The Top Four Male and Female Fantasies

Here at Escort Ireland, we see many people with different fantasies. There are the ones that we all know, and there of course those which may be a little more surprising. One question I often get from friends is ‘what are the most common fantasies of the clients on your site?’. Well it isn’t one I can answer with certainty as what goes on in a meeting is none of our business. Still, it is fair to say that escorting mirrors life. People come here to fulfil the fantasies they have in the real world, but are possibly unable to actually do.

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This is why, to answer that question, it is good to look at studies in society. This is what makes the recent research by Dr Justin Lehmiller for his book ‘Tell Me What You Want’ so interesting. He interviewed 4,175 Americans about their sex lives in what is possibly the largest survey of sexual fantasies in the US to date. I see no reason why American fantasies would be any different to those in Ireland.

So, what were the results? Well, today we can bring you the top five fantasies that men and women have.

Without much further ado, here we go.

4) Open Relationships

79 per cent of men and 62 per cent of women had fantasised about being in an open relationship, where you are allowed to have sex with other people. 58% of people like the idea of watching their partner have sex with another person.


3) Public Sex

One of the biggest fantasies for women is public sex, where you risk getting caught. Some of the most popular places mentioned included the office, the park, and in a lift.



According to Lehmiller’s findings, 65 per cent of participants fantasised about receiving this kind of fun. It could take the form of spanking, biting or maybe even dripping hot wax.

Quite interestingly, women have these fantasies more frequently, with a vast proportion wanting to give up control to their male partner.



Top of the pops is the old favourite, the threesome. 89 per cent of those surveyed said they fantasised about having one.

Lehmiller also found that straight males were more likely to fantasise about having a threesome with two women. Straight women on the other hand have no preference as to the sex of the people involved.


As I said before, this is an American study, but when it comes to our desires, we have a tendency to follow the same kind of pattern irrespective of nationality. True, an escort is unlikely to do public sex because getting arrested is bad for business and rather stupid, but BDSM and threesomes are certainly some of the things that clients search for in an escort’s service list.

Why don’t you have a look to see which companions are offering these services today? Your next date could be a call away.

Martin Ward
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