To ask or not?

[Mr Cuddles]

I used to enjoy leaving reviews, but I stopped when the honest and trustworthy leaders of our community decided to brand me a criminal.

Like leaving a written confession in public

[Dieve]

Hi Ella Bella
In my opinion asking someone for review is a beg for higher status which the escort may not merit.
I have plenty of favourites and regulars and so they do as well and yet they have no way near as many reviews as others. I havent even reviewed them myself ...its private.But they have plenty of regulars .
It's also so wrong when an escort texts you where is her review a few days after . It's so unprofessional and certainly not discreet .
A client should feel like it's a natural thing ,not forced upon. I've had an escort text me saying if you dont give me a review don't call me for a second meeting.
So be humble ,polite and a true courtesan....it is the most beautiful way to do business ...In any business that is...
See you soon when back in Dublin .x

Hi, Tony! I'm sure you noticed that your review for me is what inspired this thread. Asking for reviews is part of my job, my four awards suggest that I'm probably asking rightfully so. Reviews are the honest feedback of the quality of the service the client received, nothing out of the ordinary. If I'm content with the service I gave, I think it's natural to ask for a written feedback.

If he says he will, but it's not sent for a few days, then reminding him is what can guarantee that I receive it, since we all have our lives outside of punts, people may forget about it if they're busy.

If someone is worried about receiving texts from escorts at the wrong time, they should either let the escort know about this beforehand, or safeguard themselves accordingly. Most clients don't mind.

Sending reviews is not natural for some clients, as others mentioned previously. They often think that I have enough, their words may not matter that much, worried they might not be eloquent enough, might have had a bad experience when they were honest, or haven't bothered to log in for years, could be a lot of reasons, so some encouragement may go a long way.

You got offended that I asked for a review when I politely asked again online a few days after you had happily agreed in person, and refused to send one simply because I asked for it, claiming you already felt pressured in person, but still wanted to book me again. Your instruction was, not to ask for it. Like I said I always do, so if someone wants to force me into a submissive role and punishes me for speaking up for what I want, then I reserve the right to refuse further service for them. This is why I told you that I don't want to see you again. You acknowledged it, then posted a vengeful review. Shame on you.

My reply to your review is accessible from your profile, where I pretty much said the same in more details.

https://www.escort-ireland.com/user/MrTony.html

[Moocher]

The Who: clients, other escorts, self
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Some possible negative emotions/positions associated with an escort's request for a review and who could be holding them:

Being judged as (desperate, egotistical, weak, not knowing ones place) by; clients, other escorts

Holding power; clients, other escorts

Feelings that other escorts are "better than" or self is "better than" because they do or can operate in a particular way; clients, other escorts

Suffering a power imbalance: self

Being judged/feelings of being judged; self

Shame; self

Loss of pride; self

Loss of dignity; self

Fear (from various impacts but reviews related); self

Embarrassment; self

Weakness; self

Financial loss: self
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Do you want to work in a place where your coworkers are the subject of any of this? No. Is it easily remedied by removing the power that requesting a review has? Yes.

There is an awful lot in there ISB and perhaps not easy for many to understand same exactly.

Let's take one -- the power imbalance and from the standpoint of my being an 'ordinary decent client' and I know a few too. I certainly feel no sense of power advantage when I meet an escort, quite the contrary in fact. The overwhelming feeling is one of luck and gratitude to have spent time with a lovely woman , which for a whole host of reasons, is just not possible in civvy street. none of it is taken for granted or as of right.

[thumbles]

I allways wondered how you like the girl to proceed, I am not shy to offer or to give but i am shy to ask.

Do you like to be asked to leave a review or is bettet that girl leave it on your will?

I have 2 years in ireland and maybe i would have had more reviews if i was asking for them, of course i am happy and i appreciate when i recieve a review and also like to be surprised, i remember once last year i was very close to win escort of the month being the most reviewed of the month but not enough to win, maybe becouse i didnt force it and all the reviews was recieved by surprise and on peoples will without me to ask.

Some people dont leave review without being asked and some ask me if i want them to leave a review or if they are allowed to,but still i dont think i will be able to ask for it, of course i dont think any girl will get mad or upset if see good reviews about her thats why they have reviews open.
What are the factors that makes you leave a review without being asked for?
And there is something else that wanted to ask, why some of the guys give so many details in the review as how many orgasms they had or how deep was the kiss or where was the finish is kinda awkard to read such review.
Have a good weekend! You get to know me better with such writing and also i hope i did not offend anybody is something in my head since long time.

