Why do men

[Prickly]

frequent message boards dedicated to prostitution?

I really want to know why you are all here.

I know of no other professional service which attracts men who tells the professional how to do their job, what to charge, feels they have the right to criticise the way we do it, professes to know so much about a job they themselves have never done, and then wants to how how we feel about it all!

Why do women in this job inparticular, attract so many weirdos.

I don't do any of the above. Of course that doesn't mean I'm not a weirdo.
I came to this site looking for sex. I got addicted to the boards.

[Toptatts]

I myself work in an industry where, thanks to reality TV, everyone has become an instant expert and when I frequent dedicated message boards I cringe and have to bite my lip while I sit on my hands otherwise my replies would probably get my ip address blacklisted by every internet service provider. My escape is to come here. I read what the industry professionals (you ladies) have to say, I laugh at what the "experts" have to say, I engage in some light hearted, never salacious, banter. As I said, I escape. True I have never worked in the industry, well not directly... long story for another day, but it interests the human watcher in me. I have occasionally used escorts, usually between relationships and dropping into this forum doesn't mean I'm weird, doesn't mean I'm looking for a different escort every week, does't mean I have "issues", it only means I'm interested. Interested in a side of life and an industry I will never fully understand, from either side I might add. Just as many people who have gotten tattoos will visit dedicated tattoo industry sites even though they have no true understanding of what it means to work in the industry.
Heather you and the other ladies here, can if you wish divulge parts of your inner psyche or elements of your private life when responding to questions or making comments, that is entirely up to you but nobody here has the right to expect you to divulge anything other than your working hours and location. If someone does ask more, then it is up to you whether or not you answer them. If you do answer, then you have opened yourself up to whatever questions or critisism arise, and aren't really in a position I'm sorry to say to complain. As with any "Boards" or "Forum" we can input as much or as little of ourselves as we wish and at the end of the day, if it all gets too much, we can always log off and make ourselves a cup of tea.
Hope you all have a very Happy Easter.

[mellors]

frequent message boards dedicated to prostitution?

I really want to know why you are all here.

I know of no other professional service which attracts men who tells the professional how to do their job, what to charge, feels they have the right to criticise the way we do it, professes to know so much about a job they themselves have never done, and then wants to how how we feel about it all!

Why do women in this job inparticular, attract so many weirdos.

Try doing my job, get the same things thrown at me, then they haggle about the price ! at least you get the cash upfront. Fortunately theres no internet forum where we can go and bitch

[wolfie]

As individuals we all have out traits. For some it's ego boosting, others it's opinionated etc, etc
But one thing we all have in common is to have sex with awesome ladies. Is that not the whole point of this site we frequent?

[max california]

I joined after viewing the forums for a while before hand.
I didn't feel I had too, I had met plenty of escorts prior to that without being a member.
I find most of the subjects interesting and I get to interact with people who don't judge the fact that I visit escorts

[Lucy Chambers]

I'm not sure how fooling myself into thinking I'm something else or something more than I am can be seen as a good thing; if anything, it's simply exposed me as being delusional. And I can't say that any REAL confidence has been gained there, especially if it was all built of delusions of grandeur and 'purchased' as a part of the service, which it is, I truly believe.

I've said on other threads in the past that being treated nicely by escorts is and should be an expected part of the service, because afterall, I can get treated badly by women in any public setting, anywhere in the world, for FREE. And even if many of the escorts out there are 'nice people' in their heart-of-hearts, I can't help but feel that much (if not all) of the sincerity associated with the interaction is false, because one way or the other, that kindness was paid for, right along with the rest of it. I'd hardly get to be the beneficiary of that 'sincerity' or 'kindness' if I wasn't a paying customer.

I guess I'm just feeling a bit of regret and like the 'bubble' has been burst, the fantasy has been exposed for being exactly what it is, and I'm just not feeling good about that...

Are you ok today, Cable? I hope so. You can't buy kindness or sincerity. You can buy time, but the traits you mentioned are free and only usually given freely. Of course, without money the transaction wouldn't happen. So there is the rub. We are human though. We all have our favourites.

[ladytron]

You might be surprised to find that some of us are actually interested in understanding what its like to be an escort. While I still have no idea what its actually like to be an escort, from reading the forums I have indeed learnt that it takes a special kind of toughness that 99.9% of women don't have and that I wouldn't last an hour in this job.

Visiting escorts is all about control: getting the type of service where, when and how we want it. Sometimes this spills over into the forums: critisizing escorts, as in the type of women who are otherwise out of our league and telling them how to flip burgers gives a feeling of control and feeds the ego.

there's an infinite amount of reasons for attracting weirdos, one would be that a lot of men who would avail of your services are lonely, some of whom are, or were at some point complete social outcasts with deep-rooted feelings of resentment and rejection.

