Is this acceptable........?

[Anna23]

Ok normally I make first contact with a lady by PM. Broke my own rule this morning and made a couple of phone calls. Unfortunately I didn't get through to any of the ladies. I didn't leave any messages and the "window of opportunity" passed so to speak.

Move on, forget about it until next time. I normally plan in advance anyway - I much prefer this.

A few minutes ago I received a text message from a number I didn't recognise.
When I checked I was surprised / shocked / horrified to find out that the text was from one of the ladies that I'd tried to contact earlier.

Now I know that the old hands here will say use a punting phone / sim ya ya but I don't and I'm sure that there are many like me that should but.......

To put it into context the text arrived about 3 1/2 hours after my call. It wasn't explicit but would still require explaining if seen by the wrong person (it wasn't). Also the lady in question is a well respected and regular poster. I think that this is very unprofessional and I'm surprised at this lady, whom I've never actually met but would love to.

So boys and especially girls........is this acceptable?

IMHO - no, a text 5-10 min later is fine but 3 1/2 hours later

btw I have come across a lady who has a voicemail message on her phone saying "the office is unattended etc" which I think is very clever should your missus find the number on your phone and decide to ring it.

See, I never texted anyone like this. However lately I'm thinking, what the heck, I say it on my profile for some 3+ years, that I don't wish to receive txt, yet for 3+ plus years, there is a wealth of gentlemen who send me txt. Of course I have a different phone for these encounters but I also have a very good reason for not wishing to receive txts.
Considering I state it clearly, that I dont do txt, is this acceptable? It probably is, I'm just a whore after all. So I'll accept, that this is the way it is and behave the same way in return. That seems to be the sensible thing to do.

[anon361]

See, I never texted anyone like this. However lately I'm thinking, what the heck, I say it on my profile for some 3+ years, that I don't wish to receive txt, yet for 3+ plus years, there is a wealth of gentlemen who send me txt. Of course I have a different phone for these encounters but I also have a very good reason for not wishing to receive txts.
Considering I state it clearly, that I dont do txt, is this acceptable? It probably is, I'm just a whore after all. So I'll accept, that this is the way it is and behave the same way in return. That seems to be the sensible thing to do.

and If I jump into the fire will you jump in after me, i think not, as an escort I would expect you have the correct tools of the trade and a seperate phone would be one of them and not your personal one. I agree it would be annoying to constantly recieve texts from people that don't read your ad properly but surely that would not justify tarring everyone with the same brush.
I do empathise with you Anna and I know you are just getting it off your chest but in case some ladies do take you literally i would like to say as a genuine client that wouldn't be in any way far..

[BACMAN36]

See, I never texted anyone like this. However lately I'm thinking, what the heck, I say it on my profile for some 3+ years, that I don't wish to receive txt, yet for 3+ plus years, there is a wealth of gentlemen who send me txt. Of course I have a different phone for these encounters but I also have a very good reason for not wishing to receive txts.
Considering I state it clearly, that I dont do txt, is this acceptable? It probably is, I'm just a whore after all. So I'll accept, that this is the way it is and behave the same way in return. That seems to be the sensible thing to do.

The simple answer is no, it's not acceptable that you receive unwanted texts. There is a slight difference however. You chose to advertise your number on an escort site. This leaves you open too all types of gents contacting you by all manner of methods. When I say all types of gent I mean the good, the bad, the ugly as well as weird and wonderful.


A lot of guys just see the photos and phone number and the little brain takes over. I'm not saying that this is right, it ain't, but it happens.

Gents without punting phones/sims or new to the scene rely on the discretion and professionalism of the ladies we contact. I just felt that this lady broke this "code" of discretion and that newbies should be aware of the potentional dangers.

Not sure if I read your post correctly but you seem be be implying that you will start texting back as and when you feel like it. If this is the case then I'm sure most people here will condemn such an action by any lady.

Another point and I know that I shouldn't make assumptions but I'm sure that your BF/partner knows of your part-time activities and is ok with them. Therefore you don't have to hide your phone with the unwanted texts. We all know that a lot of punters are in relationships and therefore unwanted texts are slightly different for us.

[samlad]

and If I jump into the fire will you jump in after me, i think not, as an escort I would expect you have the correct tools of the trade and a seperate phone would be one of them and not your personal one. I agree it would be annoying to constantly recieve texts from people that don't read your ad properly but surely that would not justify tarring everyone with the same brush.
I do empathise with you Anna and I know you are just getting it off your chest but in case some ladies do take you literally i would like to say as a genuine client that wouldn't be in any way far..

There are guys that just blanket-bomb random ladies anyway just to try their luck. I've seen this happen on swinging and dating sites many time before. They never, ever read the profile details. In fact, I've seen messages like, "Please type Elephant in the message title so I know you've read the profile properly" mixed in with their profile details.

[anon361]

There are guys that just blanket-bomb random ladies anyway just to try their luck. I've seen this happen on swinging and dating sites many time before. They never, ever read the profile details.

I know Sam, there are some awful eejits out there.. and it's a good thing some ladies tell clients to add elephant into the wording of any texts recieved to ensure they have read their profile correctly..

[samlad]

I know Sam, there are some awful eejits out there..

Sorry... I added to the message.

[blue8671]

I only use one phone and I keep in regular contact with a couple of escorts I have known for quite some time via text messages, I would never however send or expect to receive a text from a escort im not known to and have not met several times.

[lucifersam]

Under no circumstances should a lady call, txt or otherwise contact a client unless permission has explicitly been received in advance, I thought this is one of the requirements of discretion. Personally. I would be livid if this happened to me, hunter phone or not. In fact I am horrified that this could happen.

[Curvaceous Kate]

I'm not sure if this point has been made yet, but I sometimes get potential clients or ones I have met who have told me it is fine to call them or text them and for me to keep them in touch with my visits etc. Now I refuse to do this, because I only have to make one mistake and accidently ring one wrong person and someones life could come crashing down on them. However this seems to come across as not being bothered, which is not the case and I rarely see these guys again.

Those of you who are in the unique position of being able to take calls. Can you please not take non contact personally and understand that we are holding people's lives in our hands and it's just too great a risk to take.

I always respond if I'm free to do so at the time of a call or text, but even the passing of time will stop me, as you don't know if that person is still able to talk freely.

Don't move on thinking they are not interested and just wait and call/text again another time.

[Lucy Chambers]

Hey bacman any clues to the "lady in question is a well respected and regular poster"
did she post in this thread and was she in dublin?

Golly, you are awfully keen on this name and shame thing, hey? Dont you think it somewhat unlikely the lady would post on this thread?