Dads . Fathers. Et al. xx

[Stephanie]

"Not to be confused with the Absentee Father, who flamboyantly disappoints, the Stealth Dad exceeds expectations without drawing attention to himself."

"In crisis, Stealth Dad lowers the volume. Stealth Dad doesn't speak up unless he can improve upon the silence."

"The Stealth Dad is at the end of a good run. Social media has made stealth unfashionable, with every utterance now an exhibition. And private family milestones have been outsourced to consultants. When I read about the parent hiring a coach to teach a kid to ride a bike, I mourned for the Stealth Dad."

"Strauss and Howe explain that, for Silents, "their solutions -- fairness, openness, due process, expertise -- reflect a lack of surefootedness, but also a keen sense of how and why humans fall short of grand civic plans or ideal moral standards. Silent appeals for change have seldom arisen from power or fury, but rather through a self-conscious humanity and tender social conscience."








What kind of man was your father ? xx



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[Curvaceous Kate]

I remember teaching my son to ride his bike, running while holding the bike up once we had taken the stabilisers off, picking him up and brushing him down, each time he fell off it (riding on grass is never so easy, but the landing is softer) and finally seeing him nervously staying up unassisted and riding forward.

The day we put the trampoline up in the back garden and he made me get on, so he could bounce me so hard I had jelly legs lol. That trampoline was the best thing I ever bought!

The day my brother gave him a razor for his 13th birthday. It hadn't even occurred to me that he might want to shave and he really did have bum fluff already on his chin, but no one was expecting him to use it to shave his legs!!!! I think a stealth dad may have been useful on that day.

I truly wish my son had a stealth dad, or any Dad of worth, it would have made me happy to see him have that bond and I know many of my clients are there for their children and it warms my heart to know that they are there for their children, even when relationships are not always great with the Mother's of the children.

Keep restoring my faith guys, I know you're out there, just wish my Son had that relationship with his Dad.

[dr love]

Was a tough man but was the generation he came from, but as I got older myself and had my own kids , only realised then the life skills he gave me .
Get on great with him and we love each other's company. Nice post Steph .: doc xxx

[Theomegaman]

I was brought up in the way he was. It was the way things were done then. Punishment was quick you did what you were told and if you failed ? tough. We did interact as father and son at times and within the family of course. But what I did with my life was up too me. I was fed , clothed , schooled , etc etc but at 18 I was out the door. I knew this from early. I had a job organised the day I left school and I have succeeded beyond anyone's including my own expectations since then. I am comfortable no worries happy and when I meet him now we get on like a house on fire. It's like the Johnny Cash song " a boy named sue " where the father named him this too make him tough and survive when I hear this song I can relate too it. He did what was expected the rest was up too me.

[Yamser]

get your father something he will remember and love this fathers day, .....................an escort

[dr love]

I was brought up in the way he was. It was the way things were done then. Punishment was quick you did what you were told and if you failed ? tough. We did interact as father and son at times and within the family of course. But what I did with my life was up too me. I was fed , clothed , schooled , etc etc but at 18 I was out the door. I knew this from early. I had a job organised the day I left school and I have succeeded beyond anyone's including my own expectations since then. I am comfortable no worries happy and when I meet him now we get on like a house on fire. It's like the Johnny Cash song " a boy named sue " where the father named him this too make him tough and survive when I hear this song I can relate too it. He did what was expected the rest was up too me.

Yep I can relate to that .: doc

[Dr. Ivory]

A slice of amateur psychololgy: As I grew up, I watched the disappointment and the anger my sisters displayed towards their father, a humble quiet kind man who had married a strong vivacious lively woman. He assumed that she could solve all their problems. He loved them quietly. They are all angry at him for being absent. They disregard him.

By contrast, I had lunch yesterday with a woman who adores a similarly kind, quiet father. I asked her if her father, to whom she described herself as close, understood her. "Not at all" she replied, with laughter as if that wasn't the point. He was her dad.

Both that woman yesterday who loved her sweet father and my own sisters whose father irritates them, for all his goodness, seem to me to have the same problem with men: they can hook up with a bastard or a doormat, but nothing in between.

Stealth dad may be a saint, but he walks a thin line with his daughter's welfare

[Theomegaman]

Yep I can relate to that .: doc

Tough times but good ones too in the end it turned out ok. And I think what I missed or didn't have I can now give in my life.

[dr love]

Tough times but good ones too in the end it turned out ok. And I think what I missed or didn't have I can now give in my life.

Agreed, a tough gig been a dad but very rewarding .: doc

[Theomegaman]

Agreed, a tough gig been a dad but very rewarding .: doc

The little things and the achievements you witness are the most rewarding as a Father. I had it tough but i turned out ok and i appreciate all I have and enjoy all I can give without question or thought. And I know the next generation hopefully will continue that.
Too all Fathers enjoy Father's Day this weekend