Narcissism and overconfidence - good or bad?

[Shirley Joy]

Interesting article I've found and happy to share with everyone:

Narcissists may seem to love themselves, but a new study finds that narcissistic self-aggrandizement may hide deep feelings of inferiority.According to the new research, people who are narcissistic are likely to tell psychologists that they feel good about themselves. But when the psychologists trick these narcissists into thinking they're hooked up to a working lie-detector test, the truth comes out and the narcissists admit to lower self-esteem.
"This suggests that individuals withhigh levels of narcissismmay be inflating their self-esteem," study researcher Erin Myers, a psychologist at Western Carolina University. "In other words, narcissistic individuals may not really believe they are as great as they claim to be."
Although narcissism is possibly best known as narcissistic personality disorder, an extreme, life-disrupting form of self-love, the trait appears in varying degrees in psychologically healthy people. People who are higher in the narcissistic trait profess to a grandiose self-appreciation, but studies had turned up mixed results as to whether these positive feelings are genuine or a façade

How do you see it? Is "loving yourself too much" good or bad?

[funlover12]

people who are narcissistic are likely to tell psychologists that they feel good about themselves. But when the psychologists trick these narcissists into thinking they're hooked up to a working lie-detector test, the truth comes out and the narcissists admit to lower self-esteem.

lol the crafty buggers!

[Curvaceous Kate]

It depends on if it manifests itself as an inner confidence in who you are and being comfortable with the way you live your life and project yourself, or if you are pretending to be something you know you are not. Living a lie is hard work (Most Escorts can relate to that), so living a complete lie, must be crippling and not something I would wish to do.

It's all rather superficial isn't it and the things that should matter get over looked, in order to project the superficial qualities that don't really matter, plus if vastly wrong, it brings you across as a fraud and people then won't believe anything you say, as you are blatantly delusional and not in the real world. Of course, if other people encourage the person to believe their own BS, then it must really slam them down when the truth hits them, as they become to believe their own hype.

[Stephanie]

It depends on if it manifests itself as an inner confidence in who you are and being comfortable with the way you live your life and project yourself, or if you are pretending to be something you know you are not. Living a lie is hard work (Most Escorts can relate to that), so living a complete lie, must be crippling and not something I would wish to do.

It's all rather superficial isn't it and the things that should matter get over looked, in order to project the superficial qualities that don't really matter, plus if vastly wrong, it brings you across as a fraud and people then won't believe anything you say, as you are blatantly delusional and not in the real world. Of course, if other people encourage the person to believe their own BS, then it must really slam them down when the truth hits them, as they become to believe their own hype.

Good post.

Well said xx

[Larrii]

... living a complete lie, must be crippling and not something I would wish to do.
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Yes but there are areas of mind that we have to keep in separate boxes. Have we all met people with NPD? When you read this you may think of a few in your life.....

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narciss...ality_disorder

"...excessively preoccupied with issues of personal adequacy, power, prestige and vanity."

1% of the population!, there's one NPD on your street.

[Curvaceous Kate]

Yes but there are areas of mind that we have to keep in separate boxes. Have we all met people with NPD? When you read this you may think of a few in your life.....

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narciss...ality_disorder

"...excessively preoccupied with issues of personal adequacy, power, prestige and vanity."

1% of the population!, there's one NPD on your street.

As someone who barely ever wore make up for the first 30 years of my life and I still forget to wear jewellery, I can assure you it's not me though lol. I reign power over the remote control in my house and that is as far as it goes.

It takes all sorts to make the world, so we need variety and personality differences. It's just not a way that I would like to live my life, but most of the time, no harm done by it, other than to themselves ultimately I would think.

[redcar2]

Interesting article I've found and happy to share with everyone:



How do you see it? Is "loving yourself too much" good or bad?

Personnally speaking a persons own self worth and self love are 2 complety different things.I would be more attracted to a person whose self worth would be aligned to my own,otherwise there Dorian gray attributes would cloud matters,but everyone to there own I guess......such is life!But in that there is a quandry,as one is been narcissistic as you are in the end looking for someone like yourself.Good or bad?Depends on each individual and substance over window dressing,its how you perceive yourself but life would be so much better if people took you at face value,without categorisation of types and shapes....but there you go human nature is animalistic in origin.

[Johnco]

Interesting article I've found and happy to share with everyone:



How do you see it? Is "loving yourself too much" good or bad?

Isn't it always the case that when someone is very extrovert or dominant or in this case has a very high opinion of themselves,that underneath it all they are hiding something.I would have thought in all cases it is low self worth caused by something or things in their past.That's just my opinion.
I like people who are quitely confident with themselves.Not showy,but know themselves how good they are but don't need to tell the whole world about it.

[Westsidex]

Interesting article I've found and happy to share with everyone:



How do you see it? Is "loving yourself too much" good or bad?

I dont think there is such a thing as over confidence. You either have something in you or you dont. Overconfidence is actually under confidence disguised, Thats my op anyway.

Westside.

[Big J]

I think its like everything else in life,balance is the key word,if you have a little bit of each you will be happy with yourself.