Sex....Morality....Ethics and all that jazz

[Eugee]

I think Alec's question is aimed at married/partner relationships and there's a few good answers in here, so the reason we see escorts in the first place is either no sex or not enough or it's not good enough at home so off you go to make yourself feel good or it's an ego thing to get great sex or to have more reviews than the next guy all done with nobody on the ouside world knowing so what dose that mean?? Well theres something wrong in your relationship cos if you truly love someone it's the compleate package and you wouldn't need to see an escort now I'm not just talking about the sex if you truly love someone you won't look elsewhere so it's not a moral thing its emotional so don't kid yourself there's a problem when you have to see escorts but that's just my opinion

The only "genuine" reason, if one exists for a guy seeing escorts is if he works away from his homeplace a lot and gets lonely or lacks companionship etc. I still dont agree with it but it beats killing yourself.

[Notatwork]

Married in my mid 20s.....sex was ok.....no oral on each other though...her choice not mine but i loved her and taught that our sex life would expand over the years.....how wrong i was......kids came along.....i would go 6 months without sex during her pregnancys.....absolutely nothing.....and then regularly 2 months without......i tried everything even after i started seeing escorts...its got to the point now where we are only living together for the kids.....she says i will be sorry one day but i simply cant live my life in a relationship where the physical side is rubbish.....
Eventually when kids are old enough we will splitsville.......reaching this decision has been very hard emotionally,its very hard to accept that a relationship is broken....
I wish her well...she is a super looking women but i cant see how any relationship she has in the future will last....no man will put up with what i have had too....

[RicFlair]

I believe that everyone either married, in a relationship or single is fully entitled to personal space and a personal life. I have full respect for every walk of life on this planet and if you have a partner looking into every aspect of your day then you might as well be in prison. Everyone should have freedom and the right to choose how to spend their time and money.

[Eugee]

I believe that everyone either married, in a relationship or single is fully entitled to personal space and a personal life. I have full respect for every walk of life on this planet and if you have a partner looking into every aspect of your day then you might as well be in prison. Everyone should have freedom and the right to choose how to spend their time and money.

True but everyone does not have the right to waste another persons life and yes they are wasting another persons life because they could have spent it with someone else. They also have the right to choose as well as in wanting a single life then stay single. The problem is when married people try to live a single persons life. They should have thought about that before they got married. If a guy (or a woman) wants to live the high life, wants to sleep around etc then fine ,stay single.

[Notatwork]

I believe that everyone either married, in a relationship or single is fully entitled to personal space and a personal life. I have full respect for every walk of life on this planet and if you have a partner looking into every aspect of your day then you might as well be in prison. Everyone should have freedom and the right to choose how to spend their time and money.

So Ric i could just imagine the response most guys would get from the wife if they knew.....dont think it would be as you think..

[Fitzy]

I believe that everyone either married, in a relationship or single is fully entitled to personal space and a personal life. I have full respect for every walk of life on this planet and if you have a partner looking into every aspect of your day then you might as well be in prison. Everyone should have freedom and the right to choose how to spend their time and money.

That's why I choose to stay single.

[JAMESCORK]

True but everyone does not have the right to waste another persons life and yes they are wasting another persons life because they could have spent it with someone else. They also have the right to choose as well as in wanting a single life then stay single. The problem is when married people try to live a single persons life. They should have thought about that before they got married. If a guy (or a woman) wants to live the high life, wants to sleep around etc then fine ,stay single.

You seem to have it all worked out bud… BTW what are you doing on a site like this in the first place? The lady that gets you will be a lucky one indeed; assuming she never finds out you frequented a Prostitute web site…lol

I can relate to Andy (Notatwork). It all seemed like a good idea at the time. I don’t think I wanted to get married in the first place, I liked the single life. But I wanted to settle down and make a family. I am married many years now, and the sex has waned. But I am greedy. Every man that sees an Escort is greedy. We don’t need sex to survive; we seek it for pure self gratification. Having a wank is pure self gratification.

I have no doubt that I am cheating. I have no doubt that my kids or my wife would be horrified if they found out. I have no doubt that my moral standards do not match up to some of you exemplary pillars of society. But I also have no doubt that my morals and greed are nobody’s but my business and I fail to see what right anyone on a internet forum has to question them. I would allow curiosity, but preaching from a pulpit is not on.

[Eugee]

You seem to have it all worked out bud… BTW what are you doing on a site like this in the first place? The lady that gets you will be a lucky one indeed; assuming she never finds out you frequented a Prostitute web site…lol

I can relate to Andy (Notatwork). It all seemed like a good idea at the time. I don’t think I wanted to get married in the first place, I liked the single life. But I wanted to settle down and make a family. I am married many years now, and the sex has waned. But I am greedy. Every man that sees an Escort is greedy. We don’t need sex to survive; we seek it for pure self gratification. Having a wank is pure self gratification.

I have no doubt that I am cheating. I have no doubt that my kids or my wife would be horrified if they found out. I have no doubt that my moral standards do not match up to some of you exemplary pillars of society. But I also have no doubt that my morals and greed are nobody’s but my business and I fail to see what right anyone on a internet forum has to question them. I would allow curiosity, but preaching from a pulpit is not on.

The lady that gets me will be very lucky in some ways and cursing her luck in others. What I find fascinating is guys are sort of surprised when things wane in marriage like some god of badness has descended upon them. Do guys not realize that marriage is a life long deal and like everything else things will wane? Isnt that the ultimate test of ones love for another? Keeping the issue alive? Visiting escorts as far as Im concerned can easily cause a further drift in the marriage as the issue on the surface is satisfied (the sex) but the real underlying issues that may create problems will linger on ,beneath the surface, creating further barriers within the marriage. Everything looses its sparkle in life. Everything. Its up to each of us to reignite that sparkle ,assuming we want to.

In any event my head is splitting in two from a night of drinking. Stale air and smelly farts are the way to go here this Sunday. I will go and lie down now but if I dont return, Im either banned or have died in my sleep.

Im more coherent when Im drunk,
Westside.

PS pssst Its me, sssssssssssh told tell anyone.

[UKHeather]

And why is that?

Because it's a situation where a man decides it's ok to use a woman for his own selfish needs.

[UKHeather]

I'm sorry you feel like that Heather and from a male perspective I wholly disagree with you -- but I would say that wouldnt I ?
However, I much prefer to read posts from escorts speaking from the heart than reading ' all sweetness and light '.

Why are you sorry? I am a woman and I'm realistic. I would be a traitor to my own sex if I thought like a man