Narcissism and overconfidence - good or bad?

[Shirley Joy]

It depends on if it manifests itself as an inner confidence in who you are and being comfortable with the way you live your life and project yourself, or if you are pretending to be something you know you are not. Living a lie is hard work (Most Escorts can relate to that), so living a complete lie, must be crippling and not something I would wish to do.

It's all rather superficial isn't it and the things that should matter get over looked, in order to project the superficial qualities that don't really matter, plus if vastly wrong, it brings you across as a fraud and people then won't believe anything you say, as you are blatantly delusional and not in the real world. Of course, if other people encourage the person to believe their own BS, then it must really slam them down when the truth hits them, as they become to believe their own hype.

Exactly my thoughts.

[SophieX]

whilst i am fully aware that there is a very thin line between being confident and cockiness , i am also aware that it is a very tough world out there , a world of over achievers and under achievers , and those that are just happy to sail their way through life .
And one of the main secrets to being happy within your self is to accept yourself , and if you love yourself even more then in my opinion thats not a bad thing , myself personally i love myself for what i am , and what i have achieved in my life , yes i am a confident type , but i love it ,

Good post Britvic.

Confidence, with a slight bit of arrogance in a man is kinda sexy, basically a man who can stand up to a woman, have his independence and be secure in himself, and not being a pushover/lapdog is good in my books

Have i took this off topic, sorry i was day-dreaming there

[Rachel Divine]

If you dont love yourself , dont expect others to love you.

Self confidence?! You have it or you do not.

I am very happy with my personality , often I get in troubles because of it , but I feel I have something to say and nobody is who to tell me not to. My body for me is perfect. I dont live day by day thinking what I wish to change as that would make me an unhappy person.

My work is what I want at the moment. Very pleased with it. I dont live in a lie because I dont have to give explanations to anyone but myself for my actions. I am aware of what I can and what I can not. Never go beyond my limits , no regrets so far.

[40odd]

How do you see it? Is "loving yourself too much" good or bad?[/QUOTE]

If you are a fanfuckingtastic as me its good (I Jest)

Inside everyone, down deep in the places we ignore or have forgotten exist. There is a little child wondering if they are good enough.

[celticden]

Good post Britvic.

Confidence, with a slight bit of arrogance in a man is kinda sexy, basically a man who can stand up to a woman, have his independence and be secure in himself, and not being a pushover/lapdog is good in my books

Have i took this off topic, sorry i was day-dreaming there

so he would like to argue alot then haha, also I know guys like that actually make the women the lapdog and have some kind of hold on them and actually ride behind there back but the women always comes back because being arrogant is sexy i suppose

[SophieX]

so he would like to argue alot then haha, also I know guys like that actually make the women the lapdog and have some kind of hold on them and actually ride behind there back but the women always comes back because being arrogant is sexy i suppose

Nope actually, i'd have a lot more respect for a man who stood up to me than one who agreed on everything i say and one who left me choosing everything we do, places we go to shop/eat/holiday the car he drives etc.

I agree with you on the last bit though , men are sluts...

[funlover12]

1% of the population!, there's one NPD on your street.

and a psychopath too, 1% of the population is also psychopathic....and many are bosses!

[funlover12]

and a psychopath too, 1% of the population is also psychopathic....and many are bosses!

http://www.cognitivepolicyworks.com/...n-psychopaths/

[Shirley Joy]

ho-hum
there's a difference between "loving yourself" and "overconfidence" in my opinion. Sure it's awesome to love yourself,it's a "silent" feeling,overconfidence and narcissism refers to those people shouting out loud how good how awesome and how beautiful they are compared with the rest. This is what this article above refers to. My humble opinion.

[samlad]

People who love themselves should ask themselves these questions:

Sociopath Self Test or Are You a Sociopath Test

• Have a cold uncaring attitude towards one or more family members?
• Have problems sustaining stable relationships whether personal or in business?
• Steal, play tyrant or resent authority when younger?
• Conduct small talk about yourself?
• Easily switch from maintaining a low profile to being the center of attention at a social gathering?
• Frequently manipulate others to achieve selfish goals?
• Are you sexually promiscuous?
• Seem a different person when “absent-minded”?
• Fit any stereotype such as age, career, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation and gender?
• Is the person’s display of human emotion convincing?
• Do you or the person have a bullying manner?
• Is the individual capable of telling lies to your face?
• Suffer signs of irrational thinking such as absence of delusions?
• Enjoy acting on reckless impulse and taking risks?
• Would you consider the person generally irresponsible?
• Do you fail to learn from experience?
• Does the person see himself or herself as others do?
• Take things too literally?
• Do you hesitate before responding thus making it unclear if he is lying bored or annoyed?
• Regardless of his or her true standing in society, does the individual have an air of self-importance?
• Do you or the person ever show signs of embarrassment?
• Do you have a fairly high IQ?
• Break people’s trust?
• Are you secretive?
• Do you joke about yourself or like it when people joke about you?
• Do you have any structure in your life?
• Can you spin stories whether true or false to captivate your audience?

Source: http://sociopathtest.org/