Kill my nerves - advice for a newbie

[MartinR]

Hi

I have flirted with the idea of seeing an escort for a few years now - a busy life and a girlfriend has kept be at bay.
I have a few questions i would love to get answers to and appreciate anyone who does so....il start with a quick intro

I am young - 25 and have been with the same girl for a long time - 7 years. she may be the one but because of our long relationship iv missed out on aot of sex and fun with different women. i have a deep desire to have sexual experiences with someone/s new.
The fear of: being caught by law or family, scams, nerves and finally potentially being wrong , thinking escorts can satisfy what i need when infact i should be going to the red light district for that - are various reasons stopping be

So my questions are pretty blunt and straight to it:

1- baring the obvious : being clean and respectful and having the money : can i genuinely get sex/ sexual favours for the price advertised. rough of the top e.g. - £70 to see someone for 30 mins - can i get a blowjob and doggystyle for this price ( i know its a typical question but bare with me - newbie here )

2 - first contact - phonecall - will it be the genuine escort or a rep? and on the phone...do i list / state the favours i want ias they are - or do i just say GFE . xyz date and time?

3- cash or envelope - maybe the actual lovely ladies themselves can answer which method is best?

4- sex included? i have this doubt in my head that the money you pay is to meet them only and anything you want costs extra? i dont want to be going and spending £200-£400 for a quickie or something like that.

5- trust - how do i know its safe and not a scam? that there isnt going to be some law officer waiting for me going "ha got you!" , or some giant dude ready to rob me. ; maybe best answer to this is research? the reviews and verified photos?

6- would an escort see someone regardless of their appearance / age ?
i am a genuinely decent looking guy, but i often wonder if escorts will only see david beckham / ronaldo like guys - atheletic rich guys that are models? or can it genuinely be the average dude thats over the legal age ( obviously hygienic etc)

7- am i right or do i need a brothel/street hooker?
i dont think i would go for a street hooker or brothel , i want to see respectful clean business women for my need/desires. can escorts provide this , or do i need to go to amsterdam so to speak.

i am sorry this is long winded , but know this.....your answers may actually bring a new punter into the game.

final question....why do you call it punting? is it always a risk?

[Curvaceous Kate]

Unless you're in the North or picking up street ladies in the South, you're not doing anything illegal in a private residence or hotel room so don't worry about appearing in court.

Technically you're paying for time and companionship but escorts really seem to get horny during those sessions so sex is very very very likely. Aftrr that, all escorts vary in what they provide and at what price.

First contact - if it rings with a foreign ring, it's probably an agency who arranges for multiple girls. Personally at that point, I would hang up. You never have a guarantee who you are talking to even if you get an Irish ringtone. Best betnis to only go with an escort with as many reviews from well-established reviewers as possible. You definitely won't be disappointed. Anything else is a risk.

I like to leave an envelope visible before I take a shower. I find it less vulgar than cash. Others have different expectations. I don't wait for change.

Most escorts will see you if you are clean and respectful. If you have any concern, raise it with her when you speak to her on the phone.

Expect to get vague directions at first. She will gradually get you to the location.

Good on you for recognising your need. 18 is way to young to settle for a single sexual partner.

*coughs* it says Belfast top left and he used the pounds sterling sign.

[mrwoolf]

As newbie regular staying in dublin hotels. Would it make more sense doing incall or outcall in the hotel room?

[EIFII]

If you have been with the same woman for 7 years and believe you would like to make a permanent commitment to her then deciding to see an escort whatever the mechanics and location would surely be seen by her as a betrayal of trust, and you may ultimately lose far more than you gain. Both in terms of broken trust and ultimately posssibly the end of a relationship. Consider carefully if that is a price you are willing to pay.
Unless you are willing and able to talk about this with your partner and reach some kind of agreement about fulfilling your sexual curiosity then I would definitely stay away. And ask yourself, would you be willing to extend the same freedom to experiment with different sexual partners to your girl friend, should she choose to?
Also seeing escorts is no good for a guy's self esteem. Ultimately you are paying a girl to be intimate with you and that does shit to your head, and to be honest likely to hers too.

You did ask...

[Mister Anderson]

If you have been with the same woman for 7 years and believe you would like to make a permanent commitment to her then deciding to see an escort whatever the mechanics and location would surely be seen by her as a betrayal of trust, and you may ultimately lose far more than you gain. Both in terms of broken trust and ultimately posssibly the end of a relationship. Consider carefully if that is a price you are willing to pay.
Unless you are willing and able to talk about this with your partner and reach some kind of agreement about fulfilling your sexual curiosity then I would definitely stay away. And ask yourself, would you be willing to extend the same freedom to experiment with different sexual partners to your girl friend, should she choose to?
Also seeing escorts is no good for a guy's self esteem. Ultimately you are paying a girl to be intimate with you and that does shit to your head, and to be honest likely to hers too.

You did ask...

A sober and honest reply that I'd agree wholeheartedly with apart from that last line. Well said.

