discriminating escorts

[UKHeather]

I will see disabled clients when facilities at the accommodation are suitable. I have been on the tLC website for a long while.
One thing I wish to mention to disabled clients is:
Please be honest and give as much information about your disability and limitations as possible!
I had a call from a gent with disability. During the call I asked about his condition. He simply said, Yes everything is normal functional and okay. I am simply in a wheelchair. When i got to his hotel, I had a shock as he was around 2 feet tall with a severe spine curvature and massively excessive body hair. I had to lift him and the mechanics of sex were incredibly difficult. I found the booking VERY uncomfortable and had I known the full extent I would not have agreed to the booking. It was my problem entirely, but because of my feelings about it my problem became his problem. In an ideal world everyone would see past disability but I'm afraid that is not the reality.

[JohnRambo]

I personally don’t have a problem whatsoever if an escort refuses to see me just because of my disability, I don’t take it personally as I just tell myself they don’t know me, all they know is my disability and so if that’s how and what they think of disabled people that’s fine, that’s their problem, their prejudges, NOT mine and in actual fact I’d rather her be completely straight up and honest and say she doesn’t feel totally comfortable seeing me for whatever reason rather than her agree to seeing me even though inside she’s not really happy as the appointment will most likely not be a good one and so this will help either people.

What I do have a problem with is the use of language sometimes, using such terms as “escorts who can stomach it” is downright insulting, offensive and hurtful.

If anyone was to come on here and said they couldn’t stomach seeing an Asian guy, a black guy, a Jewish guy, there would be mayhem but saying such a thing about disabled people seems to be acceptable, at the end of the day such words make you feel as if you’re subhuman and worthless

I remember a while back there was an Asian guy who came onto the board saying how some escorts refused to see him just because he was Asian. The number of responses from everyone saying how bad they felt for the guy just because of his race was huge, but the silence on this thread just goes to show you what people really think.

[dr love]

John make no mistake I won't tolerate and disrespectful posting in here .

The silence you mention would that not be that people know very little on the subject .: doc

[Melindablondey]

I use to meet disabled people when i use to have app on the ground floor but since i moved my app is now on the second floor and would not be suitable to get a disabled person up only for that i dont have a problem with disabled people but i would call out to them if they wished no problem xxx

[hd7055]

Am I the only one to find some of the posts on this thread really f***ing offensive?

[LaBelleThatcher]

Best advice, if you have special needs, make your first approach by email or pm to the lady. Don't just say that you are disabled. Give us some credit and state in a couple of sentences how your disability changes the landscape, so to speak. Men with premature ejaculation or anorgasmia use the TLC web site because they consider themselves disabled. But that's too wide a blanket. Disability could be Tourettes, Duchennes Muscular Dystrophy, Spina Bifida, Cerebal Palsy, the wearing of a catheter (forgotten the name for this permanent pouch), drooling or blindness. Each is different and has different needs and implications. And a lady deserves, without any pressure, social or political, to say, yes, the resources I have available to me are enought to give me the option to fuck your brains out should you wish. And you may be related to, best friends with, or a carer to a disabled person. But until you have to fuck them, you cannot understand that it is not always as easy as dropping one's knickers.

xxx

Pru

Every word added up to an awesome post, but the conclusion above is the best of it.

Not every escort will have the qualities required to meet your needs (though I am sure most of them could manage a quick hand shandy, are you *SURE* that is all you want and deserve from your sex life?) so give the ladies that have those qualities a chance to do their best for you? Please?

It is only what you deserve.

[LaBelleThatcher]

I personally don’t have a problem whatsoever if an escort refuses to see me just because of my disability, I don’t take it personally as I just tell myself they don’t know me, all they know is my disability and so if that’s how and what they think of disabled people that’s fine, that’s their problem, their prejudges, NOT mine and in actual fact I’d rather her be completely straight up and honest and say she doesn’t feel totally comfortable seeing me for whatever reason rather than her agree to seeing me even though inside she’s not really happy as the appointment will most likely not be a good one and so this will help either people.

What I do have a problem with is the use of language sometimes, using such terms as “escorts who can stomach it” is downright insulting, offensive and hurtful.

If anyone was to come on here and said they couldn’t stomach seeing an Asian guy, a black guy, a Jewish guy, there would be mayhem but saying such a thing about disabled people seems to be acceptable, at the end of the day such words make you feel as if you’re subhuman and worthless

I remember a while back there was an Asian guy who came onto the board saying how some escorts refused to see him just because he was Asian. The number of responses from everyone saying how bad they felt for the guy just because of his race was huge, but the silence on this thread just goes to show you what people really think.

I am including this entire John because I *SO* get this too...(in case anyone is wondering where I stayed in training for sex worker rights issues over the years, it has been on other areas of marginalisation and alienation, like disability, that can be strikingly similar...and even more hurtful and destructive because you don't get the same option on hiding from them).

I am not someone who would ever have made a good escort for disabled people, but that is because of *MY* failings in terms of sensitivity to others and people skills, that affect other areas of my life too...but having said that I had one regular wheelchair user that I really looked forward to because we had the same sense of humour and wound up spending most of the time collapsed in laughter...and the useless legs, and the incontinency pads and the unpredictable semi paralysis (everybody is aware that paralysis isn't a always a rigidly defined cut off, sensitivity can come and go, or vary in different areas?) just DID NOT REGISTER compared to this lovely, joyful funny man who used his humour and wit to make the whole meeting fun *FOR ME* on terms *I* felt comfortable with.

[Anna23]

u might want to read this thread again to read the terrible comment by an escort just try & be fair to posters & escorts alike

Sorry Darren, I've explained on the wrong thread. Here https://www.escort-ireland.com/board...Friendly/page5 Sometimes I have problems with syntax. Apologies if it came accross as offending, which is not what i meant.

[JohnRambo]

I totally and fully agree with what Darren has just said, it was never in question, never a problem or was never the issue that an escort has absolute and total right to see whoever she wants to see without having to give reasons to anyone, it was the humiliating detailed posts that followed which has been the cause of offensive to so many.

I would never ever want to or would try and pressurise anyone into meeting me if they didn’t want to or feel completely and totally comfortable in meeting because of my disability, I can fully accept that, what I can’t accept is the degrading language and attitudes by some over the past few days on an open forum which is supposed to be open to all and all inclusive.

[Anna23]

My explanation and apology conveniently ignored...

And conveniently there is a point being made, that everyone feels that escort should never be questioned on who they don't decide to see. Unfortunately, I am the only escort willing to share my views on this topic (despite the fact that according to the OP it is a majority of escorts who chose not to see disabled people), and in my experience ALL the people who I had to refuse questioned me on that. Even John couldnt spare a chance to remind me of my unfortunate choices.
I wonder, why not more escorts feel free to share their choice not to see disabled people. Perhaps its because someone has an axe to grind here and it ain't me. Again, we are down to the attitude issue as obviously some people just cannot get over the fact, that escorts can chose who they will see, even if that means not to see a particular group of people.
I have explained and apologized. I have been ignored. Do I need to go hang myself to make you guys happy? Why not move on?