Jealousy..

[Rachel Divine]

I'm jealous of Doc, with his new superpower mod status.

Mod status, yes...superpower..dont think so!!!

[Forrest]

Mod status, yes...superpower..dont think so!!!

I would love to give an infraction, and as for the ban button.................

I'm actually very jealous of the people of Limerick, Kerry and Cork, Rachel.
You will have them spoiled.

[kelso]

a little jealousy is normail i think, if it gets to the stage of stalking, checking txts/mails etc then thats really physcho territory!!

[Rachel Divine]

a little jealousy is normail i think, if it gets to the stage of stalking, checking txts/mails etc then thats really physcho territory!!

I agree, little jealousy is normal..

[dark-knight]

Jealousy is the one emotion that should be bottled up and not let out. Its unhealty and unproductive to allow jealousy to rule your life.

[kelso]

Jealousy is the one emotion that should be bottled up and not let out. Its unhealty and unproductive to allow jealousy to rule your life.

dont you think the context is important DK? eg if im jealous of my neighbours car/house thats a small jealousy that doesnt bother any1; if its more personal in nature eg more like possessiveness then thats very different and very destructive and i wud agree with you there

[Morpheus]

I think jealousy can be both a natural reaction or a damaging emotion depending on the circumstances.

An example of where jealousy is a natural reaction is when a person finds out their spouse/partner has been having an affair. I think it would be somewhat strange if one didn't feel jealous in this situation (along with a whole myriad of other emotions).

However, jealousy can be damaging when its not backed by fact and purely due to suspicion of a loved ones affections/ behaviour. In this case its just possessiveness (as pointed out by Kelso).

As to whether its women or men that are more prone to jealousy....I think that totally depends on the individual.

[dark-knight]

dont you think the context is important DK? eg if im jealous of my neighbours car/house thats a small jealousy that doesnt bother any1; if its more personal in nature eg more like possessiveness then thats very different and very destructive and i wud agree with you there

No I think jealousy is unhealthy. Jealousy of property is dangerous as to compete with your neighbour's house or car. You go to the bank for a morgage and car loan. Ask anyone who built a large house with a large morgage, who might struggle when interest rates rise and they will. Aspirations for the rich life, overstretching debt will end in struggle. Which is no life at all. All caused by jealousy of what other people had.

[Cable87]

Jealousy to me has always seemed to be about insecurity. Some people aren't sure of themselves and are insecure about their relationships, and the fear that someone else could/will come along and take away our special someone takes over and begins to direct some people's behaviour toward their partners.

It's always hypothetically possible that someone 'better' might come along, but if you trust in your partner, and you trust in your love for them, then there's little or no need to feel insecure about it. I'd had a girlfriend a few years ago-- I trusted her completely-- but I DID NOT trust one or two of the fellas that started ringing/texting her at times (there were 2 in particular). It was the other guys that I didn't trust, because they had met me and knew that we were a proper couple, but they TRIED IT ON WITH HER ANYWAY!

I'd asked her to end contact with them because it was obvious they were trying it on, and she accused me of being jealous. I told her that it was obvious that other men would find her attractive, she was a really beautiful Polish girl, and loads of guys had their eyes on her when we went around together. But I trusted that she wouldn't cheat on me with any other guy, and as far as I know, she was loyal to me for as long as we were together. It was just the other guys that I had no trust in-- or perhaps, I could say I trusted the guys even more-- I TRUSTED them to behave the way that guys do! I had just hoped for a bit more respect for obviously demarcated boundaries, but some people have no respect for those!

[Rachel Divine]

I would love to give an infraction, and as for the ban button.................

I'm actually very jealous of the people of Limerick, Kerry and Cork, Rachel.
You will have them spoiled.

I meet only the best lads around Ireland...