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[Morpheus]

Guys have you ever started a relationship with an escort?If yes what hapenned?It seems to me that some guys confuse punting with going out and tryin to find a girlfriend.My opinion is: wrong wrong wrong P.S. Just need to show to my dear friend she is wrong to have feelings and go out with a client

Thanks for the thread Luana . It's a question that keeps coming up - because it's a real issue in this industry/ lifestyle.

It's easy for guys/ clients to get confused.

I can only govern my own actions (and not that of the lady involved). So as a client I have to keep reminding myself (after the encounter) that this is a professional arrangement and that all the wonderful things the lovely lady said and did to me, are part of this arrangement.

It isn't easy though but I feel it would be very unfair to any of the ladies if I started to get confused about our professional relationship. So it is a discipline that I attempt to strictly maintain.

I think the frequency that I see an individual lady can contribute to this. I haven't been at this long, but when I first started, I latched on to two lovely ladies. I would probably have been a "regular" by their standards. They've both left for good now and so I can't see them anymore (which is probably for the best). But I felt my heart strings tug when one of them in particular left. It wasn't anything too serious but it was a lesson for me.

My particular penchant is to revisit ladies I've already seen rather than seeing someone new everytime. So nowadays I try to consciously space out my appointments with the ladies I revisit so as to ensure that i am not revisiting anyone with too great a frequency for my emotional safety.

Don't get me wrong - I have some sort of friendship and relationship with the ladies I revisit within the context of a professional arrangement . And I enjoy and cherish these relationships but endeavour not to go beyond acceptable boundries.

However, if a lady were to make the first move and suggest we go beyond the scope of our professional relationship, I'm not sure what I will do. Everyone wants to be in love and have that exclusive relationship with that one special person. On the one hand since I'm immersed in this industry, it would seem like a dream come true. That's my heart talking.

On the other hand my brain (not my penis) tells me that I this is going to be incredibly complicated!!! .

[ksteve]

Guys have you ever started a relationship with an escort?If yes what hapenned?It seems to me that some guys confuse punting with going out and tryin to find a girlfriend.My opinion is: wrong wrong wrong P.S. Just need to show to my dear friend she is wrong to have feelings and go out with a client

Great to see you post Luana.

No,I have never started nor would ever I try to start a relationship with an escort. I would deliberately space out return visits to my favourite escorts in order to avoid this. If I want to find another relationship, I will look in civvy street !

[max california]

I haven't ever had a relationship with an escort, although there are several I'd consider friends. The two main reasons (apart from the fact that none of them would be interested)are I don't want a relationship, that's why I visit escorts.
Secondly if we did have a relationship and split I'd never be able to go back to an escort-client relationship so it would mean sacrificing what we have.
And that's without getting in to the minefield of whether a lady is preparedto give up her career.

[EnglishAlex]

Guys have you ever started a relationship with an escort?If yes what hapenned?It seems to me that some guys confuse punting with going out and tryin to find a girlfriend.My opinion is: wrong wrong wrong P.S. Just need to show to my dear friend she is wrong to have feelings and go out with a client

If you ask in the ladies private forum you'll get answers from women have been in the same situation as your friend.

My answer is that people are people and it doesn't matter where we meet them, you don't choose who you fall in love with. Sometimes you meet ' the one' in the most crazy place.

I'd be wary of the client just using the word 'love' to get free sex though. It's not uncommon in this business for girls to be strung along by clients, just like it's not uncommon for ladies to pretend to be more interested in the client than she would be in an escort/client relationship so he keeps coming back and spends a fortune on her.

Unfortunately both of these situations occur so your friend needs to be careful, as does the gent she's falling for.

If your friend is reading this, good luck to you darlin Love can be a great thing x

[EnglishAlex]

And that's without getting in to the minefield of whether a lady is preparedto give up her career.

