Your spelling and grammar are sub-par.
Have you ever served in a combat unit?
I guess the answer is no.
To maximize the chances of success, the military must defeat the paralyzing effects of fear on the soldier and what the famous Prussian theorist Clausewitz called the "fog of uncertainty." This they do by means of an ethos that stresses morale, discipline, order and cohesion. Anything that threatens the non-sexual bonding that lies at the heart of cohesion adversely affects morale, disciple and order, generating friction. Service by homosexuals poses such a threat, that homosexuality is incompatible with service because it undermines the ethos upon which success depends. Winning wars is the imperative. Indeed, it is the only reason for a society to maintain a military. War is terror and confusion. War is characterized by death, chance, uncertainty and friction. The ethos constitutes an response to these factors—an attempt to defeat their impact. Accordingly, the military stresses virtues such as , physical and moral courage, a sense of honor and duty, discipline, a professional code of conduct, and loyalty. It places a premium on such factors as unit cohesion and morale.
The key of the military ethos is what the Greeks called philia—friendship, comradeship Philia, the bond among disparate individuals who have nothing in common but facing death and terror together, is the source of the unit cohesion that most research has shown to be critical to battlefield success. Philia depends on fairness and the absence of favoritism. Favoritism and double standards are deadly to philia and its associated phenomena—cohesion, morale and discipline—are absolutely critical to the success of a military organization. The presence of homosexuals in the close confines of ships or military units opens the possibility that eros—which unlike philia is sexual, and therefore individual and exclusive—will be unleashed into the environment. Eros manifests itself as sexual competition, protectiveness and favoritism, all of which undermine the nonsexual bonding essential to unit cohesion, good order, discipline and morale. As Sen. James Webb (D., Va.), who was awarded the Navy Cross for valor as a Marine officer in Vietnam, wrote in the Weekly Standard in 1997, "There is no greater or more natural bias than that of an individual toward a beloved. And few emotions are more powerful, or more distracting, than those surrounding the pursuit of, competition for, or the breaking off of amorous relationships."

The destructive impact of such relationships on unit cohesion can be denied only by ideologues.

Does a superior order his or her beloved into danger?
If he or she demonstrates favoritism, what is the consequence for unit morale and discipline?
What happens when jealousy rears its head?

These are questions of life and death, and they help to explain why homosexuality and homosexual behavior traditionally have been considered incompatible with military service.
The reason for excluding open homosexuals from the military has nothing to do with equal rights or freedom of expression. The primary consideration must be military effectiveness.