Tantric Sex: A Beginners Guide

Have you ever wondered what tantric sex is all about?

Tantric sex can help prolong your performance and increase arousal, resulting in better and more frequent orgasms. Tantric sex is not complicated either – it is simply a process of long lasting foreplay, delaying your orgasm through a variation of meditative techniques, breathing exercises and massage. Want to give it a go? Read our guide to Tantric sex and get ready to experience a whole new world of foreplay!

What is It?

Tantric sex is based on ancient Indian scriptures, these scriptures talk of nine chakras within the body that control our energy levels. It is said that connecting with these chakras can rid our bodies of pain and enhance our emotions and senses. This may sound like complete rubbish, but science has proven that these energy centres do exist. Through Tantric sex, we are able to activate these nine chakras and experience a total level of bliss.

The idea behind it might not necessarily make sense, or sound appealing. However, all foreplay is good foreplay and the more the better. So, we definitely recommend giving this a go in the name of fun and sexual exploration.

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Dedicating the Time to Sex

With our busy schedules we are dedicating less and less time to the bedroom. Tantric sex is a way of giving you and your partner a few hours to yourselves. It is said that to create an explosive sexual connection there must be no distractions; you must focus on your partner only and nothing else. So make the effort and time to connect with your partner and you will soon reap the benefits.

Setting the Mood

Tantric sex is about heightening all of your senses and enhancing your emotional state. Use scents, candles and music to stimulate your senses. Some use aphrodisiacs too such as oysters and chocolates to feed each other as part of the foreplay. Our article on the top aphrodisiacs has more suggestions of food to try in the bedroom, and the Kildare escorts have plenty of tips and ideas too! Try a variety of combinations until you find the balance that works for you.

The First Step

The first step is about feeling relaxed and comfortable in your surroundings. Once you are both ready, take it in turns to lightly stroke and tease your partner – this will tingle and awaken the nerves. Brush close to the points of heightened sensation like the nipples, but do not touch these areas yet. Don’t be afraid to experiment; try a variety of pressures and strokes. The aim is to slowly build each other to a peak without going the whole way. Take your time and this can prolong your sex and pleasure for hours!

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Heightening the Arousal

This move is not for everyone, but it can help increase your arousal. Sit down with your backs touching each other. Place one hand on your chest, and the other on your genitals and gently sway back and forth, while taking deep, long breaths. This requires practice and it’s better to slow down sooner than later during the early stages.

Merging the Sexual Energy

The above techniques have awoken and generated your sexual energy, and now it is time to merge these and create and intimate bond between you both. Turn to face each other and begin to massage your nipples, while still swaying back and forth as above. As you do this, place your other hand on your partners shoulder and get them to do the same. For the first time, your sexual energies will come in contact with each other. It is said that you will feel the sexual energy flowing through you in waves.

Moving on From Foreplay

Depending on how strong your will power is, foreplay can last anything from 40 minutes to 4 hours! Once you both feel ready, your partner should move on to your lap and sit facing you. As you penetrate her, continue to sway together in unison. Place your right hand on her back between her shoulder blades and use your left hand to support her. Your partner should place her hands in a similar way. This completes the path of sexual energy circulating between you and your partner. This beginner’s position is known as Maithuna, and is the ideal position for aligning the chakras and increasing the sexual energy between you both.

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Patience

The aim of Tantric sex is to delay your orgasm for as long as possible. So you are encouraged to pause each time you’re on the verge of climaxing, until you are both ready to orgasm together. Stay in the same position until both of your breathing and heart rate comes back to normal.

Tantic sex takes time to get to grips with and if you and you’re partner don’t last beyond 5 minutes (whether this is due to laughing fits or not), simply try again when you’re ready. Once you have mastered the basics, you are ready to move on to a whole range of other positions that work in a similar way. If Tantric sex doesn’t do it for you, why not focus on just extending foreplay with your partner. Set a time, maybe half an hour, and for that duration of time you are not allowed to penetrate your partner. This allows you both to get creative with your foreplay technique, and who knows what you’ll discover!

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Lara Mills

Lara Mills is a writer who has four years of sex industry expertise behind her. Since she entered the adult industry, she has worked on the Escort Advertising forums, before moving into her current role three years ago.

Since then she has gained a fine reputation with her blogs on sex advice, sexual health and amusing news stories from around the globe. She is also a campaigner for the rights of sex workers from all over the world.

In her spare time, Lara keeps herself active by going running, and is something of a film buff. She also loves to go travelling.
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