Anyone in a LTR yet still punt with a clear mind?

[TommyH123]

Some top tier replies, thanks folks.

The internal guilt part is a major sticking point for me. I mean, Im pretty sensitive guy, shit like accidentally stepping on a snail makes me feel awful for hours afterwards!

Its like, will the fantasy turn into a nightmare if I become ridden with guilt? Or should it stay a fantasy?

A few years ago I would have quoted a famous R Kelly song but thats not cool anymore!

Anyway, off to add more ladies to my favs list.

I think it would bug you if you can’t compartmentalise it, put it all in its own wee section in your head and label it “fantasy time”, take it handy and be careful, it’s easy to loose the run of yourself, treat it for what it is, no strings fun

[JinDublin]

Good topic for a thread. There’s always an element of guilt (for me, anyway) but never enough to make me stop. The only thing that curtails my visits is a lack of cash. I love the thrill of seeing someone completely new — I almost never go back to the same escort. I actually love the transactional nature of it. No interest in GFE at all — PSE all the way!

[IAmLIAm]

I like the idea of a pure PSE, but I can't really get out of my own head when it comes down to it. Even one night stands in the past, while exhilarating in the pursuit and action, would leave me a bit depressed/self-loathing once the post cotial clarity kicked in. I think that's why I actually enjoy the massage girls. The transactional nature of it doesn't bother me there (I have no false presence of needing to pleasure their hands). For what ever reason sex still takes a level of emotional entanglement for me to be in a good headspace afterwards (even with an escort). I am glad that I did get to have one FS escort experience while in Dublin (well, technically two but it was the same girl within a week so for me it's one prolonged experience). Even as enjoyable as those visits were, I'm not sure the FS route is for me (due to my mentality, and my previously mentioned SO boundaries/respect... that lead to some conversations). So, I'll just have to live the PSE vicariously through you lot.