at least you will not end up feeling remorseful with a burden over your head about how you hurt them.
They are Likely to Leave you
Well, this one is obvious. After all, you can’t expect your partner to shower you with flowers when you admit to cheating on them. The chances of them leaving you are a lot more than you can imagine. In fact, in more than 90% of such cases, the person whose just been told that they were cheated upon is going to end up feeling used and very hurt, and they are likely going to walk out the door.
They may Embarrass you
Oh, this one is very difficult to take. For all the things you did in your illicit relationship, there are very high chances that your partner is going to embarrass you terribly when you own up (probably in front of others), so your exploits are likely going to be publicized on the big stage.
You might have seen it happen in the movies or dramas, but this is going to be much worse., as it affects you! They might throw things at you, attack you at a personal level and hurl abuse at you. Needless to say, there’s nothing you can do about it.
It Might affect you Personally
Most people, when they take stock of their actions, realize that what they have done is a horrible act. Cheating on somebody who has been loyal and faithful towards you is a dastardly act indeed, and in all honesty, you are likely to feel awful, especially when you see the pain you have caused.
Obviously, there’s nothing you can do about that, except live with what you have done, and ask for forgiveness from the person you cheated on.
Whether you admit to cheating or not, this is a really big decision. It can probably be said that if you are the kind of person who is going to get eaten up by cheating so much you need to bare your soul, maybe don’t cheat in the first place!
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