Shades of Cheating

[TommyH123]

If your dick ends up in the vicinity of a person other than your partner then it’s cheating, no shades of grey here, you are cheating or you’re not, don’t delude yourself, just ask yourself this question, “if I had to explain this to the wife would I get away with it”

[Irelandbeautyyy]

Cheating…

I think there is a physical cheating and a mental cheating. Everyone can look at this very individual… How i look at this from my personnal experience and under what i would sign myself like an escort as well?

I think a psyhical cheating is not the worst, there is a lot of reasons why is it happening. We can look at this only like a need. A lot of ladies have not interest about sex but rest of everything is perfect in relatinship. Of course there should be some conversation and later find a reason why… but if they can’t find any solution… Guys have a bigger need for it than ladies. And some of ladies have not understandement for a man. So its a clear he will looking for it with someone other… Its same when a woman gives a birth and she can’t have a sex some time…But does it mean that something? We are going for part two what is a mental cheating and what is the end of relationship from my view. This is a problem when we start to feel emotions with someone other. I guess the most ladies who are cheating have some emotions with that man. Of course not in every case. And iam also not a psychologist. But for man its mostly only need without any feelings.

I just want to say a mental cheating means for me ending… A psyhical cheating is happening very often a i would look at this more rationally. The most important is if we know who is the most important for us, with who we live our life, where is our home, about who we should care the most…

Its simmilar when some of my clients feel to be guilty. I always say iam nobody for them in comparison with their wife. Even i know i mean for them a lot. But iam not and never will be in same line like their wife. Its all about mindset.

I can forgive a physical cheating which wouldn’t be in long term as i think there are some emotions later. Its some other story with a paid company which should be proffesional. But what i can’t forgive forgive is a mental cheating. If there are emotions with someone other its a betrayal for me.

[64west]

Very well spoken. It’s a difficult topic and it’s often difficult for most women to see the men’s perspective.

Cheating is wrong. Don’t do it.
But if you look at the perspective of a 1hr more or less to release a feeling rather than becoming emotionally invested with another women (An Affair). Then Escorts are a healthy way under certain circumstances to get that “Sexual release” that over powers our simple minds.

[JennyIrish]

Cheating…

I think there is a physical cheating and a mental cheating. Everyone can look at this very individual… How i look at this from my personnal experience and under what i would sign myself like an escort as well?

I think a psyhical cheating is not the worst, there is a lot of reasons why is it happening. We can look at this only like a need. A lot of ladies have not interest about sex but rest of everything is perfect in relatinship. Of course there should be some conversation and later find a reason why… but if they can’t find any solution… Guys have a bigger need for it than ladies. And some of ladies have not understandement for a man. So its a clear he will looking for it with someone other… Its same when a woman gives a birth and she can’t have a sex some time…But does it mean that something? We are going for part two what is a mental cheating and what is the end of relationship from my view. This is a problem when we start to feel emotions with someone other. I guess the most ladies who are cheating have some emotions with that man. Of course not in every case. And iam also not a psychologist. But for man its mostly only need without any feelings.

I just want to say a mental cheating means for me ending… A psyhical cheating is happening very often a i would look at this more rationally. The most important is if we know who is the most important for us, with who we live our life, where is our home, about who we should care the most…

Its simmilar when some of my clients feel to be guilty. I always say iam nobody for them in comparison with their wife. Even i know i mean for them a lot. But iam not and never will be in same line like their wife. Its all about mindset.

I can forgive a physical cheating which wouldn’t be in long term as i think there are some emotions later. Its some other story with a paid company which should be proffesional. But what i can’t forgive forgive is a mental cheating. If there are emotions with someone other its a betrayal for me.

This is exactly my view as well Michelle. I have no doubt that my married clients love their wives, sex is just sex, I’m helping the client out, he’s helping me out . . . And unlike an affair there’s no emotions involved or no risk of me turning up on your doorstep to tell your wife that we are in love!!!!

It’s funny that society would frown more upon a man who sees an escort that one who has an affair, as a woman I’d be more devastated about a partner having an affair, did he have feelings for her, how did they get together etc etc

[64west]

This is exactly my view as well Michelle. I have no doubt that my married clients love their wives, sex is just sex, I’m helping the client out, he’s helping me out . . . And unlike an affair there’s no emotions involved or no risk of me turning up on your doorstep to tell your wife that we are in love!!!!

