What to do about my girlfriend

[pDiddy1]

I need some advice.

So I have being going out with this girl a few months now. I haven't had a serious relationship before her so this is all new to me ( i have been enjoying the single life). I have not come across many girls like her and i really like her. She is great craic and fun, easy to talk to, can talk to her like she is one of the guy (she isn't repulsed my by the stuff my friends post in our whatsapp group like other probably would be)and we get along very well and have sex a lot. She is 30 years old and has no kids.

The problem is the sex (penetration) is not very enjoyable for me. She is skinny and petite and has a great body which i find very attractive. But when we ride i cannot feel any sensation in my penis. Its like she has a huge vagina which is strange because she is only 4'11". Her vagina is very loose for some reason and i loose my erection after a while.

I am wondering what to cause of this looseness is and if it can be fixed with a cream like some people have said on the internet, or maybe that is just the shape of her vagina and there is nothing that can be done (trying to put square pegs into round holes) ?

I am average sized, 6.5 to 7 inches long and around 4.5 inchs in girth. I have been with a lot of other girls and escorts and (almost) never had any problems. Some girls were looser than others but it was most noticeable with the girls that had children.
I know she is on antidepressants at the moment so maybe that could be causing the looseness ?? I don't know what to do as i dont want to break up with her. Do i tell her or ask her to use the creams ? (Also, lots of sex doesnt cause it).

Any advice please ?

[Stephanie]

Kegels x

Google it : it’s great exercise for both men and women >>

For ladies : can tighten and strengthen them muscles inside ;

For men : can aid in prolonging erection , delaying ejaculation ,

having multiple orgasms (yes , men can have them too !! ) ;

all around a great thing .

Try it x x

[bmw528]

I need some advice.

So I have being going out with this girl a few months now. I haven't had a serious relationship before her so this is all new to me ( i have been enjoying the single life). I have not come across many girls like her and i really like her. She is great craic and fun, easy to talk to, can talk to her like she is one of the guy (she isn't repulsed my by the stuff my friends post in our whatsapp group like other probably would be)and we get along very well and have sex a lot. She is 30 years old and has no kids.

The problem is the sex (penetration) is not very enjoyable for me. She is skinny and petite and has a great body which i find very attractive. But when we ride i cannot feel any sensation in my penis. Its like she has a huge vagina which is strange because she is only 4'11". Her vagina is very loose for some reason and i loose my erection after a while.

I am wondering what to cause of this looseness is and if it can be fixed with a cream like some people have said on the internet, or maybe that is just the shape of her vagina and there is nothing that can be done (trying to put square pegs into round holes) ?

I am average sized, 6.5 to 7 inches long and around 4.5 inchs in girth. I have been with a lot of other girls and escorts and (almost) never had any problems. Some girls were looser than others but it was most noticeable with the girls that had children.
I know she is on antidepressants at the moment so maybe that could be causing the looseness ?? I don't know what to do as i dont want to break up with her. Do i tell her or ask her to use the creams ? (Also, lots of sex doesnt cause it).

Any advice please ?

If you like her that much can you not just accept her the way she is?

[Cassandra]

I need some advice.

So I have being going out with this girl a few months now. I haven't had a serious relationship before her so this is all new to me ( i have been enjoying the single life). I have not come across many girls like her and i really like her. She is great craic and fun, easy to talk to, can talk to her like she is one of the guy (she isn't repulsed my by the stuff my friends post in our whatsapp group like other probably would be)and we get along very well and have sex a lot. She is 30 years old and has no kids.

The problem is the sex (penetration) is not very enjoyable for me. She is skinny and petite and has a great body which i find very attractive. But when we ride i cannot feel any sensation in my penis. Its like she has a huge vagina which is strange because she is only 4'11". Her vagina is very loose for some reason and i loose my erection after a while.

I am wondering what to cause of this looseness is and if it can be fixed with a cream like some people have said on the internet, or maybe that is just the shape of her vagina and there is nothing that can be done (trying to put square pegs into round holes) ?

I am average sized, 6.5 to 7 inches long and around 4.5 inchs in girth. I have been with a lot of other girls and escorts and (almost) never had any problems. Some girls were looser than others but it was most noticeable with the girls that had children.
I know she is on antidepressants at the moment so maybe that could be causing the looseness ?? I don't know what to do as i dont want to break up with her. Do i tell her or ask her to use the creams ? (Also, lots of sex doesnt cause it).

Any advice please ?

Absolutely not. The way most of those creams work is great for short term but in the end worsen the issue.
Alot of the positions for girls dealing with big ole dick help here, like the astro world.
Alternatively, foreplay foreplay foreplay, there's so much more to sex than just penetration ya know?
Whether she just happens to be wide in the pelvic bowl (which shouldn't make a difference) or has recently miscarried (within 2 years) is beside the point. Get creative my dude.

[Forceuser]

because we couldn’t fix it.

Don't give up yet sarah
i'm sure if we all put our heads together we can figure this vagina out

[RayDonovan]

If you like her that much can you not just accept her the way she is?

It's a nice sentiment, but on a site where probably 80% of the customers are playing around on a wife or girlfriend, maybe it's a bit simplistic and harsh?
I'm not saying break up with her, but I kind of like that he wants to be proactive about it.
I've been in relationships where vaginas have felt tighter or looser, and tighter did make the sex feel so much better. Probably the same way as a nice sized thick cock feels better to a woman.
It's okay to say there's more to a relationship than sex, and more to be done by getting creative, foreplay, oral etc.
But if she's depressed already, it won't do much for her self esteem either if he loses his erection every time they have penetrative sex

[RayDonovan]

Fuck knows how you'd go about bringing any of this up with her but;



Kegel exercises
First, you need to identify your pelvic floor muscles. To do so, stop midstream while you’re peeing. If you succeed, you figured out the right muscles.

