How Do I Ask My Partner For A Threesome?

Our society has witnessed tremendous change in the last few decades. Technology aside, one of the major changes has to be the free attitude that society has developed towards sex.

The sexual revolution of the 1960s marked the beginning of an era in which sex was no longer being considered taboo. It is through this free and independent attitude that the concept of engaging in wild threesomes became a pleasurable reality.

Guy and two women in a threesome

Threesome – Know It Before You Do It!

A threesome is a form of group sex involving three people at the same time. If in case the sexual acts are focused on just one person, it is referred to as the gangbang of that person. It is a common act among swinging couples in which one person is often the main driving force and dictates the whole sexual experience, while the other two are known as the passive sexual partners.

A threesome may have any combination of genders. It could even be three women or three men at the same time. Most men however want to be engaged in a threesome with two other women with them being the driving force in the activity.

Women on the other hand usually prefer either two women or two men as their partners. Quite interesting!

A Sexual Fantasy for Many!

There is something desirable and deeply erotic about threesomes that make it a major part of sexual fantasies for most people.

Most men and even women dream about engaging in wild, thrilling sexual encounters with two members of the opposite sex. The whole idea of being completely overwhelmed by femininity is such a testosterone booster for guys that given a chance, they would jump at such an opportunity.

However, when it comes to women, there is still some room for doubt. Would most women too jump readily if presented with an opportunity? More importantly, how do you find that out?

Many Women Love Threesomes – You Better Believe It!

While some women may scoff at even the mention of a threesome, there are many who would love to try it out!

Most women who want to be in a threesome that either involves two guys or two girls, depending on their orientation. However, it is not uncommon to find straight women fantasizing about being in a threesome with two other bisexual women.

Men and women, both are turned on by the idea of engaging in a threesome. However, talking about this and mentioning this to your partner can cause quite a few butterflies in your stomach.

Well, if you are a man in a steady, happy relationship with a great woman, how do you put across this idea without seeming creepy? And what if you are a woman about to ask your partner? Let’s start with the former first:

Asking a Woman for a Threesome

Most men find it quite intimidating to ask their partner to take part in a threesome. They feel she might take it the wrong way and get angry. Even worse, what if she starts judging you by that? However, now that we know that threesomes is a sexual fantasy shared between both men and women, we can breathe a sigh of relief.

Man with two interracial seductive women prostitutes in bed

The topic of threesome should be brought about gently. Rather than simply stating it blatantly when you are drunk, it is a much better idea to ask about her sexual fantasies first.

As she begins to slowly open up about her fantasies and feelings, she naturally too would want you to do the same. It is then that you mention your fantasy of being involved in a threeway encounter. An open, honest discussion will not only make your relationship even beautiful, but would also give you an idea if your partner is ready for a threesome or not.

Once you have explored and talked about your fantasies, you can mention that you would love to see her with other women and thinking about that, really arouses you.

It is important to convey that the threesome is in no way going to affect your relationship, and even if she says no, you understand and respect her decision. Any sort of pressure tactics may actually work against you in the long term!

Your Man for a Threesome

Even though most men would love to be a part of threesome, they might not want their woman to be touched by another man, and that too in front of them. If your idea as a women of a threesome is to have another girl along with your male partner, most men would jump to the idea.

However, if you want another man along with your partner, you need to tread a bit more carefully.

A good rule of thumb would be to proceed any further only when you know that your partner is comfortable in her body and expresses her sexuality freely. If you know your man to be a bit shy or conservative, there is a good chance he will say no even though he might secretly want it.

Once again, you need to approach the topic at a slow pace. Talk about sexual fantasies, get him in a space where he is comfortable expressing his feelings and then talk about threesomes.

Guy with two women in a threesome

Get Set for Wild Times!

Before you engage in a threesome, it is important you review your relationship. Only when you find that there is lot of trust in your relationship and that both of you mutually respect each other, should you go ahead with it.

A sense of trust, love, understanding and respect will not only guarantee that your relationship remains unaffected after the encounter but would also ensure this: A wild, exhilarating and deeply arousing threesome!

And find me a guy who wouldn’t like that!

Martin Ward
Follow me

Martin Ward

Martin Ward is a well respected editor and writer with over five years experience in the adult industry. After stints in the Escort Advertising call centre and on the escort forum, he moved into the site editor position around three years ago.

Since then, he has specialised in articles on the battle for equal rights for sex workers, sexual health, as well as bringing the readers fun news from around the world. He also has a major interest in LGBT rights, and is an active campaigner in this field.

When he isn't fighting the good fight, he enjoys spending time with his girlfriend, and young daughter. He also enjoys reading and taking long walks.
Martin Ward
Follow me

Please log in here to leave a comment.