This is a bit of a buzzkill post, but I need advice...
I'm reaching out because I'm feeling quite confused and worried about my increasing frequency of visiting escorts and I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced something similar.
What started as visiting once a couple of months has now increased to 1 or 2 times a week. I spend a lot of time thinking about visiting, which is impacting my ability to focus on work and other personal life. Also I never get the same high as the first time I did this, and it's the preparation and expectation that excite me the most, but then I feel very low afterward.
I've tried to cut down or stop altogether, but I keep failing and falling back into the same patterns. I often feel intense shame and guilt after these encounters, but I can't seem to stop.
I recently came across Paula Hall's book "Understanding and Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction", which discusses the complexities of sex and porn addiction, including the impact on individuals' lives and relationships. It has made me realize that my situation might be more common than I thought and that there could be professional ways to seek help.
Has anyone else experienced something similar?
How did you come to terms with it, and did you seek help?
I would really appreciate any advice.
Thanks