Why would she need to? It's her career and to expect her to change could be seen as a bit selfish. Not personally attacking you Max, just asking the question that's all

[luana X]

[QUOTE=max california;615622]I haven't ever had a relationship with an escort, although there are several I'd consider friends. The two main reasons (apart from the fact that none of them would be interested)are I don't want a relationship, that's why I visit escorts.
Now this is what i think on a way,let's just keep it real. Tks babe

[luana X]

If you ask in the ladies private forum you'll get answers from women have been in the same situation as your friend.

My answer is that people are people and it doesn't matter where we meet them, you don't choose who you fall in love with. Sometimes you meet ' the one' in the most crazy place.

I'd be wary of the client just using the word 'love' to get free sex though. It's not uncommon in this business for girls to be strung along by clients, just like it's not uncommon for ladies to pretend to be more interested in the client than she would be in an escort/client relationship so he keeps coming back and spends a fortune on her.

Unfortunately both of these situations occur so your friend needs to be careful, as does the gent she's falling for.

If your friend is reading this, good luck to you darlin Love can be a great thing x

I tottaly agree with you darlin,alot of men fall for atraction and think is love,and alot of girls by the comfort the guy gives them.My dear friend she's not a stupid girl,which i'm glad,so i hope like you said that her client(new boyfriend) is not using the word "love" for free sex

[luana X]

Thanks for the thread Luana . It's a question that keeps coming up - because it's a real issue in this industry/ lifestyle.

It's easy for guys/ clients to get confused.

I can only govern my own actions (and not that of the lady involved). So as a client I have to keep reminding myself (after the encounter) that this is a professional arrangement and that all the wonderful things the lovely lady said and did to me, are part of this arrangement.

It isn't easy though but I feel it would be very unfair to any of the ladies if I started to get confused about our professional relationship. So it is a discipline that I attempt to strictly maintain.

I think the frequency that I see an individual lady can contribute to this. I haven't been at this long, but when I first started, I latched on to two lovely ladies. I would probably have been a "regular" by their standards. They've both left
for good now and so I can't see them anymore (which is probably for the best). But I felt my heart strings tug when one of them in particular left. It wasn't anything too serious but it was a lesson for me.

My particular penchant is to revisit ladies I've already seen rather than seeing someone new everytime. So nowadays I try to consciously space out my appointments with the ladies I revisit so as to ensure that i am not revisiting anyone
with too great a frequency for my emotional safety.

Don't get me wrong - I have some sort of friendship and relationship with the ladies I revisit within the context of a professional arrangement . And I enjoy and cherish these relationships but endeavour not to go beyond acceptable boundries.

However, if a lady were to make the first move and suggest we go beyond the scope of our professional relationship, I'm not sure what I will do. Everyone wants to be in love and have that exclusive relationship with that one special person. On the one hand since I'm immersed in this industry, it would seem like a dream come true. That's my heart talking.

On the other hand my brain (not my penis) tells me that I this is going to be incredibly complicated!!! .

Aww,thanks Morpheus for your lovely words,i can see you really miss that special girl,as long as you keep her as a good memory i don't see it a problem.I have made a decision to let these two do their thing.She is my dear friend i will always be for her,but it's her life and who am i to stop her from exploring her feelings.have a good day all and thanks for sharing your thoughts about it.xxxx

[max california]

Why would she need to? It's her career and to expect her to change could be seen as a bit selfish. Not personally attacking you Max, just asking the question that's all

I don't think your attacking me at all. I just mean some guys might get possesive and expect their partner to give up escorting. I'm not saying this is always the case but maybe Luana's friend should be prepared.

[Notatwork]

Guys have you ever started a relationship with an escort?If yes what hapenned?It seems to me that some guys confuse punting with going out and tryin to find a girlfriend.My opinion is: wrong wrong wrong P.S. Just need to show to my dear friend she is wrong to have feelings and go out with a client

Hi Luana,i agree it is wrong for a guy to confuse punting which is business but if a client and an escort hit it off and feelings grow over time for each other.....thats life....i have heard of this happening twice over the last few years.....one couple actually got married and have a baby together.....so can happen and be a happy ending sometimes...