Relationships

[RicFlair]

Hmmmm...

As Dr Phil says "past behaviour reflects future behaviour". Willy you're fucked unless you seek professional guidance which I suggest you do because it can't be all the girls fault. Go to someone with the right qualifications and let it all out from the start in order to get the root cause.

Good luck.

[anitasizzle]

Hmmmm...

As Dr Phil says "past behaviour reflects future behaviour". Willy you're fucked unless you seek professional guidance which I suggest you do because it can't be all the girls fault. Go to someone with the right qualifications and let it all out from the start in order to get the root cause.

Good luck.

I beg to diffrer, some people have an effinity for meeting sociopaths; probably there's 'warning' signs at the beginning , but as this becomes the norm, one goes against their instincts in fear of overgeneralizing, being paranoid, or overintellectializing

[RicFlair]

I beg to diffrer, some people have an effinity for meeting sociopaths; probably there's 'warning' signs at the beginning , but as this becomes the norm, one goes against their instincts in fear of overgeneralizing, being paranoid, or overintellectializing

Thats true but I still think Willy needs to talk to a qualified pro in order to better understand this on going issue.

[sterotypicalusername]

There is a theory in some circles that people who end up in repetitive abusive relationships aren't just unlucky. Well there's loads of theories i suppose but the ones I'm thinking about are (A) That your actions and demeanour are inherently appealing to those of a predatory nature. That people who would be more inclined to be abusive see or sense certain traits that they zone in on. ( and yes, i added inherently coz i'm pretentious and wanted to sound smarter then I am). Or (B) That certain people have a victimisation complex that they seek to be fullfilled. This isn't so much a fetish as it's a more progression from some oedipal complex which needn't be sexual at all. Speaking for myself I've generally found that both have been true. I've been in relationships where my being kind/soft/weak has invited the actions which followed and other times when I thought I walked a very reasonable thought out stance shit still went pear shaped. Ultimately self analysis is retarded though as we can never truly trust that we see past our own bias of ourselves, whether those biases be negative or positive is irrelavant.

[anitasizzle]

There is a theory in some circles that people who end up in repetitive abusive relationships aren't just unlucky. Well there's loads of theories i suppose but the ones I'm thinking about are (A) That your actions and demeanour are inherently appealing to those of a predatory nature. That people who would be more inclined to be abusive see or sense certain traits that they zone in on. ( and yes, i added inherently coz i'm pretentious and wanted to sound smarter then I am). Or (B) That certain people have a victimisation complex that they seek to be fullfilled. This isn't so much a fetish as it's a more progression from some oedipal complex which needn't be sexual at all. Speaking for myself I've generally found that both have been true. I've been in relationships where my being kind/soft/weak has invited the actions which followed and other times when I thought I walked a very reasonable thought out stance shit still went pear shaped. Ultimately self analysis is retarded though as we can never truly trust that we see past our own bias of ourselves, whether those biases be negative or positive is irrelavant.

And then there's the type that predators envy and hate, and go out of their way to out-smart those, that have what they want or are what the predator would like to be' sociaopaths aren't called sociopaths for nothing.

[Tiffani Jameson]

Boy, that's some track record. You must be VERY good in bed for all of your ex's to be this mad over you LOL!

In all seriousness, I will tell you like I tell my 9 brothers. Don't be blinded by a woman's looks. All people, especially women, reveal certain negative aspects of their personality within minutes, but surely before the second date. You want to be able to close your eyes, and still be attracted to a lady. If you're particularly generous or soft-hearted, easily falling for sob stories, you may be attracting very needy women and aren't breaking it off when you see the pattern emerging.

Give yourself a break from finding a girlfriend and have some fun. In your civvie life, figure the characteristics you're looking for in a woman, think about when you missed the boat and what you ignored with your ex's (without self-assessment you will ALWAYS repeat your mistakes), and compare future love interests against your findings.

Remember gents, the very definition of CRAZY is doing the same things expecting different results...

All the best to you love!

[Monkeynut]

Boy, that's some track record. You must be VERY good in bed for all of your ex's to be this mad over you LOL!

In all seriousness, I will tell you like I tell my 9 brothers. Don't be blinded by a woman's looks. All people, especially women, reveal certain negative aspects of their personality within minutes, but surely before the second date. You want to be able to close your eyes, and still be attracted to a lady. If you're particularly generous or soft-hearted, easily falling for sob stories, you may be attracting very needy women and aren't breaking it off when you see the pattern emerging.

Give yourself a break from finding a girlfriend and have some fun. In your civvie life, figure the characteristics you're looking for in a woman, think about when you missed the boat and what you ignored with your ex's (without self-assessment you will ALWAYS repeat your mistakes), and compare future love interests against your findings.

Remember gents, the very definition of CRAZY is doing the same things expecting different results...

All the best to you love!

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