Tie and tease

Tie and tease

Tie and tease is a sexual activity that is very popular among couples. It involves one person being tied up or tied to something (such as a bed or a chair) and the other teasing the person as much as they can for as long as they can. The sessions can last anything from five minutes to several hours, and the teasing can be done in a variety of ways to ensure maximum pleasure, without reaching the big finale, is achieved. Many use the method to try and find where their sexual limits are and to help them push past them.

As with some other fetishes, tie and tease is one where it is best to establish a safe word before the session gets underway. If you feel at all uncomfortable with how the session is progressing, use it so that you can discuss what you want to change or what would help you feel more at ease during the session. For the ties, you can use anything to hand, though many people prefer to use professional restraints made for the task (such as under bed restraints or handcuffs) to give the session a bit more of a realistic feel. Your partner should check that the restraints feel okay where they are and adjust them if you need it.

Now comes the fun part. The teasing can be done in any manner of ways. Your partner may prefer to undress very slowly in front of you and watch you fight against the restraints to get your hands on them, or they may rub oils all over your body, just skimming past the one place you really want them to touch.

Remember, the teasing can go on for as long as you let it and want it to, and there does not need to be a happy ending. It can just be a session of teasing, with your partner seeing if they can drive you wild without getting to the final act. Make it clear to your partner what kind of tie-and-tease you are looking for, so that you can enjoy it as it happens.