Hello Ella Bella I wouldn't get caught up on the reviews as I feel some do and some don't I don't feel it's important but nice too leave one and the lady can choose whether she wants it explicit most ppl would feel non explicit would be better and you have a lot of reviews so I would say it's not about being at the top of the tree and I wouldn't text anyone unless you know him personally I guess I wouldn't like a girl too ask me

[Thoreau]

The Who: clients, other escorts, self
___________________________________

Some possible negative emotions/positions associated with an escort's request for a review and who could be holding them:

Being judged as (desperate, egotistical, weak, not knowing ones place) by; clients, other escorts

Holding power; clients, other escorts

Feelings that other escorts are "better than" or self is "better than" because they do or can operate in a particular way; clients, other escorts

Suffering a power imbalance: self

Being judged/feelings of being judged; self

Shame; self

Loss of pride; self

Loss of dignity; self

Fear (from various impacts but reviews related); self

Embarrassment; self

Weakness; self

Financial loss: self
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Do you want to work in a place where your coworkers are the subject of any of this? No. Is it easily remedied by removing the power that requesting a review has? Yes.

Oh dear - any escorts reading this and understanding most of it would probably not bother at all - sorry!!!

[Irelandbeautyyy]

Hi, Tony! I'm sure you noticed that your review for me is what inspired this thread. Asking for reviews is part of my job, my four awards suggest that I'm probably asking rightfully so. Reviews are the honest feedback of the quality of the service the client received, nothing out of the ordinary. If I'm content with the service I gave, I think it's natural to ask for a written feedback.

If he says he will, but it's not sent for a few days, then reminding him is what can guarantee that I receive it, since we all have our lives outside of punts, people may forget about it if they're busy.

If someone is worried about receiving texts from escorts at the wrong time, they should either let the escort know about this beforehand, or safeguard themselves accordingly. Most clients don't mind.

Sending reviews is not natural for some clients, as others mentioned previously. They often think that I have enough, their words may not matter that much, worried they might not be eloquent enough, might have had a bad experience when they were honest, or haven't bothered to log in for years, could be a lot of reasons, so some encouragement may go a long way.

You got offended that I asked for a review when I politely asked again online a few days after you had happily agreed in person, and refused to send one simply because I asked for it, claiming you already felt pressured in person, but still wanted to book me again. Your instruction was, not to ask for it. Like I said I always do, so if someone wants to force me into a submissive role and punishes me for speaking up for what I want, then I reserve the right to refuse further service for them. This is why I told you that I don't want to see you again. You acknowledged it, then posted a vengeful review. Shame on you.

My reply to your review is accessible from your profile, where I pretty much said the same in more details.

https://www.escort-ireland.com/user/MrTony.html

Dieve iam not saying who is right. From my experience there is more people like MrTony. I mean people who don’t like to be asked about it later once again.

Many times a client can enjoy his appoitment but he doesn’t feel to text a review from some reason… i also met a few guys who answered me they can’t give me a review as their regular escort would be upset. There is more reasons why it’s not the best to ask for second time. You will see later he is not alone.

I also remember time when i loved to win EOTM in past. I know your feeling. But i think you can win EOTM without difficulty even if you loose some review… In the end it’s really only if guys are coming back in regular period as it’s the best feedback.

Take it easy

[IrishSarahBarra]

Let's take one -- the power imbalance and from the standpoint of my being an 'ordinary decent client' and I know a few too. I certainly feel no sense of power advantage when I meet an escort, quite the contrary in fact.

Of course. But would you truly know if there was one?

There are thousands and thousands of ordinary decent clients. These aren't feelings that any ordinary decent client is going to have or probably even think about.

It doesn't mean that there's not a power imbalance at times depending on who you're with and when. It also doesn't mean that there aren't plenty of indecent clients who thrive on the prospect of a power imbalance, subtly happy to have it or those who seek it out. Reviews are one small aspect of that.

We wouldn't even be having this conversation if everyone were quiet normal, happy hoppity people only thought good of others - there would be no shame attached to asking for reviews because we'd be so certain that no one would think bad of us.

Just to clarify, I'm not having a dig at normal clients (or any clients or escorts in particular). I'm just listing some negatives that could or do occur from giving heed to the notion that reviews shouldn't be asked for.

Most people I meet are more than lovely, and I have the greatest respect for my regulars who I could not have possibly met doing anything else.

I also meet dicks.

Yes, power imbalances do exist and reviews are weaponised.

I've come across this topic before so it's been my stance for years that I won't think badly of anyone asking for a review. I'll protect their right to do so and I'll encourage it if anything because it helps makes the weaker amongst us stronger while keeping them hidden.

[IrishSarahBarra]

Or loud, normal, happy hoppity people...

*quite

[BarryD]

You should ask if you want one. Anyone who has a problem with it isn't interested in you. Anyone who is interested in you won't have a problem with it. "Please review" isn't inquiring into their business, it's just a request.

