Secret diary of a Dublin call girl

[Lucy Chambers]

and she shall work through it Luce she took the first step which tells herself she is ready to work them out.. after all this is what is wrong with a lot they wont ask for help when they need it..sometimes problems can not be solved without help.. unfortunately it takes a lot to talk and trust.. glad she has taken that step..x

I have asked DCG if she would like to comment on this thread. If so, I will publish her reply.


x

[Vasco da Gama]

Interesting blog today. As mentioned in my previous post, now that I know the blogger is real, I have a new found respect for what she says. I fully appreciate it is her opinion /perspective, and doesn't apply to every escort. Although as has been highlighted, many girls can relate to at least some of what she is saying.

http://secretdiaryofadublincallgirl.wordpress.com/

For the first time in her blog, she admits there are nice punters. She doesn't excuse them, and says they still hurt her. But she does acknowlege that not all punters are the same.

Basically I think that just as there are many reasons a woman becomes an escort, there are many reasons that men become punters. I feel sorry for many of them. Not in a superior way, but in a way that understands where bad choices lead. I do feel that punters don’t have to make these choices out of duress, previous sexual abuse or coercion, so obviously my feeling towards escorts, all escorts, is one of empathy. It’s hard to have compassion and empathy for punters, even if I do have a vague feeling of understanding for some of them.

I am not making any excuses for punters here, and I’m not apologising for their behaviour and attitudes towards women. Neither am I villifying all punters as violent sexual deviants. It doesn’t make what they do okay, just because some of them are nice about it. Getting mugged is getting mugged, whether the mugger to polite to you or not. You’ve still just been mugged.


The average punter was nice to me, and had normalised his activity so much that it was just like shaking hands to him. I used to ask them about their wives and girlfriends, just to try to find out why they bought sex. I never got a good answer though, just a joke answer


This next bit upsets me most because it makes me wonder if I can ever tell if a girl is doing this willingly or happily. (I am obviously very upset about her description of the power trippers and violent clients. But I am not like that and try to show as much respect as I can to any escort. As much if not more than to anyone else I might meet on a daily basis.)

Out of these average punters, a few have stayed with me as if I’d seen them yesterday. And I’m sad for them because I know that they are alright guys. One of them no longer uses escorts. I still keep in touch with him, and a couple of others. I had a long conversation with him once about my past and he said he never ever would have guessed. He said he thought I was just a nymphomaniac. I was a good escort. And as I said earlier, I was good at being a good escort

I revisit a number of ladies who seem very comfortable with what they do. They seem to tolerate my company quite happily. But her comments here just make me wonder - will I ever know the truth?

[Lucy Chambers]

Interesting blog today. As mentioned in my previous post, now that I know the blogger is real, I have a new found respect for what she says. I fully appreciate it is her opinion /perspective, and doesn't apply to every escort. Although as has been highlighted, many girls can relate to at least some of what she is saying.

http://secretdiaryofadublincallgirl.wordpress.com/

For the first time in her blog, she admits there are nice punters. She doesn't excuse them, and says they still hurt her. But she does acknowlege that not all punters are the same.

Basically I think that just as there are many reasons a woman becomes an escort, there are many reasons that men become punters. I feel sorry for many of them. Not in a superior way, but in a way that understands where bad choices lead. I do feel that punters don’t have to make these choices out of duress, previous sexual abuse or coercion, so obviously my feeling towards escorts, all escorts, is one of empathy. It’s hard to have compassion and empathy for punters, even if I do have a vague feeling of understanding for some of them.

I am not making any excuses for punters here, and I’m not apologising for their behaviour and attitudes towards women. Neither am I villifying all punters as violent sexual deviants. It doesn’t make what they do okay, just because some of them are nice about it. Getting mugged is getting mugged, whether the mugger to polite to you or not. You’ve still just been mugged.


The average punter was nice to me, and had normalised his activity so much that it was just like shaking hands to him. I used to ask them about their wives and girlfriends, just to try to find out why they bought sex. I never got a good answer though, just a joke answer


This next bit upsets me most because it makes me wonder if I can ever tell if a girl is doing this willingly or happily. (I am obviously very upset about her description of the power trippers and violent clients. But I am not like that and try to show as much respect as I can to any escort. As much if not more than to anyone else I might meet on a daily basis.)

