Burning your Boats

[User300415]

Ok, I appreciate that most of us on these boards have done it at least once. Making the decision to be a service provider or a service user means that you have crossed the Rubicon, you have burnt your boats on the shore. There is no going back to where you were beforehand.

But have you ever done anything else that was so dramatic that there could never be a turning back?

On a couple of occasions I have quit jobs without having the security of knowing exactly where the next move would take me – it just felt necessary at the time. I came close this year to leaving my family, my job and my country. God, how that would have been a disaster. And I recently pulled the walls crashing down around me Samson-like to ensure that a relationship could never ever revive. The only way from then on was forward and away.

So how about you?

[Clyde]

Ok, I appreciate that most of us on these boards have done it at least once. Making the decision to be a service provider or a service user means that you have crossed the Rubicon, you have burnt your boats on the shore. There is no going back to where you were beforehand.

But have you ever done anything else that was so dramatic that there could never be a turning back?

On a couple of occasions I have quit jobs without having the security of knowing exactly where the next move would take me – it just felt necessary at the time. I came close this year to leaving my family, my job and my country. God, how that would have been a disaster. And I recently pulled the walls crashing down around me Samson-like to ensure that a relationship could never ever revive. The only way from then on was forward and away.

So how about you?

Jezzzz you getting a divorce .... about time

[Banjaxed]

Nope, I like to keep my options open and know what's around the next corner. At the moment I don't, so it drives me fucking mad but eventually you've no choice but to make a decision and stick with it without looking back or you'll sink completely.

Good for you that you finally have decided that you were ready to reach that point, I wish you luck.

[very shy guy]

Ohh! yes EA,you bet,burnt boats,bridges and everthing else you could think of,as for onward and upward,good luck with that,as for me I think that I was a bit to hasty with the matches.

[longtipp]

Sometimes it's necessary to draw a line that you are not willing to cross, and then step over it.

[User300415]

Guys, This thread is not about me. Genuinely interested in hearing about situations where people made a choice and then ensured that there was no possible opt-out.

[UB40]

Guys, This thread is not about me. Genuinely interested in hearing about situations where people made a choice and then ensured that there was no possible opt-out.

Marriage used to be Like that! But times change.

[UB40]

Sometimes it's necessary to draw a line that you are not willing to cross, and then step over it.

Reminds me of Ray Burke years ago. A line in the sand if I recall!

[dr love]

Yep back in my younger days EA , but not so much now .
Wisdom I think it's called , but ya do burn a few boats on the way to said wisdom .: doc

[Morpheus]

Ok, I appreciate that most of us on these boards have done it at least once. Making the decision to be a service provider or a service user means that you have crossed the Rubicon, you have burnt your boats on the shore. There is no going back to where you were beforehand.

But have you ever done anything else that was so dramatic that there could never be a turning back?

On a couple of occasions I have quit jobs without having the security of knowing exactly where the next move would take me – it just felt necessary at the time. I came close this year to leaving my family, my job and my country. God, how that would have been a disaster. And I recently pulled the walls crashing down around me Samson-like to ensure that a relationship could never ever revive. The only way from then on was forward and away.

So how about you?

I know exactly what you mean EA!!

I had to make a choice some years ago between staying with the girl I loved or returning to fulfill family commitements.

I ended up returning to Ireland to fulfill my family responsibilites.

I was completely torn at the time between what I wanted to do (stay and have a life with the love of my life) and what I felt was my duty! When I made the decision it was like crossing the Rubicon, especially when I told all parties concerned what my decision was. Even after making the decision I was so distraught but I stuck with it.

My life is obviously very different from what it would have been if I had chosen otherwise. I still don't know if I made the right decision and I actually think there isn't such thing as the right decision. There was no winning what ever choice I made - and people were going to get hurt either way!

I think in life we just have to live with the consequences of our decisions and not look back. Otherwise regret will eat you up!