It’s funny that society would frown more upon a man who sees an escort that one who has an affair, as a woman I’d be more devastated about a partner having an affair, did he have feelings for her, how did they get together etc etc

Some threads recently tell a different story, clients catch feeling for you professionals
But the majority understands it’s no strings .. fun.

[Irelandbeautyyy]

And one more important note.

If you decide for a physical cheating, don’t forget to protect yourself and your wife. Don’t be stupid. I guess its also what your wife wouldn’t forgive you…

[TheFalcon]

Im fond of massages and also meeting ladies for coffee, sometimes a lady I met through here and mainly random women Ive met through life.

Does that make me a cheater, dont know-

[TommyH123]

This is exactly my view as well Michelle. I have no doubt that my married clients love their wives, sex is just sex, I’m helping the client out, he’s helping me out . . . And unlike an affair there’s no emotions involved or no risk of me turning up on your doorstep to tell your wife that we are in love!!!!

It’s funny that society would frown more upon a man who sees an escort that one who has an affair, as a woman I’d be more devastated about a partner having an affair, did he have feelings for her, how did they get together etc etc

Fun by the hour, monthly is the way to go, I get everything else I need at home

[anon361]

Stop kidding yourself, the minute you dial the number to any lady on this site be it for sex, a massage or whatever you're into you are cheating if you're in a relationship.
You can make yourself feel better by creating these BS imaginary boundaries you don't cross but when all is said and done, deep down we all know we're crossing that line.

[AmyTantraMassage]

Stop kidding yourself, the minute you dial the number to any lady on this site be it for sex, a massage or whatever you're into you are cheating if you're in a relationship.
You can make yourself feel better by creating these BS imaginary boundaries you don't cross but when all is said and done, deep down we all know we're crossing that line.

I have loads of couples, some of whom book in individually. In some cultures, like Japan, if it's a paid service, it's not cheating. With most Europeans, as long as it's not someone they both like it can come out of individual spending money (again, I've couples that only see me when together and the boundary is I'm not to book one without the other, not even for a professional massage). When I book clients, I speak 90% with the woman. She sets the pace and her comfort comes 1st, because she might go along with it to please him but a few days/weeks/months later....

For me, kissing is cheating. It's my love language so that's a hard rule. So is confiding in her, especially things he won't tell me, even if they're about me. I'm ok with sex, especially stuff I won't do (can not stand the texture of precum/cum in my mouth, WILL NEVER do anal so he can go to someone else) and same if he wants to go to an escort (it can't be someone we socialise with/know - again, emotional cheating possibility- one he might not be aware of). I love going to strip clubs and taking turns paying, I'm good going g to sex parties, love them. His pleasure will be my pleasure I LOVE watching. I HATE being lied to. Of he wants to go do something, tell me, don't lie, coz once I start questioning my trust for him.

As I'm always saying, just because you've found your fave meal, even if it's cooked with different flavours and textures sometimes, it's unfeasible and unhealthy to expect someone to always only eat the same meal. Mix it up. Make jambo or try something completely different as long as, should your fav meal stop being your fav meal, or it's not seasoned enough anymore or at all, or you need a break from it, honesty is paramount.

The problem with women in this country is, once they're with a guy, they somehow expect him to stop being attracted to other women. Or ignore the things she won't do but he likes. Women, we're mostly about imagination (it's why most of us love smut books
that and all kinks in it are 'safe', like how alpha wold zaddy can choke me as i cum, whereas irl, nah you ain't allowed to apply pressure, it's about hand placement .... whilst men are more visual. I can vividly imagine myself with Henry Cavill and if a guy can't handle that, because, then it's cheating too no?

So it's not and never about the action, it's about how your partner feels about said action.

Most women have low self esteem and blame low libido. Then when they've no interest, they literally ignore how they're partner still needs that. The physicality and connection and release of it all. Because if they do t acknowledge it... and that's beyond d selfish. Both parties are to blame because that should be discussed along with all future plans like kids, using a house etc. For a Catholic country, dunno why pre-marriage counselling was never mandatory.