Once you do, follow these steps:

Pick a position for your exercises. Most people prefer lying on their back for Kegels.
Tighten your pelvic floor muscles. Hold the contraction for 5 seconds, relaxing for another 5 seconds.
Repeat this step at least 5 times in a row.
As you build up strength, increase the time to 10 seconds. Try not to tighten your thighs, abs, or butt during Kegels. Just focus on your pelvic floor.

For the best results, practice 3 sets of Kegels 5 to 10 times a day. You should see results within a few weeks.

Pelvic tilt exercises
To strengthen your vaginal muscles using a pelvic tilt exercise:

Stand with your shoulders and butt against a wall. Keep both of your knees soft.
Pull your bellybutton in toward your spine. When you do this, your back should flatten against the wall.
Tighten your bellybutton for 4 seconds, then release.
Do this 10 times, for up to 5 times a day.
Vaginal cones
You can also strengthen your pelvic floor muscles by using a vaginal cone. This is a weighted, tampon-sized object that you put in your vagina and hold.

Shop for vaginal cones.

To do this:

Insert the lightest cone into your vagina.
Squeeze your muscles. Hold it in place for about 15 minutes, twice a day.
Increase the weight of the cone you use as you become more successful in holding the cone in place in your vagina.
Neuromuscular electrical stimulation (NMES)
NMES can help strengthen your vaginal muscles by sending an electric current through your pelvic floor using a probe. The electrical stimulation will cause your pelvic floor muscles to contract and relax.

You can use a home NMES unit or have your doctor perform the treatment. A typical session lasts 20 minutes. You should do this once every four days, for a few weeks.




4. Vaginal weights.
Unlike "tightening" creams and pills, vaginal weights can definitely have benefits: When used correctly, they can make your Kegel practice easier and more fun. "Doing Kegels and pelvic floor exercises with weights are good for women because they can make you have stronger, more predictable and dependable orgasms," Hutcherson says. (You'll want to make sure that the weights you use aren't too heavy, and that you're using proper technique so that you don't injure yourself.) Hutcherson's emphasis on the pleasure you get on the other side of Kegels is important: Products like "18 Again" are so obviously marketed to capitalize on sexual insecurity and center cishet men's pleasure. If you do invest in a vaginal weight such as a yoni egg or Ben Wa Balls, do it for you.

5. Surgery.
Recent years have seen the rise of vaginal plastic surgery such as labiaplasty, which changes the size or shape of the lips around the vulva, and vaginoplasty, which is designed to "tighten" the vagina. A vaginoplasty is done by removing skin from inside the vagina and then suturing together the vaginal tissue. Labiaplasty can easily cost upwards of $4,000, while vaginoplasty can cost $5,000 and more.

While some people opt for vaginoplasties post-childbirth, Hutcherson says that surgery is really only needed after delivering if there a tear that goes through the muscles that support the vagina. "Childbirth is a natural process that’s been going on from the beginning of time," she points out. "It’s only recently that the surgical procedures have come up."

In the case of labiaplasty, which people usually have to reduce the size of their labia, some choose the surgery because the length or size of their labia is causing them serious discomfort. Often, though, people have the surgery because they've been made to feel self-conscious about their perfectly healthy genitals. When it comes to cosmetic procedures, whether it's Botox or a labiaplasty, do what makes you happy — but the choice to alter your body shouldn't be to please anyone else. Richmond says when a client expresses interest in an elective genital surgery, she shows them pictures that highlight the diversity and beauty of labia and makes sure they aren't comparing themselves to porn stars. "It’s not a realistic representation of vaginas," she says, adding that emulating the genitals shown in porn is like attempting to look exactly like a movie star (which, after all, is not only unnecessary but totally anxiety-provoking). So go forth and do your Kegels, but do them for you. And, if I may say so, I feel confident your vagina is beautiful the way it is.





There you go
I didn't look up penis enlargement surgery

[bmw528]

It's a nice sentiment, but on a site where probably 80% of the customers are playing around on a wife or girlfriend, maybe it's a bit simplistic and harsh?
I'm not saying break up with her, but I kind of like that he wants to be proactive about it.
I've been in relationships where vaginas have felt tighter or looser, and tighter did make the sex feel so much better. Probably the same way as a nice sized thick cock feels better to a woman.
It's okay to say there's more to a relationship than sex, and more to be done by getting creative, foreplay, oral etc.
But if she's depressed already, it won't do much for her self esteem either if he loses his erection every time they have penetrative sex

I dont see how its being harsh. He s just stated that he only knows this woman awhile . Surely theres a bit more to a relationship than just the sex.

[RayDonovan]

I dont see how its being harsh. He s just stated that he only knows this woman awhile . Surely theres a bit more to a relationship than just the sex.

Of course there is, I agree.
But don't you see it as a bit ironic to be giving that advice on this site?
Realistically, your advice would end up with him staying with her, having sex that neither of them enjoy, and him probably seeing escorts on the side.
No?

[bmw528]

Of course there is, I agree.
But don't you see it as a bit ironic to be giving that advice on this site?
Realistically, your advice would end up with him staying with her, having sex that neither of them enjoy, and him probably seeing escorts on the side.
No?

I am not giving him the advice. You are, however I think that he seems to be more worried about the sex more than anything else.