[Stephanie]

Today :

Hi

I have flirted with the idea of seeing an escort for a few years now - a busy life and a girlfriend has kept be at bay.
I have a few questions i would love to get answers to and appreciate anyone who does so....il start with a quick intro

I am young - 25 and have been with the same girl for a long time - 7 years. she may be the one but because of our long relationship iv missed out on aot of sex and fun with different women. i have a deep desire to have sexual experiences with someone/s new.
The fear of: being caught by law or family, scams, nerves and finally potentially being wrong , thinking escorts can satisfy what i need when infact i should be going to the red light district for that - are various reasons stopping be

So my questions are pretty blunt and straight to it:

1- baring the obvious : being clean and respectful and having the money : can i genuinely get sex/ sexual favours for the price advertised. rough of the top e.g. - £70 to see someone for 30 mins - can i get a blowjob and doggystyle for this price ( i know its a typical question but bare with me - newbie here )

2 - first contact - phonecall - will it be the genuine escort or a rep? and on the phone...do i list / state the favours i want ias they are - or do i just say GFE . xyz date and time?

3- cash or envelope - maybe the actual lovely ladies themselves can answer which method is best?

4- sex included? i have this doubt in my head that the money you pay is to meet them only and anything you want costs extra? i dont want to be going and spending £200-£400 for a quickie or something like that.

5- trust - how do i know its safe and not a scam? that there isnt going to be some law officer waiting for me going "ha got you!" , or some giant dude ready to rob me. ; maybe best answer to this is research? the reviews and verified photos?

6- would an escort see someone regardless of their appearance / age ?
i am a genuinely decent looking guy, but i often wonder if escorts will only see david beckham / ronaldo like guys - atheletic rich guys that are models? or can it genuinely be the average dude thats over the legal age ( obviously hygienic etc)

7- am i right or do i need a brothel/street hooker?
i dont think i would go for a street hooker or brothel , i want to see respectful clean business women for my need/desires. can escorts provide this , or do i need to go to amsterdam so to speak.

i am sorry this is long winded , but know this.....your answers may actually bring a new punter into the game.

final question....why do you call it punting? is it always a risk?

On 13-08-14 :

Hi, so I am considering getting an escourt sometime soon. This would be my first time.

HOWEVER i am skeptical any o this is legit!

I find it hard to believe that i can spend £70 - £90 for 30mins for some of the most beautiful women i have ever seen.
I find it too good to be true that i can spend some money to spend some time with 9/10 and 10/10 women where anything can happen and where services such as CIM and GFE are available.....

I live in Belfast and im incredibly tempted to book a time with an escourt. but i am very unsure i will get what i want or if it is even legit.

Lets be honest, i am paying for her time which is legal. ANYTHING that happens there after is of mutual consult.
i want that "anything" to happen as i just want a release form life and a good time with a woman. whether that includes asking for sex and getting it, asking for a blowjob and getting it or being able to feel her body anytime i want within the time limit is of mere co incidence and mutual consult. but is EXACTLY what i am after.

therefore i am wondering am i looking in the right place?
how do i know these girls exist?
how do i know im not going to arrive at her door only to be beaten and robbed? or arrested ? or that she looks nothing like in her pics?

these questions and whether i can go and get what i want is the only things stopping me from diving into this experience.

any help and genuine answers appreciated

Martin ,

You have near 50 posts over 2+ years , asking the same thing over and over ... even while getting good replies and advice and help along the way .

I say Don't go down our road .

Clearly (unless you are a windup merchant) something has been holding you back all this time : your conscience ??

Marry the girl , have a family , and Fantasize about us xx

[tom sand]

If you have been with the same woman for 7 years and believe you would like to make a permanent commitment to her then deciding to see an escort whatever the mechanics and location would surely be seen by her as a betrayal of trust, and you may ultimately lose far more than you gain. Both in terms of broken trust and ultimately posssibly the end of a relationship. Consider carefully if that is a price you are willing to pay.
Unless you are willing and able to talk about this with your partner and reach some kind of agreement about fulfilling your sexual curiosity then I would definitely stay away. And ask yourself, would you be willing to extend the same freedom to experiment with different sexual partners to your girl friend, should she choose to?
Also seeing escorts is no good for a guy's self esteem. Ultimately you are paying a girl to be intimate with you and that does shit to your head, and to be honest likely to hers too.

You did ask...

but what if
she will never know EIFII
what if
he can.............. have his cake
and eat it
but what if
he loves this girl so much
but he now thinks he can eat his cake and get away with it
have the best of both worlds
what if
EIFII

[EIFII]

Marry the girl , have a family , and Forget about us xx

Fixed that for you Steph

[EIFII]

but what if
she will never know EIFII
what if
he can.............. have his cake
and eat it
but what if
he loves this girl so much
but he now thinks he can eat his cake and get away with it
have the best of both worlds
what if
EIFII

He can't.
Life is
Not like that
He will know
Even if
No one else does
And done it once
He'll do it again
And again
And again.
And one day she will
Find out

[tom sand]

He can't.
Life is
Not like that
He will know
Even if
No one else does
And done it once
He'll do it again
And again
And again.
And one day she will
Find out

yea
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