Unconditional it needs to be

[beautyaddict]

If you help an escort in any way, money , advice , admin like a PPS number or anything else

If you see an escort a lot , become a regular , spend a lot of money

If you promote /support her on here

Or any other help

It cannot have strings/expectations attached. It has to be unconditional , no you owe me , no she used me , no you betrayed me or any other such nonsense , If you are helping, you made that decision not her you are the owner of it. She owes you nothing beyond time and companionship . If she allows you some additional access like private number thats not a vow .

And accordingly do not become a monster /stalker or any shade of that . Do not start harassing her . She is making a living and if you over read it thats on you. Expect nothing and be very very very surprised if she of her own volition goes further , and even then it will have boundaries .

Expect her to retire , treasure the memory and leave her in peace .

Why post this ?

Because in last few months I have seen/ been involved in several situations where it has got out of hand some of it public, some of it private none of it right no matter how intense the guy sees it. Do not put stress or indeed fear into a provider because you lost the run of yourself. And if have fallen for someone then be a man and take the pain , not easy but no amount of stalking, harassing pleading is going to help , just the opposite. So man up if it happens to you . I have been there but did not go all bonkers so I get it , I understand that pain

Yes I have strong feelings about this as I have seen the damage done and believe me girls have enough other shit to deal with with bad clients/ stupid messages etc etc besides someone they thought was a good guy/reliable mature going psycho as well.

Rant over

[Rockerman]

100%.

That recent situation got real weird, real quick. I gave that member friendly advice at first and then my advice got more aggressive.

What we have to remember is a ban here doesn't necessarily mean that situation is done. The website have done all they can do, but the street is the street.

I will see that girl very soon. Atleast there can be no more discrediting her on the website by that member. Hopefully if he reads he will realise he lost the run of himself and it's time to completely forget that situation and just move on.

[beautyaddict]

100%.

That recent situation got real weird, real quick. I gave that member friendly advice at first and then my advice got more aggressive.

What we have to remember is a ban here doesn't necessarily mean that situation is done. The website have done all they can do, but the street is the street.

I will see that girl very soon. Atleast there can be no more discrediting her on the website by that member. Hopefully if he reads he will realise he lost the run of himself and it's time to completely forget that situation and just move on.

I am aware of 4 incidents in last few months , what you are referring to , final straw for me . I also know of some who have dealt with it all brilliantly given the situation been absolute gentlemen in their way. I post this as a reminder and, no anyone reading this who thinks otherwise you are not the one the exception like euromillions do be saying

[Rockerman]

I am aware of 4 incidents in last few months , what you are referring to , final straw for me . I also know of some who have dealt with it all brilliantly given the situation been absolute gentlemen in their way. I post this as a reminder and, no anyone reading this who thinks otherwise you are not the one the exception like euromillions do be saying

The recent one...I don't think he was experienced with having a regular girl he would see. That was the problem I think. He let bitterness and jealousy affect his mind.

Some punters are not well suited to having a regular. They are better off just visiting different girls.

I'm very suited to having numerous regular girls I see. I like the familiarity and when regulars are different to one another so I can mix it up with nice, sexy girls.

Keep it real .

[beautyaddict]

The recent one...I don't think he was experienced with having a regular girl he would see. That was the problem I think. He let bitterness and jealousy affect his mind.

Some punters are not well suited to having a regular. They are better off just visiting different girls.

I'm very suited to having numerous regular girls I see. I like the familiarity and when regulars are different to one another so I can mix it up with nice, sexy girls.

Keep it real .

It can happen for many reasons , the recent one I do not want this thread to be just about that , I do not know enough to comment like you but I am going at a general everyone please take note . But to the girl caught up in that she knows my thoughts . I will meet her as I admire her for dealing with it and of course she looks awesome. But as I say to all no reason is a reason

[beautyaddict]

I should add that I know from pm in last day that Rocker you tried to talk it down but no joy and yes some are not suited to regulars. It was good of you to try to advise but unfortunately the talk not listened to .

[PhilPhilPhil]

Great posts from experienced lads who know the lay of the land, it's an easy trap to fall into to some extent but a bit of cop on will steer you clear - hope this isn't relating to who I think it is, but wouldn't surprise me in the slightest, bloke was obviously way out of his depth despite insisting he wasn't...

No lady should ever feel harassed or that the punter believes they 'owe' them something and if you're barking up that tree you're nothing but a scumbag.

[PhilPhilPhil]

...no reason is a reason

Yes! Very well summarised!

[igor10]

Its very (unfortunately) normal human behavior to help someone and expect deep down something in return

A great man an idol of mine once said (trying to translate from Italian so hope it'll makes sense)

"There is so much false consciousness, if not even exhibition, in wanting at all costs to help others, that if by chance it'd happen to me to do good to someone, I would feel cleaner if I could say: "I did not do it on purpose".
Perhaps only in this way between the word help and the word live, there would no longer be any difference"

[Launcelot]

Understanding your motives for wanting to help someone is so important.