[Cable87]

Are you ok today, Cable? I hope so. You can't buy kindness or sincerity. You can buy time, but the traits you mentioned are free and only usually given freely. Of course, without money the transaction wouldn't happen. So there is the rub. We are human though. We all have our favourites.

No Lucy, I don't think I'm ok. Perhaps I'm at a point just at this moment where I'm questioning a lot of things about myself and about my life, and not liking many aspects of it, and I think that my punting might be one of those things. I'm not sure what punting has done for me, other than to temporarliy push away the lonliness and distort my own view of the type of women I'm capable of meeting/getting.

And in a strange and contradictory way, I also think it may have warped my perspective on how other relationships in my life have been formed, maintained, and approached. It's like ALL the relationships in my life are or have become fleeting and temporary, not unlike a brief visit to an escort. Not to mention how 'bored' I suddenly find myself feeling after only a few months with many of the non-escorts I've dated in recent years. It's like only one woman will NEVER be enough for me. And having the mentality that if I can't 'score' the type of woman I'd like-- I can just 'pay for' one instead-- can't be a healthy mentality, not at all...


So did punting 'make' me this way, or did it simply expose who I already was underneath? Who's to say? I'm just questioning whether or not this is or should be for me anymore, as it sometimes feels like there's nothing 'real' to it, and this fantasy world has done nothing but delude me into believing things about the world and about myself that just aren't true...

[Lucy Chambers]

No Lucy, I don't think I'm ok. Perhaps I'm at a point just at this moment where I'm questioning a lot of things about myself and about my life, and not liking many aspects of it, and I think that my punting might be one of those things. I'm not sure what punting has done for me, other than to temporarliy push away the lonliness and distort my own view of the type of women I'm capable of meeting/getting.

And in a strange and contradictory way, I also think it may have warped my perspective on how other relationships in my life have been formed, maintained, and approached. It's like ALL the relationships in my life are or have become fleeting and temporary, not unlike a brief visit to an escort. Not to mention how 'bored' I suddenly find myself feeling after only a few months with many of the non-escorts I've dated in recent years. It's like only one woman will NEVER be enough for me. And having the mentality that if I can't 'score' the type of woman I'd like-- I can just 'pay for' one instead-- can't be a healthy mentality, not at all...


So did punting 'make' me this way, or did it simply expose who I already was underneath? Who's to say? I'm just questioning whether or not this is or should be for me anymore, as it sometimes feels like there's nothing 'real' to it, and this fantasy world has done nothing but delude me into believing things about the world and about myself that just aren't true...

I do think punting warps perspectives on normal relationships. It is one of the reasons I feel uncomfortable seeing younger guys and virgins. For some people, this is a lifeline. For others, it can distort sexuality and relationships to too great an extent. There are others again who use this to alleviate boredom in a marriage. Unfortunately you don't really know how much you could change until you are already doing it.

I hope things get easier. There is little point giving you mealy mouthed platitudes, other than to say if you really want to change something, you will.

[Banjaxed]

You might be surprised to find that some of us are actually interested in understanding what its like to be an escort. While I still have no idea what its actually like to be an escort, from reading the forums I have indeed learnt that it takes a special kind of toughness that 99.9% of women don't have and that I wouldn't last an hour in this job.

This is perhaps an apt description of what my questions here are about. Unfortunately I'm just naturally curious and love learning about different things, I take interest in even the most mundane things - I'd inquire to a taxi driver what his job is like, how he finds the income, people who make off without paying, the effect of the taxi regulator, etc. I find it fascinating how other people live and I feel it's always best to hear it from those people themselves. There's also a cross section of issues which I'm interested in on the political-legal context as I do like keep an open mind on things and examine and adopt the minority viewpoint.

Why do I remain on the forum? For the banter and a bit of a laugh in the evenings when I've little else that I would actually like to do, the same reason some people kill time on Facebook or anything else I guess. I generally tend to keep people at a distance in face-to-face relationships as I'm not really an on-demand person and just don't really be bothered with the complications that inevitably arise in a regular personal life, so I tend to like to control my interactions with people.

I want to see an escort for a bit of sexual experimentation. I think I've had a fear of the issue of sex which has held me back from actually seeking out a meaningful relationship with the opposite sex. At my young age it's going to be the first issue on the table regardless of the person you enter a relationship with. If I could get over that hurdle I feel I'd be in a lot better position in terms of confidence with the opposite sex. I suppose it's a bit of a trial and error approach that everyone goes through except paying for a safe environment with an experienced lady to actually go through it with.