The Ethics Of Escorting.

[Johnchef42]

Aww thank you

(When I'm not being "vacuous" (fargo ) and... when the other ones aren't posting )

What?! Ah you've heard one or two words of wisdom surely ...between the rides? a little?

Ah I have I suppose. Hopefully I'll hear more some time. Enjoy your bank holiday weekend. I'm heading off to the lovely town of Ourgate

[Johnchef42]

Darn. Sit on my face
Enjoy your week end babe!
Googling Ourgate...

It's just beyond my Front door

[Barney Rubble]

Phew I was afraid to look x

Ye see, I told ye it was a great post Sarah
But then again even when your posts make no sense to me whatsoever I still find them very entertaining (& sometimes totally hilarious )

[thewren]

Two types of clients. Bit of sex clients. Relationship clients.

Bit of sex clients. Sex is sex is sex is sex. It's grand. Bit of fun. Not going to feel used and abused about if you like sex, see it as a basic human need and know that clients aren't "out to get me" ...because they are not. They just want a bit of sex, something to do, bit of a rush, bit of wank material, go home happy. I don't see a problem in that. I don't feel like I'm giving away a piece of myself that I can't get back.
Sex is sexy, sex is hilarious and it feeds both of our imaginations. Not a big deal.

Relationship clients. They're the ones that involve feelings, usually longer termed. And, your going to get close and then it ends. Cycle of attach, detach, attach, detach. When they end I have to be able to put them in a box and move on.

I need both types to be happy. And only have two choices. Feel nothing or, feel and then deal with it.

I do the feel and then deal with it. Yes that makes me tough. Tough not hard. And, a big part of it is knowing my place. I am here to make other people happy, not to take bits of them for myself. Make them happy and let them go.

So even when I do hit a wall, I will always come back because I know that I am ok and well able.

Hidies for a few days. Bit of processing.
Then a client/friend person (don't even know what to call them) will text, "hey, are you in hiding again"

Me "Yep"
Them "You ok?"
Me "Yep"
Them "Want to something fun x, y or z?"
Me "Do you know what ...Yes! I really do, that is exactly what I want!" (and need)

Good talk, good talk ...seriously, that's all I need.

Back on the horse. And, I will always bounce back because:

*I love sex *I love cooking up a batch of intimacy *I love characters *I am strong *I love being really good at something that is something worth being good at.

Being a happy escort isn't something every girl is entitled to, it's something to be worked at.

Perhaps, less maybe and yet similar for the client too !!

Attach, detach, attach, detach... and and and, Yes..... that box, get that too !! Still I do try, always to keep it, just that little bit open.

Couple of years back, a thread asked, How do you approach an appointment ?

Nervously, I replied and in a semi joking way said ..... "I like to keep things simple, so I just fall in love.... every time"

Elements of life and truth, eh !!!
Ain't we human ?

Guess me the latter type.

Still, I know my place.


Very insightful post. Thank you

[Irish Siobhan]

I tend to tread cautiously with the "relationship clients" it's so easy for regular clients to
confuse an escorts’ kindness for an intimate connection. I would never play with someoneses heart, especially not to line my own pockets, it's important not to blur the boundary between a business transaction and genuine intimacy or someone will end up hurt and confused! X

[FargoBoyle]

I tend to tread cautiously with the "relationship clients" it's so easy for regular clients to
confuse an escorts’ kindness for an intimate connection. I would never play with someoneses heart, especially not to line my own pockets, it's important not to blur the boundary between a business transaction and genuine intimacy or someone will end up hurt and confused! X

Its nice to see escorts who actually care about clients feelings and we all know all clients are different, some don't give a monkey's while others are easily hurt and wear their hearts on their sleeve. I had a few relationships with escorts or where she wouldn't accept money for seeing me and all ended well,even when they were paid by me they were still alot easier on the bank account than my missus

[randaddy2017]

I tend to tread cautiously with the "relationship clients" it's so easy for regular clients to
confuse an escorts’ kindness for an intimate connection. I would never play with someoneses heart, especially not to line my own pockets, it's important not to blur the boundary between a business transaction and genuine intimacy or someone will end up hurt and confused! X

Nicely said. +100

[BuySexualBarry]

Isn't it crazy that the worlds oldest profession is still so stigmatised and morally unacceptable, yet the reality is that in this country it is a thriving industry ticking away discreetly in the background?!

The feminist argument that no one would freely chose to be an escort and that all people are coerced into doing so is rubbish. Lots of people do things they don't feel like doing in 'normal' jobs all day long, but no one questions that! Heaven forbid that the truth be told that many escorts enjoy their work, how immoral and repugnant is that?!!!!

In my humble opinion booking an escort is the same as hiring any other professional who provides a service, a doctor, a therapist, a mechanic- you pay them money and they provide you their service.
Sex work is a service for which there is huge demand, yes in good old catholic "down with that sort of thing" Ireland too. And yes the main incentive for us "happy hookers" is getting paid - like most people engaged in a profession! Many people enjoy their job and it's no different for an escort. The old cliche is true, most enjoy meeting new people. And many of us even do it because we enjoy sex!!

99% of escorts run their business in a totally ethical way the other 1% dont count. Its a fair service for a fair price and escorts are the most honest service providers I have ever met. You will get ripped off by a mechanic or plumber or mortgage broker much quicker over the years I have got to really become fond of certain ladies and have real respect for them as women, business
people and all round wonderful people.
Rubina
Serena
Sonia Strawberry
Princess Eva
Claudia
Travel all over the world if you like you wont find better humans anywhere.
there were even some lesser known girls that I became very fond of and would love to meet again.
Kiah
Eva
Diannaxxx
and lots more.......

[JazzNazi]

it's so easy for regular clients to
confuse an escorts’ kindness for an intimate connection

Agreed. But have also seen it go the other way too

[JazzNazi]

Two types of clients. Bit of sex clients. Relationship clients.

Bit of sex clients. Sex is sex is sex is sex. It's grand. Bit of fun. Not going to feel used and abused about if you like sex, see it as a basic human need and know that clients aren't "out to get me" ...because they are not. They just want a bit of sex, something to do, bit of a rush, bit of wank material, go home happy. I don't see a problem in that. I don't feel like I'm giving away a piece of myself that I can't get back.
Sex is sexy, sex is hilarious and it feeds both of our imaginations. Not a big deal.

Relationship clients. They're the ones that involve feelings, usually longer termed. And, your going to get close and then it ends. Cycle of attach, detach, attach, detach. When they end I have to be able to put them in a box and move on.

I need both types to be happy. And only have two choices. Feel nothing or, feel and then deal with it.

I do the feel and then deal with it. Yes that makes me tough. Tough not hard. And, a big part of it is knowing my place. I am here to make other people happy, not to take bits of them for myself. Make them happy and let them go.

So even when I do hit a wall, I will always come back because I know that I am ok and well able.

Hidies for a few days. Bit of processing.
Then a client/friend person (don't even know what to call them) will text, "hey, are you in hiding again"

Me "Yep"
Them "You ok?"
Me "Yep"
Them "Want to something fun x, y or z?"
Me "Do you know what ...Yes! I really do, that is exactly what I want!" (and need)

Good talk, good talk ...seriously, that's all I need.

Back on the horse. And, I will always bounce back because:

*I love sex *I love cooking up a batch of intimacy *I love characters *I am strong *I love being really good at something that is something worth being good at.

Being a happy escort isn't something every girl is entitled to, it's something to be worked at.

Great perspective