Can we REALLY leave our escorting life behind and go back to how we were before?

[robijntje]

I think what she is saying is that young people tend not to have had enough time to develope socaily. They should be trying to get gfs and be able to develop relationships rather than just seeing an escort for sex.

We all have our own reasons to start punting, so young people have that as well

[Doozer]

We all have our own reasons to start punting, so young people have that as well

I am not saying young people dont have a right to start punting. Im sure they have their own reasons. What I am saying and this is only my own opinion, that young people should be trying to see regular women not escorts for their own personal growth

[Westsidex]

I was reading a blog yesteday and I have been wondering if it really is possible to not be "hardened" from escorting and to resume a life with a "normal" job and regain relationships without my last job effecting me?????

This is what the blog said-

"I am hardened from working. I am not exactly sure how to explain the feeling, but it is an awareness that i wish i didn't have. The knowledge of what its really like inside the world of prostitution is not pretty.
Yes, you can make it, you can pay your bills and get what you need, but you are going to walk away ( if your lucky enough to) feeling terrible. You've sold a part of yourself and you cant buy it back"

I know my view......but whats yours?

I know a few girls who have stopped escorting and gone on to be fine and doing very well. I said it before that the whole trick (bills or otehrwise) and this goes with anything in life ,is if it starts going against you, get out. This goes for anything.

I think the part about giving a part of yourself away comes down to a girls perception of the job and her own self esteem. I think a girl with natural higher self esteem will find it easier than a girl with naturally lower self esteem.Doesnt mean that a girl has low self esteem but some have higher.

If you built a wall and a block fell out what do you do? You can leave it as it is or fill the hole with another block or similar. This is the way an escort should look at it. How does she fill that void or in your own words that part you give away? Find someone to put it back.

If an escort is giving up escorting then give it up. No taling to punters you saw or knew. No hanging around places you worked etc. If your out then your out. This way along with simply seeing it as the beginning of a new phase of life ,i believe any escort can do well and very well too as she would have learned quite abit from her experience of being an escort. The trouble is ,is if you half do it. You half stop, half go around ppl that you met through it. Then its like a halfway house. Neither coming or going.

I think the danger for an escort is thinking all guys will see them as just someone for sex and this simply isnt true at all. I spent two bloody hours of my life trying to drill this into a girls mind one night. Oh all men just want sex, no such thing as love. Bullshit. Men need to be loved just as much as women and any guy that says otherwise is talking through his ass.

So if a girl is out she is out, make a fresh start, dont think all men just see you as someone for sex and more importantly understand that the past is just the past and only happened because its what you needed or had to do at that time.It has no further relevance to the future.

Westside.

[El Gordo]

I was reading a blog yesteday and I have been wondering if it really is possible to not be "hardened" from escorting and to resume a life with a "normal" job and regain relationships without my last job effecting me?????

This is what the blog said-

"I am hardened from working. I am not exactly sure how to explain the feeling, but it is an awareness that i wish i didn't have. The knowledge of what its really like inside the world of prostitution is not pretty.
Yes, you can make it, you can pay your bills and get what you need, but you are going to walk away ( if your lucky enough to) feeling terrible. You've sold a part of yourself and you cant buy it back"

I know my view......but whats yours?

I'm sure it's difficult to adjust, particularly at first. But one thing to keep in mind is that no one is going to write a blog about how they've had no problems. Why would they? On the internet you're always going to find the ones who are finding it hardest.

It's not just escorts, by the way. I saw this recently:

I left A&E because all I wanted to do was torture the patients - this is not healthy.

[Prophylactic]

I am not saying young people dont have a right to start punting. Im sure they have their own reasons. What I am saying and this is only my own opinion, that young people should be trying to see regular women not escorts for their own personal growth

Does this opinion also work the other way around?

That young escorts should not be escorting but trying to meet regular men and doing a regular job, for their own personal growth?

[Lucy Chambers]

Does this opinion also work the other way around?

That young escorts should not be escorting but trying to meet regular men and doing a regular job, for their own personal growth?

Yes. But escorting tends to be driven by financial need.

[robijntje]

I know a few girls who have stopped escorting and gone on to be fine and doing very well. I said it before that the whole trick (bills or otehrwise) and this goes with anything in life ,is if it starts going against you, get out. This goes for anything.

I think the part about giving a part of yourself away comes down to a girls perception of the job and her own self esteem. I think a girl with natural higher self esteem will find it easier than a girl with naturally lower self esteem.Doesnt mean that a girl has low self esteem but some have higher.

If you built a wall and a block fell out what do you do? You can leave it as it is or fill the hole with another block or similar. This is the way an escort should look at it. How does she fill that void or in your own words that part you give away? Find someone to put it back.

If an escort is giving up escorting then give it up. No taling to punters you saw or knew. No hanging around places you worked etc. If your out then your out. This way along with simply seeing it as the beginning of a new phase of life ,i believe any escort can do well and very well too as she would have learned quite abit from her experience of being an escort. The trouble is ,is if you half do it. You half stop, half go around ppl that you met through it. Then its like a halfway house. Neither coming or going.

I think the danger for an escort is thinking all guys will see them as just someone for sex and this simply isnt true at all. I spent two bloody hours of my life trying to drill this into a girls mind one night. Oh all men just want sex, no such thing as love. Bullshit. Men need to be loved just as much as women and any guy that says otherwise is talking through his ass.

So if a girl is out she is out, make a fresh start, dont think all men just see you as someone for sex and more importantly understand that the past is just the past and only happened because its what you needed or had to do at that time.It has no further relevance to the future.

Westside.

I definitely see your point here, West, and I agree with you.

However, severing all ties with the past, and also past clients... I'm not saying everyone should or shouldn't, that's your own choice, but what if you developed a friendship with one of your clients? Should you also give that up?

I know that is maybe very rare, but it happens, we're people in the first place.

[Prophylactic]

Yes. But escorting tends to be driven by financial need.

Im not trying to be obstinate here, but there are thousands upon thousands of young women, some just after leaving college, uni etc who have no jobs, low or no income, ladies who have been made unemployed, maybe some even have young families, mortgages etc but they make do, they survive, they live and 99% of them dont ever think, escorting is the answer to my problems, it doesnt even enter their mind, so im finding it hard, that financial reasons are the reasons why young, if any, escorts start in the profession

[Lucy Chambers]

That is not a discussion I will be drawn on, i'm afraid. If I could sit down and explain the realities to every young escort I meet then I would. But people make decisions- sometimes before they have much clue where those decisions can lead.

[Westsidex]

i really want a normal life nornal job boyfriend etc etc
but its so hard
im finding it really difficult to date at the mo, how do you trust someone,
when im working i get used to the whole getting a text after saying how fantastic i am (its good as it helps to know your doing a good job) but when you date you see someone for a few weeks then you sleep with them then they dont ring text or anything till the following week, its bloody head wrecking
if you working in a normal job you boos wont send messages saying your good at your job, how will i coupe, id be a nervous ass all the time

So whats harder? Not getting texts from a boss saying you are good at your job or sitting in a hotel room or an apt waiting for someone who never saw or knew knocking at the door to come in? Wouldnt this be harder than going to work, doing your work and going home again and who cares what this boss thinks as you think you did your best? In a job your work standard is the bosses problem, not yours. Just do your best and thats that.

If you go along the road of how can i trust anyone then you will only do everything in your life once and that would be all.Is that worth the risk? Is it really worth the risk? Remember when you dont trust someone you give off a false sense that the other person might pick up on and may be thinking the same thing that you are.

At the end of the day doesnt enough come along in life to try to kick us in the ass besides kicking ourselves in it?

Westside.