What do you consider cheating?

[Blonde Alexa]

Cheating is cheating...with an escort or not... as long as i am not invited to join ))))))

Kisses
Alx

[Larrii]

Let’s get back to why people are in relationships in the first place, be it marriage or GF or living together. There’s an understanding that you’ll be sexually faithful to them, and IN RETURN they will sort out your sexual needs.


If it gets stale they may give up. Usually the wife gives up or hits the menopause. She may not want full sex but is able to give him a lot of pleasure if she wants to. If she doesn’t want to, then she can expect him to roam. And vice versa.


The sex part of the deal may be off, but you still have kids, a mortgage etc. Most spouses’ red line is when their family and friends get to know about an infidelity. The same family and friends you were married in front of. So “what do you consider cheating?” - when you’re seen naked on the front lawn at 3am under her best friend. Singing loudly.




Discreetly visiting anyone else should not be a problem. This means managing clothes, the smell of perfume, money, mobile, diary. And not promising your new GF that she will become wife no 2.

[meath chap]

Yes and quitting when losing online,
Cunts, 5-0 up and they quit, giving me a 3-0 win.
What about my goal difference????

or timewasting lol thats cheating too...you can waste exactly 2 minutes 30 seconds of fifa time with a throw in haha

[SmallHorn]

or timewasting lol thats cheating too...you can waste exactly 2 minutes 30 seconds of fifa time with a throw in haha

Haha I was playing some pro cunt last week,
Just ran laps of the pitch to piss him off.
I lost 4-2

[willie wacker]

Haha I was playing some pro cunt last week,
Just ran laps of the pitch to piss him off.
I lost 4-2

Cheating is the 11th commandment
Thou shalt not get caught

[meath chap]

Haha I was playing some pro cunt last week,
Just ran laps of the pitch to piss him off.
I lost 4-2

haha it was probably me im always playing it and winning of course

[fiatpunter]

Doesnt really matter what I would call cheating. It's what my partner would....

I mean I can't even joke about the school mum in yoga pants that I have a thing for so I know I'm a cheating bastard many times over.....

oh well...

[hforty69]

I would suspect your partner would consider it cheating, any amount of claiming it was only paid for sex is unlikely to cut the mustard. If you are unable/unwilling to tell your partner about your activities consider it cheating

[adrienn]

"Do you have sexual thoughts about another person You look at someone attractive when you're with your partner You look at porn You intimate partner while thinking about someone You go to a strip club Are you going to dance with someone attractive Get a coffee with someone attractive Come to dinner with someone attractive Hug someone Sleeping in the same bed with someone Or get a massage Kiss someone passionately or not Virtual sex with someone Buy an expensive gift for someone you are attracted You go on vacation with someone You maintain intimate relationships without emotions or otherwise".And so are many ways to cheat.But there are limits, are couples who set limits and thus depends on each whether it is cheating or not.For me all the above is called cheat or better, end of relation for sure .

[Cable87]

ah thats going a bit bar, theres a such thing as flirting you know as anyone thats been in a relationship knows, where does flirting end and sexting cheating begin? thats the question.

I understand what you mean when you bring up the 'fine line' between what some might characterize as a bit of "harmless flirting" and things going further than that, on to 'sexting' and perhaps on again to a full-on 'affair'. But as for where cheating actually 'begins', I really think that the very foundations of what end-up as affairs are ultimately rooted in those things which we know can lead to them, no matter how 'innocent' and innocuous they might seem at the beginning-- or perhaps more accurately, how innocent and innocuous we like to PRETEND they are.

I still maintain that the seeds of what could become an affair, one-night stand, or just a quick 'shift' with a randomer on a night out all come back to a much more basic point: we as men have the desire to shag as many women as we possibly can. This is our nature, our biological design, as it has evolved from the beginnings of humanity and our precursors. Things have certainly become a lot more complicated in modern society, where marriage and coupling-- or 'pair-bonding', as evolutionary biologists and anthropologists characterize it, have become the 'norm'-- but that 'urge' to shag anything and everything we can is still with us, right down to our DNA. We wouldn't be here at all if not for this!

So in light of this, I still argue that there is no such thing as 'innocent' flirtations; I still argue that ANYTHING that you decide you would NOT want your partner to know about because it would upset them or make them jealous is the very basis of 'cheating', be it emotional, physical, etc.

Now don't get me wrong here, I make NO MORAL JUDGEMENTS on anyone-- male, female, escorts, punter/client-- for any kind or type of 'cheating' that they get up to. I've 'cheated' on (flirted with, pursued other women, shagged escorts and non-escorts) behind the backs of EVERY partner I've had in my life, and I don't feel a single moment of guilt for ANY of it, or that I've ever done anything 'wrong'... That being said, I've also never been caught either... But I still believe that, based on the social 'rules' which we (at least loosely) adhere to in modern Western societies, that anything you intentionally keep from your partner could be considered 'cheating'.