All girls with huge number of reviews ask about them in some stage. Included me. There is really nothing bad. It’s working in every business. I would recommend this every girl if she does her work well and if she is planning to stay in this business longer. Make your name. Reviews are first step. But never push anyone and i also don’t recommend to text about it. It mostly has opposite effect.

Just because a review isn't given doesn't mean that they didn't have a good time. They could be just shy about letting everyone know their business

It's also so wrong when an escort texts you where is her review a few days after . It's so unprofessional and certainly not discreet .
A client should feel like it's a natural thing ,not forced upon.I've had an escort text me saying if you don't give me a review don't call me for a second meeting.

Hello Ella Bella I wouldn't get caught up on the reviews ... so I would say it's not about being at the top of the tree and I wouldn't text anyone unless you know him personally I guess I wouldn't like a girl too ask me

Many times a client can enjoy his appointment but he doesn’t feel to text a review… i also met a few guys who answered me they can’t give me a review as their regular escort would be upset. There is more reasons why it’s not the best to ask for second time. I also remember time when i loved to win EOTM in past. … In the end it’s really only if guys are coming back in regular period as it’s the best feedback.

^^^ good notes +1 ^^^

I always wondered how you like the girl to proceed, I am not shy to offer or to give but i am shy to ask.

Do you like to be asked to leave a review or is bettet that girl leave it on your will?

I have 2 years in ireland and maybe i would have had more reviews if i was asking for them, of course i am happy and i appreciate when i recieve a review and also like to be surprised, i remember once last year i was very close to win escort of the month being the most reviewed of the month but not enough to win, maybe becouse i didnt force it and all the reviews was recieved by surprise and on peoples will without me to ask.

Some people dont leave review without being asked and some ask me if i want them to leave a review or if they are allowed to,but still i dont think i will be able to ask for it, of course i dont think any girl will get mad or upset if see good reviews about her thats why they have reviews open.
What are the factors that makes you leave a review without being asked for?
And there is something else that wanted to ask, why some of the guys give so many details in the review as how many orgasms they had or how deep was the kiss or where was the finish is kinda awkard to read such review.
Have a good weekend! You get to know me better with such writing and also i hope i did not offend anybody is something in my head since long time.

good thread and you are a little hottie Ella (high on my list) if you really want something >> go after it << no doubt you can achieve anything you set your mind to.Others do.

From reading your posts, vids, rep. and feedback you are wonderful. As many have said, most of your clients don't probably have handles (guess for the main: privacy/anonymity reasons/no interest) so wouldn't get down over it. as Michelle said, "In the end it’s really only if guys are coming back in regular period as it’s the best feedback"

Personal opinion: no problem for an escort to ask for a review, wouldn't be even any harm to say you would like to be Escort of the Month. (Remember Selena announced it here in the past... and if I remember she won it some month after) ... but avoid following it up/pestering via comm... not a great look as Michelle noted could have the opposite effect and spread.

I stopped leaving reviews mainly for privacy/anonymity reasons, it leaves a trail and have seen and been made aware in the past of members asking ladies what such and such a member looks like and uncomfortable information posted here only a few weeks ago where a members visual description was posted.
+ some of the reviews members leave are complete cringe worthy which totally puts me off. Other sides, : wouldn't want a lady to feel any added pressure knowing my handle, so keep it out of the equation where possible. Some members expect a better service with a handle, not my style.

Last note: back to the great point Michelle made: "I also remember time when i loved to win EOTM in past. … In the end it’s really only if guys are coming back in regular period as it’s the best feedback." No doubts you have your regular clients but Best wishes : would be delighted to see you win sometime.

Explicitness? trying to be macho prob was opposite: wasn't able to get it up

[AmyTantraMassage]

The Who: clients, other escorts, self
___________________________________

Some possible negative emotions/positions associated with an escort's request for a review and who could be holding them:

Being judged as (desperate, egotistical, weak, not knowing ones place) by; clients, other escorts

Holding power; clients, other escorts

Feelings that other escorts are "better than" or self is "better than" because they do or can operate in a particular way; clients, other escorts

Suffering a power imbalance: self

Being judged/feelings of being judged; self

Shame; self

Loss of pride; self

Loss of dignity; self

Fear (from various impacts but reviews related); self

Embarrassment; self

Weakness; self

Financial loss: self
__________________

Do you want to work in a place where your coworkers are the subject of any of this? No. Is it easily remedied by removing the power that requesting a review has? Yes.

I can’t understand why escorts would judge those who ask. We’re in the most judged profession and know how terrible it feels that we can’t even be open with our loved ones. We should be more accepting of each other and how we choose to operate. Except those who charge way less. Ima stay judging those ones.