Are u mr pink from RESERVOIR DOGS ?
You see,every stick has 2 ends.
You can meet nice girls and not as nice weathere they are independent or agency.
If i need choose apartment or hotel,i would say apartment.
Look for someone 'established' in Cork that been located in same place for long time,is your type,has got good reviews from guys such as ber,zoobanzoo,dirtydan etc as they are honest punters.
Don't be paranoid when you go to girl,as it could make her tiny bit nervous too.
No one will judge you if you are too nervous. Tell girl what you feel like,and i am sure she will make you comfortable starting off with nice massage and will take time.
It s very simple.
Good Luck
I m still lurking sometimes ;-)