A tough question

[willshedoit]

Of course it's hypocritical to see escorts and then advise someone against becoming an escort. But everyone is a hypocrite sometimes.

Just because you use the services of a plumber does not mean you will encourage someone to be a plumber if you think they are not suited to it.

[El Gordo]

I don't think I would advise either yes or no. That would be a decision for her (or him) to make. I would just point out a few things, some positive and some negative, that might not occur to someone not familiar with the business.

[anon361]

if somebody i knew wanted to become an escort, i would have no problem with it. This person would be an adult and so can make decisions and potential mistakes for him/herself. Whatever they would wanna do is fine by me.

I don't think it's as simple as that, we all know it is a risky job and as with any risky job you are going to voice your concerns, especially if it is high risk, but as you said at the end of te day it is their decision and one would still have to support them after they have made it..

[debest]

I have been with about 7 escorts in the past two years and i still feel the same whether or not the escort was distant or very welcoming.Obviously i have been with one or two that have very distant which makes my feeling worse as i believe that they are not independant.

I'm not going to patronise you or anything.....but a lot of escorts do actually enjoy what they do when the punter is actually polite and charming. So you shouldn't beat yourself up about it.

At least you care whether the girl is there through her own will....a lot of guys don't give a fuck! Others probably go into denial about it.

I cringe looking through a couple of my old reviews. I basically go on a rant in them about how these girls were out to get me, when they probably weren't. That's why I take a couple of days now when writing a bad review for an escort....cool down a bit after blowing my money. I can be a pig sometimes man.....

[thehighwayman]

I have never felt guilty about seeing any escort before or after. That's because I have always been careful in choosing girls who I think to be independent. The well known and reviewed escorts like Alyssa, Brown Sugar, Sweet Cherri, Leah, Mature Abby, English Layla, Elle , Yasmina and many more. For the ones I've seen without reviews I go by their profile and can have a good guess by the way it's written she's independent. I have never been in a situation when I was with an escort and thought she was doing this against her will. There have been one or two that were distant. But those were known independents and it was down to us not clicking. I have been surprised since I started all this the amount of escorts I've seen who really enjoy what they do. You can tell by their friendliness, not watching the clock and the conversations before and after.

Back to the original question would I advise someone I knew to be an escort? I wouldn't say either way as I would leave the decision to her. She's an adult and it's not my decison to make. I would give her the pros and cons and let her make her own mind up. I know alot from seeing escorts and using these websites but it's not up to me to influence someone. If soemone is intent on been an escort they will regardless of what you say. All you can do is tell them the good and the bad of escorting.

I would agree with West that not many would come out of escorting with alot of money. The ones that see 7/8 or more a day only get a fraction of it as their pimp gets the most. The independent girl who sees 3 or 4 a day it's not enough to get rich on I would say with accomodation, flights, outfits, condoms, toiliteries etc. Not to mention what they lose with timewasters.

[debest]

Just because you use the services of a plumber does not mean you will encourage someone to be a plumber if you think they are not suited to it.

Here we go.....the plumber argument. Guy's on here are so sensitive. It is hypocritcal to advise a girl against becoming an escort when your quite often enjoying the company of escorts. Don't get me wrong....I'd advise them against it aswell. But I (like you) am a hypocrite.

[Torturedarc]

I have been with about 7 escorts in the past two years and i still feel the same whether or not the escort was distant or very welcoming.Obviously i have been with one or two that have very distant which makes my feeling worse as i believe that they are not independant.

Ifind that i feel guilty if i have had a previous discussion with an escort before visiting...

[Forrest]

Of course it's hypocritical to see escorts and then advise someone against becoming an escort. But everyone is a hypocrite sometimes.

Ami's point about the feeling of guilt after a punt is interesting. Ami....would you feel that way everytime or just after a punt where the girl seemed distant and like she didn't want to be there??

I agree that it would be hypocritical in those circumstances, but the only poster on this thread that said he would advise against it is Westside who, by his own admission, does not visit escorts. Anon said he would advise against in certain circumstances, if he felt the person lacked the required experience.
There was one occasion where I met a lady who told me that she decided to 'try it out' for a week with her friend who was touring in Dublin. She was a teacher back home, looking for some extra cash in the holidays.
It was obvious to me that she wasn't doing it for the right reasons, and didn't appear to be happy.
I suggested to her that it was a career that didn't suit everyone and she should think long and hard before deciding to continue.

I would advise someone against it if I didn't think they were suitable or likely to be able to handle it, not because I think it's a bad career choice.
I'm sure if you did a poll of the established escorts asking whether they regretted choosing escorting as a career, the majority would say they had no regrets.
Established escorts would be the likes of Leah, Violette, Lynne, Sweet Cherri, Mature Abby, Jasmin, Sexy Sandy, Alyssa, Taylor of Manchester and a lot more besides. I have met all of those ladies and everyone of them was very professional and totally in control of what they were doing. I'm sure they have bad days, but everyone in business has bad days, it comes with the territory. I just hope their good days far outweigh the bad ones.

[willshedoit]

Here we go.....the plumber argument. Guy's on here are so sensitive. It is hypocritcal to advise a girl against becoming an escort when your quite often enjoying the company of escorts. Don't get me wrong....I'd advise them against it aswell. But I (like you) am a hypocrite.

What makes you think I am sensitive. What I am saying is that just because I visit escorts does not mean I would advise a girl to be an escort, or for that matter advise her not to be an escort. My advise would be more about her than the fact that I visit escorts.

[Patricia]

I'll be honest Saoirse, I try my best to see independent ladies but not exclusively...

I think if things continue the way they are, with increased attacks and the guards targetting independent escorts, we are going to see more and more agency escorts in Ireland. The last 10 years it's gone the other way. The Internet made it possible for clients to be very selective and most chose to give their business to independents not agencies and thus agencies went into decline whilst independents flourished, but Ruhama are getting their way of late, the guards are only interested in shutting escorts down, and Ireland is becoming more and more dangerous for independents. In this climate we are going to see independents leaving and pimps moving in. I hope I'm wrong, but unless we can stop the hate campaign being waged against all sex workers by Ruhama, I fear that's the way it is going to go.