What's a crush???

[luther]

This was brought to my mind earlier by the lovely Sensual Delights.......

What the hell is a crush???

Is it just a passing admiration or infatuation with somone???

I thought I had a crush on a lovely girl I know a while back, but I thought it as just that, a crush, and I never acted in it. We knew each other quite well, spent some time together, enjoyed each others company but never thought she had, or would have any interest in me, I have issues with self confidence etc.......

She's out of the country for the last while but due back soon, and I thought while she was gone the feelings would fade, and they kind of had. I guess I'd just convinced myself that it was just a crush and nothing would ever come of it, but recent her name came up in conversation and a mutual friend, in a kind of passing way said "she had such a crush on you" and it really made me think.........

I'd just put it down to a crush, she really is lovely, a man couldn't help but like her or have a crush on her, she's just that type of girl, but since our friend made the remark I've started thinking about her again. We've had a bit of contact since she was away, initiated by her, kinda out of the blue, I didn't want to bother her when she wasn't around, and I guess I've never stopped thinking about her but now all this had really brought it back into my mind again........

Like I say, I never thought this girl would have any interest in me, but apparently I can't tell the difference between when a girl likes me or is flirting with me and when they're just a friend or being nice, this drove my last girlfriend mad apparently.........

What's a man to do???...........Can most people tell the difference??? Do you know when it's just a crush, or what a crush is???

Ladies, it's not as easy as you think.............

[oneeyedreilly]

This is definitely one for the ladies but I for one will be very interested in the answers.

[Lucy Chambers]

I would say that a crush is a passing fancy, usually easily forgotten. If you are still thinking about each other, even after a separation, it is more than a crush.

[naughty_g5]

urban dictionary:


a burning desire to be with someone who you find very attractive and extremely special.

[poggo]

This was brought to my mind earlier by the lovely Sensual Delights.......

What the hell is a crush???

Is it just a passing admiration or infatuation with somone???

I thought I had a crush on a lovely girl I know a while back, but I thought it as just that, a crush, and I never acted in it. We knew each other quite well, spent some time together, enjoyed each others company but never thought she had, or would have any interest in me, I have issues with self confidence etc.......

She's out of the country for the last while but due back soon, and I thought while she was gone the feelings would fade, and they kind of had. I guess I'd just convinced myself that it was just a crush and nothing would ever come of it, but recent her name came up in conversation and a mutual friend, in a kind of passing way said "she had such a crush on you" and it really made me think.........

I'd just put it down to a crush, she really is lovely, a man couldn't help but like her or have a crush on her, she's just that type of girl, but since our friend made the remark I've started thinking about her again. We've had a bit of contact since she was away, initiated by her, kinda out of the blue, I didn't want to bother her when she wasn't around, and I guess I've never stopped thinking about her but now all this had really brought it back into my mind again........

Like I say, I never thought this girl would have any interest in me, but apparently I can't tell the difference between when a girl likes me or is flirting with me and when they're just a friend or being nice, this drove my last girlfriend mad apparently.........

What's a man to do???...........Can most people tell the difference??? Do you know when it's just a crush, or what a crush is???

Ladies, it's not as easy as you think.............

well i guess things start with a crush, this has certainly happened with me, another form of attraction is "unrequited love" once acted upon is gone,, it is i guess like an ideal,,,but this is as u say a murky area for us fellas, I never know when someone likes me, and like you Luther it drives my g/fs crazy,,,,one had to grab me and say "look I like u can we kiss" but in your case Luther this girl sounds like she is very interested,, someone said to me once what is the worst that can happen if u make a move on someone and they reject you....u feel a little stupid for a while but we survive...went on a bit there...so what is a crush????? it is another word we use to hide that we have feelings for someone...a diversion, a defence... thats what i think for what it is worth..





poggo................

[Nicole]

This was brought to my mind earlier by the lovely Sensual Delights.......

What the hell is a crush???

Is it just a passing admiration or infatuation with somone???

I thought I had a crush on a lovely girl I know a while back, but I thought it as just that, a crush, and I never acted in it. We knew each other quite well, spent some time together, enjoyed each others company but never thought she had, or would have any interest in me, I have issues with self confidence etc.......

She's out of the country for the last while but due back soon, and I thought while she was gone the feelings would fade, and they kind of had. I guess I'd just convinced myself that it was just a crush and nothing would ever come of it, but recent her name came up in conversation and a mutual friend, in a kind of passing way said "she had such a crush on you" and it really made me think.........

I'd just put it down to a crush, she really is lovely, a man couldn't help but like her or have a crush on her, she's just that type of girl, but since our friend made the remark I've started thinking about her again. We've had a bit of contact since she was away, initiated by her, kinda out of the blue, I didn't want to bother her when she wasn't around, and I guess I've never stopped thinking about her but now all this had really brought it back into my mind again........

Like I say, I never thought this girl would have any interest in me, but apparently I can't tell the difference between when a girl likes me or is flirting with me and when they're just a friend or being nice, this drove my last girlfriend mad apparently.........

What's a man to do???...........Can most people tell the difference??? Do you know when it's just a crush, or what a crush is???

Ladies, it's not as easy as you think.............

Ahhh Luther I can't imagine not to have a crush on you. When you have a little butterflies in stomach then its crush for sure, you can't stop thinking about person.

[poggo]

Ahhh Luther I can't imagine not to have a crush on you. When you have a little butterflies in stomach then its crush for sure, you can't stop thinking about person.

I have a beehive in my belly when i think of u Nicole.....


(Whispers to Nicole) and me thinks cause u post after me so often u have a crush on me,,,


Poggo,,,,,,

[Nicole]

Same here Poggo , it must be crush


(whispers to poggo) you should step by later I will show you how crush looks like

[samlad]

I say go for it mate! If she says no, you can move on.

[sagitarius133]

hi Luther,

Reading your post made me think of a comment a female colleague told me recently.

first of all you need to know that I'm a foreigner, Belgian to be precise, and that I am working here in Dublin with a lot of other foreigners in a kind of international call center. My female colleague (Dutch) and I were discussing what an impression we had of Irisch people.
She told me that she had some irisch boyfriends but that they all were kind of afraid to really ask her to go a bit further than the simple kiss. She had to take the initiative.
I think you fit well in this image.
So my advice to you would be ... call her and ask her when she's back or when you can visit her, let her know your feelings.
Irisch men are too shy sometimes.