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[funlover12]

Is an affair the same? Does it not invest a lot more? Does it not come with further responsibilities to the person you have the affair with?

I've never had an affair and wouldn't seek one or agree to one. For me it feels wrong, plus the most honest point would be that I would be scared that I might fall in love with the person who ultimately isn't mine to have. I'm not sure I can see the point in investing my time and compassion to that degree on someone I can't truly be with.

When and if I fall in love I want the works and in return I will give 100% all of the time, not just for the hour.

I can see how they can happen. There are one or two clients I have that I could possibly fall in love with if I allowed myself to, but I would never encourage it or pursue it. That is why people come to Sex Workers and that to me is the difference.

Aive said it before (in this thread especially) , escorting is the difinition of no strings fun, and its the money that keeps that central crucial reality. without that is when you run into trouble, keep the money boundary and its all good, without it = problems

[amylove69]

haha needed to put my reading glasses on for that x. I have enjoyed the debate if I'm honest. It's not been at all boring in my eyes and I hope stevenn keeps posting, as I enjoy the mental stimulation.

Agree 100 pc xx

[Stevenn]

Aive said it before (in this thread especially) , escorting is the difinition of no strings fun, and its the money that keeps that central crucial reality. without that is when you run into trouble, keep the money boundary and its all good, without it = problems

That's great in a fantasy world of just punters and escorts, but the wives/partners of punters would find that logic very hard to swallow. Saying that it's all good because there's money involved is just burying your head in the sand of simplicity. In fact even the term 'no-strings' is a total misnomer.

[funlover12]

I have to agree with nibbs here ,, cheating is cheating what ever form it takes, whether you are paying for it or getting it for free. And if you are in what is mostly and unspoken monogamous relationship and dip your wick elsewhere you are cheating.

Im not going to agree with nibbs exactly, but after that I agree with everything you have said in that sentance, its only cheating if you never told her its going to happen. if she's knows then its not cheating.

[amylove69]

Im not going to agree with nibbs exactly, but after that I agree with everything you have said in that sentance, its only cheating if you never told her its going to happen. if she's knows then its not cheating.

If she agrees, its not cheating.

[funlover12]

That's great in a fantasy world of just punters and escorts, but the wives/partners of punters would find that logic very hard to swallow. Saying that it's all good because there's money involved is just burying your head in the sand of simplicity.

so would dogs and camels, possibly whales, but dolphins might understand though

you cant seem to comprehend a simple point, Im out, without a simple point being made you cant build a complex point. enjoy arguing with yourself so

[Curvaceous Kate]

I have to agree with nibbs here ,, cheating is cheating what ever form it takes, whether you are paying for it or getting it for free. And if you are in what is mostly and unspoken monogamous relationship and dip your wick elsewhere you are cheating.

And there lies the problem and the answer to most relationships. If we communicated better and were more open with each other a lot of situations that occur would not happen or would have much better and honest outcomes. How many guys have you heard say that their wife doesn't give them a bj and then when you ask them if they ever asked their wife to do it, they've said, 'hell no, she's really religious, I couldn't ask her, she would kill me!'. Well I've had that conversation and it puzzles me how someone can commit their whole life to someone and bring up a family with them and yet not feel comfortable with their bodies, desires and passions.

Okay, so she might say no, but she also might say yes and that applies to many other areas of sexual exploration. I think it is a shame that so many women are made to feel that sex is a bad thing and not to be enjoyed, but as a husband, can you not together get over that hurdle and teach each other how to get the best from your body?

This is coming from a woman who didn't have an orgasm until she was 31. So don't please think just because I'm a sex worker, I've always been sexually in tune with my body and open. I was classed as a 'prude' as a teenager by my friends and totally believed in love before sex. I wouldn't want to be that person again and I'm glad I saw the light.

Now I'm rambling lol

[amylove69]

And there lies the problem and the answer to most relationships. If we communicated better and were more open with each other a lot of situations that occur would not happen or would have much better and honest outcomes. How many guys have you heard say that their wife doesn't give them a bj and then when you ask them if they ever asked their wife to do it, they've said, 'hell no, she's really religious, I couldn't ask her, she would kill me!'. Well I've had that conversation and it puzzles me how someone can commit their whole life to someone and bring up a family with them and yet not feel comfortable with their bodies, desires and passions.

Okay, so she might say no, but she also might say yes and that applies to many other areas of sexual exploration. I think it is a shame that so many women are made to feel that sex is a bad thing and not to be enjoyed, but as a husband, can you not together get over that hurdle and teach each other how to get the best from your body?

This is coming from a woman who didn't have an orgasm until she was 31. So don't please think just because I'm a sex worker, I've always been sexually in tune with my body and open. I was classed as a 'prude' as a teenager by my friends and totally believed in love before sex. I wouldn't want to be that person again and I'm glad I saw the light.

Now I'm rambling lol

we'll call it rubbling from now on

I agree, but there is also the other side of the coin, where a lot of women won't ask or tell the guy what she wants or likes, for fear of him thinking he's not good enough or she wants to go else where for more excitement.

And so it goes on for years till them become comfortable in their happy existence of looking after the kids and being happy enough with their lot...till one or other or both of them go and get it elsewhere for the easy life of not talking about it.

[Curvaceous Kate]

we'll call it rubbling from now on

I agree, but there is also the other side of the coin, where a lot of women won't ask or tell the guy what she wants or likes, for fear of him thinking he's not good enough or she wants to go else where for more excitement.

And so it goes on for years till them become comfortable in their happy existence of looking after the kids and being happy enough with their lot...till one or other or both of them go and get it elsewhere for the easy life of not talking about it.

That reminds me why I'm never going to get married again Yes there are two sides of the coin most definitely. Either way, communication is key.

[nonpareil]

You know where the door is pal and I'm sure there is also an option to filter my posts so you don't have to read them just as there is on most discussion boards. Feel free to use it please if I'm bothering you that much. You're making the conscious choice to read what I post here. I'm not forcing you.

You don't bother me sleeveen.
You mildly bore me .
But I am interested in OCD types who have to have the last word.