Out of these average punters, a few have stayed with me as if I’d seen them yesterday. And I’m sad for them because I know that they are alright guys. One of them no longer uses escorts. I still keep in touch with him, and a couple of others. I had a long conversation with him once about my past and he said he never ever would have guessed. He said he thought I was just a nymphomaniac. I was a good escort. And as I said earlier, I was good at being a good escort

I revisit a number of ladies who seem very comfortable with what they do. They seem to tolerate my company quite happily. But her comments here just make me wonder - will I ever know the truth?

You want the truth? You want to know my cat died, (I havent got a cat) my mortgage has hefty interest and every day is a drip drip drip of how far can you be pushed?

Of course you don't. You want a happy sexy imaginative girl. Which is what I am. Thats what I am paid to be. We may be people, warts and all, but I am not paid for the warts. You may want tohear this now, but the average Joe, he wants Disneyworld.

This is like Disney baby. The nuts and bolts are hidden behind a pretty picture.

[Vasco da Gama]

It is not a joint effort. The lady received counselling from Ruhama and left feeling less than helped. I shall talk to her further and see if she feels able to comment on this. I was off in my first assessment.

Apologies for my presumtion and thank you for your clarification Lucy. You obviously know the lady concerned, and as mentioned before, your word is good enough for me.

It is very sad to hear that she felt less than helped but Ruhamma. Because they will certainly be using her blog as fuel to "end escorting" in Ireland as we know it.

I would be very happy personally to hear any thoughts she wants expressed on this thread. I will certainly refrain from any retort to her comments, as I have been very saddenned to hear what she has had to go through.

[UncleBob]

This next bit upsets me most because it makes me wonder if I can ever tell if a girl is doing this willingly or happily.

Clever troll. Hello, Ruhama.

[Lucy Chambers]

Clever troll. Hello, Ruhama.

The poster is one you have fawned all over in his other ID, so think again.

[Vasco da Gama]

You want the truth? You want to know my cat died, (I havent got a cat) my mortgage has hefty interest and every day is a drip drip drip of how far can you be pushed?

Of course you don't. You want a happy sexy imaginative girl. Which is what I am. Thats what I am paid to be. We may be people, warts and all, but I am not paid for the warts. You may want tohear this now, but the average Joe, he wants Disneyworld.

This is like Disney baby. The nuts and bolts are hidden behind a pretty picture.

That is a bit harsh Lucy. I am sorry if I offended. I'm not talking about that kind of truth. Clearly a girls personal life is not a punters business. And certainly us punters pay for a fantasy - the GFE or whatever.

But it would really upset me to find out that a girl I see regularly feels exactly as as DCG. I'm not under the illusion that escorting is a bed of roses. But what DCG describes is very traumatic. And I would not want to have any part in that.

[Lucy Chambers]

That is a bit harsh Lucy. I am sorry if I offended. I'm not talking about that kind of truth. Clearly a girls personal life is not a punters business. And certainly us punters pay for a fantasy - the GFE or whatever.

But it would really upset me to find out that a girl I see regularly feels exactly as as DCG. I'm not under the illusion that escorting is a bed of roses. But what DCG describes is very traumatic. And I would not want to have any part in that.

You havent offended me at all. I am just trying to point out the impossibility of telling the truth, sometimes. I am the girl that is paid never to have a headache Guess what? I get headaches

I know we have to sell a product. I know how to sell that product and I know how to do it with the least possible pain to me and the consumer. However, there is the elephant in the room. Here is the reality for some ladies. It isnt nice.

[UKHeather]

That is a bit harsh Lucy. I am sorry if I offended. I'm not talking about that kind of truth. Clearly a girls personal life is not a punters business. And certainly us punters pay for a fantasy - the GFE or whatever.

But it would really upset me to find out that a girl I see regularly feels exactly as as DCG. I'm not under the illusion that escorting is a bed of roses. But what DCG describes is very traumatic. And I would not want to have any part in that.

If you are a nice guy, not a problematic client, then you can rest assured that the escort will likely appreciate that and you will make her day better than an asshole client.. What you cannot do is change her life, her perception of the clients as a whole or that of the job she's in.

[UncleBob]

The poster is one you have fawned all over in his other ID, so think again.

Maybe you'd like to share who you think "his other ID" is, then.