Being overweight = unhappy ?

[LuckyLu]

If people had a magic wand and could pick whatever body shape that their own body is actually reasonably capable of producing, would you choose your current body shape ?
If not , why haven't you changed it for the better ? Are you unhappy or is your morale just not high enough to motivate you ?
My guess is that were the prize to be sufficiently attractive , 90% of people would find it relatively easy to achieve a much better body shape and health.

You see it is complicated.

My weight goes up and down a lot but I am always around a size that I can live with and feel good about the way I look.

I tend to reward myself with food (you did well you can eat it) or cheer myself up with it (your day was shit, you deserve it).
It is a very dangerous approach. When I am down I can easily spiral out of control and I am done. Then I would have to catch up in the gym for months.
If you are seriously depressed you don't care that you live in filth, that you wear dirty clothes, that you smell and certainly you do not care how you look.

Not everyone can lift themselves up from that.
Sometimes looking good is a motivation in itself, but if you had been subjected to abuse or are severely depressed it is just not enough.

And yes, you do it to yourself. Sometimes because you want to punish yourself, sometimes because you just want to hide.